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What are your plans for this LO?<br><br>
We still co-sleep with DS and never had the room to create a nursery for him, so part of me really wants to create one this time. Not knowing gender, it's not very practical because I would rather go gender specific, not to mention it's a waste of money anyway.<br><br>
Right now we're about to set up his crib as a toddler bed beside ours (supposed to happen tonight) and transition him into it, but we have a latex mattress and it's so comfortable... his crib mattress is one of those cheap (well it still cost almost $100 so not cheap, just feels that way) plastic covered things and isn't exactly comfortable imo. He'd honestly rather sleep flat on the floor <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> but maybe he will be all about it once it's part of his own bed.<br><br>
If the baby wakes him up, then I have a feeling he and daddy will be sleeping in the 2nd bedroom/office/playroom on an air mattress <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent">
 

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We're in the same situation. We have the toddler bed pushed up against the wall, then our California King. Dd starts off sleeping in the toddler bed then inevitably rolls into our bed. I think we'll see how it goes with the new baby, but the current plan is to add him/her into the mix. The disturbing each other thing is a bit of a worry, so dh and I might sleep separately with one dc each (me with baby). We just finished remodeling what is supposed to be dd's room, but I am using it as an office right now. I'm thinking we might put a rocker and some of dd's toys in it for now and call it her room even though she won't sleep there.<br>
Most likely we will probably play it by ear after baby arrives and just keep trying things until something works. Good luck!
 

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Good luck with DS!<br><br>
I have been giving this a lot of thought. Our housing situation is quite cramped (one bedroom in my parents home for right now) but half their basement is being turned into an apartment with 2 small bedrooms, 1 long skinny living room/breakfast area, and 1 full bathroom, no kitchen. I know that our extra room that should really be an office will be a nursery because (silly and childish as I feel about the situation) I really don't want to have the cosleeping battle with my mom. I'd much rather just have my nursery/playroom (Noah's Ark theme) sit empty at night then listen to a schpeel about how the marriage bed is sacred. (If only she knew what I did before marriage...*sigh*) I'll have my bassinet bedside for the first few months, (it's "proper" when the infant is breastfeeding) and then when it's time to move the crib into our room we can have the cosleeping AND "extended" bfing fight at the same time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> My mother is a wonderful person, and suprisingly aquieced to our desire to HB and has been very respectful about our choices, but I've heard the cosleeping tirade one too many times. And she thinks once babies are eating solids that they should be weaned. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> What she doesn't know won't hurt her.<br><br>
Lol. I am kind-of excited about the nursery though. It's going to be gender-neutral blues, greens, yellows, with animal themes, loosely based on Noah's ark. I have a QUESTION: I'd like to paint my hand-me-down crib (and all the baby's second-hand furniture) in the Swedish folk style with the bright blues and canary yellows with flower garlands and birds. Kind of like this:<a href="http://www.painted-house.net/olkastsm.jpg" target="_blank">http://www.painted-house.net/olkastsm.jpg</a> IS IT SAFE? What kind of paints should I use?
 

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We've never had a nursery and don't have a crib - we cosleep until the baby (well, toddler by then!) is ready for a toddler bed in his/her own room. Our DDs now sleep all night in their own beds in the room they share. DS starts out in a toddler bed in his own room and comes into our bed at some point in the middle of the night, sometimes nurses/sometimes not but *usually* only wakes up that once per night (finally! He took forever to stop waking up every couple hours at night!) In fact one night last week he stayed in his bed all night for the first time ever!<br><br>
So, the new baby will of course be in bed with us and DS may or may not be too for at least part of the night, depending on how much his sleeping pattern changes in the next few months. I hope's he's completely nightweaned by then - he's close now. I would never want him to wean completely yet - I'm used to tandem-nursing and nursing until at least 3-4 years old, but as far as night nursings go, I would MUCH prefer that to be kept to one baby!!<br><br>
ETA: Nerdymom, I'm sure you know this already, but be very careful with a hand-me-down crib (that is if you think you'll actually end up using it at all - LOL) The safety regs on those things change over time so depending on how old it is, the bars may be the wrong width apart, there may be unsafe gaps or dangerous parts used, etc. Could even be lead paint on it! And cribs are often recalled so check that too first! I don't know if you meant hand-me-down as in from a friend who just had a baby last year, or as in from your great-grandma's day, so just throwing this out there but it may be irrelevant...
 

