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Okay, so here's the story: Just before ds turned 1, he was still almost exclusively nursing as he just didn't want any solids. We did an iron test and it came back that he was slightly anemic. But right around that same time, he started eating solids. He has always been a very healthy eater - eats a variety of healthy foods and lots of them, and still nurses. My ped wanted us to do another iron test to recheck his levels now that he was eating solids. Dh and I talked about it over the course of a few months, and decided that we didn't want to put him through the trauma of another test. He was eating just fine, and didn't show any signs of anemia based on the research we did. This was about a year ago.<br><br>
We have been in for maybe 2 or 3 appts. in the past year, as ds is just very rarely sick. At one of the appointments, our ped brought up the blood test again, and gave us another lab slip. We never went and did the test.<br><br>
I had dh take him in yesterday because I noticed there was what looked like a raw protrusion from his belly button (which turned out to be nothing), and I was with my mom who was having surgery. The ped read dh the riot act for not having done the blood test, basically accusing him of being a neglectful parent. On top of this, ds is 28 months and not talking yet. We had a speech evaluation done at our ped's referral, and their assessment was to check back in a few months, because they think that he just has a rare learning style in which he is only trying to form complex sentences, and will come up to speed rather quickly once it comes together for him. Plus, my sister and I both didn't talk until we were 2.5, and apparently this stuff is hereditary.<br><br>
So we get the blood test done yesterday. Ped's office calls today and says ped wants to set a phone conference to discuss results on Monday, as she isn't in the office today.<br><br>
So I am sitting here trying not to panic - what if he has been severely anemic this whole time, leading to a speech delay and maybe other developmental delays, and we were totally neglectful parents by not having the test done? If everything was fine, wouldn't she just leave a message telling us that? My heart is in my throat as I type this. We just thought that there is so much that everyone wants done these days - all the vaccines, blood tests, hearing tests, speech therapy, etc. etc. It just all seems like so much for a perfectly healthy, active, happy little boy, that we felt okay deciding that he just didn't need another blood test.<br><br>
We waited a year to get the blood test done, so I don't really feel right paging her and demanding that she give me the information immediately, but I am going crazy with worry all of a sudden.<br><br>
So, was I a totally neglectful parent, and you are just astounded that I would let this happen? Or do you think that everything is probably fine? Be honest, I can take it.
 

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<span style="font-size:medium;">Calm down!</span><br><br>
The docto is probably power tripping you. Don't borrow trouble. You will know one way or another on Monday but I expect he is fine.
 

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We've had a Dr call us to schedual an appointment just to tell us that lab test came back okay. I wouldn't worry until you hear what the results are.
 

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I agree with Kylee's mom and especialy kama'aina mama, there is likely nothing wrong and the doctor is just going on a power trip.<br><br>
As for the speech delay try not to worry. My eldest barely spoke until she was close to 4 years old and is now at the top of her class and has an excelent vocabulary. These things work themselves out and ARE hereditary btw. My second was the exact same way and so was I.<br><br>
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Ocean,<br><br>
I agree with the other posters in the you shouldn't worry until you have reason to. My doctor does the same thing to me about scheduling phone conferences JUSt to tell me everything is ok. It drives me batty!<br><br>
As for being a neglectful parent, we do what we know to be right at the time we do it. We can only use the knowledge we have at the time. I applaud you for sticking to your guns about not getting the test for an obviously healthy child. If he is anemic just take the next step in treatment.<br><br>
At 28 months Kailey was not speaking much at all, and now seems to have the same developemental technique as your son. She does say 2 or three word sentences, but 5 or 6, and it just comes out jumbled. Trust me, it's just the genius in them <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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First of all, not having an apparently healthy child checked for anemia, especially when the first test showed only slight anemia, is NOT neglectful,nohow no way. The doc is wrong. Even if your child was anemic, if the child is not exhibiting, why get a test? Maybe to make more money, or to cover the doc's butt. ALso, speech delays of this sort are quite normal, if your mom's intuition is steady, dont worry on it. Good luck, and hugs to you.
 

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Thank you all so much. I can't tell you how much it helps to hear from other like minded moms that I have not been terribly neglectful of my son's health! And I am so relieved to hear that docs often make appts to go over normal test results. We've only ever had the one blood test done, and we went over it at our regularly scheduled appt., so I've never dealt with this before.<br><br>
I really like our ped because she is a family practitioner and because she is knowledgeable about and supportive of homeopathic and other alternative treatments. Visits are long and thorough, and she (begrudgingly) accepts the fact that we have so far chosen not to fax. Oh, and you can actually page HER after hours, not a nursing helpline, and you can always get an appt within 24 hours. But I have seen that she can sometimes be on bit of a power trip. She has done it when trying to talk me into vaxing, and it seems now with the blood tests. I also know that our parenting philosophies clash (I'm pretty sure she's into CIO and against cosleeping), but she doesn't bring it up and I don't ask, so it tends to work out just fine.<br><br>
Anyway, thank you again for reassuring me that I shouldn't worry so much about it. Seriously, it has helped tremendously.
 

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Oceanbaby--how did it go with the doctor today? How are your son's levels? Been thinking about you....<br><br>
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I know that for confedentiality reasons doctors never leave results of tests on message machine. The first time my ob left a similar message about my pap smear I freaked but turned out the test was normal.<br><br>
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Well, you were right. I talked with her today - his levels are all fine. His iron reserves are low, meaning he could easily become anemic should he get sick or something like that, so we talked about ways to increase those, but she said that whatever we were doing to keep on doing, because it's obviously working. I hope she remembers that next time we disagree!<br><br>
And really, thank you all again. I don't have many mom friends IRL, and you all have become a real lifeline. I don't know what I would do without MDC!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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Hi, I'm glad your sons iron levels look fine. I am surprised you needed to go to the lab to get his iron levels checked. My pediatrician can do it in her office - just a little prick to his big toe, blot the blood on a special test strip and they have the iron level with in a minute. No trauma for the baby, and no waiting.<br><br>
We've found lots of natural food based ways to raise our sons iron levels. Watermelon is a favorite!<br><br>
Christine
 
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