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We will probably cosleep for around a year. With DS#1 he slept with us until #2 was born (20 months) and DS#2 was around a year (he was way too wiggly to keep in bed anymore after he weaned lol). So we will have the crib set up like a cosleeper attached to the bed from the start. When we finally move him out we will put #1 and #2 in a room together and this one will have #2's old room. It is painted with a Winnie the Pooh theme, complete with "Silly Old Bear" in vinyl on the wall, we will probably stay with that theme.
 

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We have a small room off the master bedroom that was the "nursery", but DD hardly used it at all. She coslept until recently when at the age of not quite 2, she decided she wanted to start sleeping in the crib. She just one night said she was ready for bed and pointed to the crib. She slept in there for about 2 months while we got her "big girl" bed installed in her sister's room and she's now in there. So we have the nursery open again, but are pretty sure we'll be cosleeping again.
 

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Coming from a veteran co-sleeper, we will again (what am I saying??? We still cosleep<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">) I feel very strongly that parenting happens at night as well, and I remember being a child snuggling close to my mom and feeling very safe. These are some very comforting memories for me, so I want to give that to my children. Ok, so yes, they are 6 and 4yrs now. They have their own room and beds. When we transitioned them , I felt it was only natural for them to co-sleep with each other and that helped. Now that DS1 is a bit bigger, they wanted their own space so they sleep seperately but in the same room. We have an extra bedroom to split them if they wanted but they like being together. Although, they do start out in their own beds, by early morning both are in "our" bed. I do enjoy this time, because as Riley (ds1) gets older, he doesn't want to be held/hugged all the time so I sneak it in when I can <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
As for planning a nursery, I did this with ds1 and never used it. I do have to admit it was pretty to look at<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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With both of my first two, we had a room for them, even though they didn't sleep in it - heck, ds still doesn't sleep in it!<br><br>
However... this one will have her toys in ds's room as well as some of her clothes, and then her changing table and the rest of her clothes in our bedroom - which is where she will sleep.<br><br>
We'll reevaluate when she's two or so, and redecorate a bit. Hopefully ds will still want to share with her, as I don't know that having her share with dd will ever work - the 8 yo age difference and all. We probably *could* plan to find another house, with four bedrooms, but we love our house and have no desire to move.. and figure sharing rooms never killed anyone.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">ETA: Nerdymom, I'm sure you know this already, but be very careful with a hand-me-down crib (that is if you think you'll actually end up using it at all - LOL) The safety regs on those things change over time so depending on how old it is, the bars may be the wrong width apart, there may be unsafe gaps or dangerous parts used, etc. Could even be lead paint on it! And cribs are often recalled so check that too first! I don't know if you meant hand-me-down as in from a friend who just had a baby last year, or as in from your great-grandma's day, so just throwing this out there but it may be irrelevant...</div>
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Yes, we've already considered that, no worries! Lol we're being very careful about all the second hand stuff we're collecting. I mean, there are so many practically new baby things floating around, it's easy to scoop up something in mint condition for nothing (as in a hand-me-down) or next to nothing (yardsale anyone?!)
 

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We don't cosleep here, but my son has his own room and the baby will have hers too. We do have the new baby room in and I bought a great cradle at a yardsale (go nerdymom!) since b*tchy SIL insisted I give our loaned PacknPlay to my SIL with triplets despite our impending new baby.
 

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DD still co-sleeps with us and will probably continue after the baby comes as long as it doesn't distract her or keep her up. This baby will also co-sleep with us. We have a bedroom set up for DD and will put the chest of drawers for the baby in there. DD has a twin size bed so if she decides she wants to sleep in her bedroom she can (its been really hot in our bedroom and hers is really cool so she might want to). I never used the changing table for DD so Im going to sale it and buy some stuff I need for the baby. The crib I will probably keep for a little bit and sidecar it up to our bed. If that doesn't work Ill sale it as well. When we move into the three bedroom (we move in October) we will be using the third room as an office/playroom.
 

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We will co-sleep with the new baby for a good long while. We are currently transitioning DD2 to co-sleeping with DD1 in their own room. DD1 is transitioning from co-sleeping with DSD. She now has her bed all to herself. It is going so-so right now. DD's are having to get used to the idea of it not being playtime at bedtime. We should be good to go by the time the new one comes.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">If the baby wakes him up, then I have a feeling he and daddy will be sleeping in the 2nd bedroom/office/playroom on an air mattress <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"></div>
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I wouldn't worry too much about baby disturbing your ds. I found that young kids can sleep through anything. My older ds hardly ever woke up. He slept through the crying, diaper changes, illnesses, etc. If he did open his eyes he just turned around and closed them.<br><br><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Ok, so yes, they are 6 and 4yrs now.</div>
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Another "extended" co-sleeper! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> We just moved my boys into bunk beds two weeks ago. They are 7 and 4. Sometimes I sleep in their room with them. They have been sleeping in our bed on the weekends these past two weeks. For me, moving my dc into their own bed at any time before 4 would just not happen. Heck, the only reason we got the boys bunk beds is because we only have a queen. So since my 2nd ds was born it's been 4 of us in the queen bed. It's getting tight now that they are getting bigger. DH pointed out to me that we would not be able to fit three kids and ourselves into our bed. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> If we had a bigger bed I would not have moved the boys.<br><br>
As for a nursery. No. We don't have one. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
What I really want is a king mattress and a tres tria pillow!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Another "extended" co-sleeper! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> We just moved my boys into bunk beds two weeks ago. They are 7 and 4. Sometimes I sleep in their room with them. They have been sleeping in our bed on the weekends these past two weeks. For me, moving my dc into their own bed at any time before 4 would just not happen. Heck, the only reason we got the boys bunk beds is because we only have a queen. So since my 2nd ds was born it's been 4 of us in the queen bed. It's getting tight now that they are getting bigger. DH pointed out to me that we would not be able to fit three kids and ourselves into our bed. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> If we had a bigger bed I would not have moved the boys.<br><br>
What I really want is a king mattress and a tres tria pillow!</div>
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This is exactly us!!!!Oh, please mattress fairy come and bring me a king (bed that is<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">)!!! The boys were doing pretty well in their own room (falling asleep I mean) I'd stay in there with them until they fell asleep and then sneak out. But, man oh man, ever since I got pregnant I don't have the energy to sit with them, I'd rather just lay in our bed and let them fall asleep with me. Then DH moves them, although he stopped doing this since ds1 is over 50lbs and sleeps like a rock!!! So now, we are all squished again! Oh, well I love my squishy bed<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> (ok, not ALL the time though<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">)
 

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We are all gonna co-sleep with all 3 kiddos.
 

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I cosleep with my two toddlers. We co-slept from the beginning with both of them. Co-sleeping with a newborn and toddler wasn't that hard, really. DH works nights, so sending them to another room has never been an option. I will most likely be co-sleeping with both old kids (ages 2 and 1) and the new baby. The toddlers will be on one side of me, and the baby on the other. I do have a toddler bed next to our bed if DS wants to sleep in it. We don't have room for a nursery, so it's never been an issue for us.
 

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Oh, I'm so glad you posted this thread! This is my first baby, so I'm not sure exactly how it will work out, but we're planning on at least co-sleeping. Not sure about the bed-sharing yet, but baby will definitely be in a cradle or crib in our room. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
I am starting to get annoyed at how many people ask me if I've fixed up a room for baby yet as if that's the most important thing on earth! I've been feeling like I"m a little weird, since we don't really plan on doing that. A) I'm lazy and don't want to redecorate B) I don't believe a tiny newborn much cares what the room looks like C) We want baby to be with us, not banished to a nursery across the house! Why have a baby if you don't want it around, is my feeling.<br><br>
We have an extra room that we will use to store baby's things, since our room isn't big enough for any extras. And I really don't have any idea what it will actually be like when baby arrives. Maybe we'll want baby in the bed, maybe we'll want baby in another room. I just want to remain flexible, but I just don't feel a whole decorated nursery is essential to have a happy healthy baby.
 

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We have a nursery but really never used it except for a few naps. Its classic pooh so it works well either way although the walls are pink, so if this is a boy we will probably go to a lime green or something. DD has co slept with us from the beginning even though I really did not want her to. Now I couldnt have it any other way. People keep tellinfg us we have to get her out of our bed and I just keep saying no. Were comfortable with how we sleep now, but I am worried about adding another little one. We only have a queen bed and its brand new so we cant get a new one. My only idea is to get a twin bed and add it on to us to make more room. Between me, dh and dd we just do not have enough space to add an even smaller baby to the mix so we have to figure something out!
 

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We plan on getting a king bed and cosleeping. We might set up that Arm's Reach Cosleeper that's in the closet...
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">People keep tellinfg us we have to get her out of our bed and I just keep saying no.</div>
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People have been telling me this about DD since she was 6 months old. I just ignore them now and so does DH.
 
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