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Anyone here not setting up a nursery? We're planning on having the Bumble in a bassinet next to the bed for the first few months, and we really want to move closer to work... so we haven't done a thing about a nursery. However, this is our first, and really, really, longed-for baby, and we've been dreaming about nurseries for years... will we miss the boat and be so tired and stressed with a new baby that we won't do it if we don't do it ahead of time? Right now, if we stay here, we only have a loft over the living room as a potential nursery. If we move, we would have a bedroom, although it would probably double as the guest room if big enough.<br><br>
When are we just really behind in this?<br>
Anyone have cute non-typical nursery ideas?
 

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One thing I learned from being a veteran is that creating the perfect nursery is a complete waste! Our #4 dd will be residing in our room for the foreseeable future. I have never felt safe having them sleep in their own rooms. Plus, with breastfeeding we co-sleep alot! I am setting up 1/2 of our room for her with all of her things we have gotten so far.
 

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Oh, we're so not bothering!! DD is only very recently sleeping in 'her own room', and still comes into our bed about 2am most nights - that's at almost 2.5. So really it would be a total waste of time and effort to prepare a nursery IMO! Now this baby might actually be a good sleeper and be happy to sleep on its own - who knows! (I certainly hope so!!) But they'll be sleeping in our room for at least the first 6 months anyway, as per recent recommendations.<br><br>
We're also renting, and trying to sell our flat in order to be able to buy a place of our own, so I don't know how long we'll be here, and I really don't want to go to a lot of bother only to have to move a few months later.<br><br>
But I can tell you that I'm really looking forward to decorating a room for DD *with* her when we finally get a place of her own - because she's old enough to have her own tastes and preferences, YK?
 

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We are not bothering with a nursery. We're planning to co-sleep, and will be getting a dresser that will double as a changing table for the babe, and we will be getting a co-sleeper to sidecar on our bed since we're not sure how comfortable we will be with the baby actually IN the bed with us, but we have limited space in our duplex, and are kind of... well, too cheap to spend money decorating a nursery. I think they're adorable but it's money we're rather spend towards taking a trip before the baby is born, or save so we can be more financially comfortable after the LO gets here.<br><br>
I think the only baby-specific furniture we're getting will be what I mentioned above, and probably a glider/rocker. We are trying to be minimalists. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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We're not doing a nursery! We're cosleeping and really, don't need all of the junk. Even if we had a 4 bedroom home we wouldn't set one up.. it just doesn't seem at all necessary.
 

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We're still looking for a house to rent, but if there is room, I want to do a Montessori child room for Edie. We cosleep, but I never did a nursery with my boys and since she's our last, I'd really like to this time. Also, I want to be able to put her down for naps and I don't want to put my mattress back on the floor (after 5 years of that with the boys!) Plus, she'll be crawling this winter and walking next spring/summer, and I want her to have a safe place to play (I'm worried my boys are not the best about picking up Legos/marbles/coins).<br><br>
So, if we have room (a 3BR with office as opposed to a 2BR + office, or 3BR), she's getting a room with a toddler mattress on the floor, a mirror on the wall, a mobile, a cozy rug, a low shelf with a few toys in baskets and books, and her clothes in the closet. When she gets a bit bigger I'll put a little table and chair in there.
 

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We're not doing a nursery either. DS is still sleeping with us full time with no end in sight and so his nursery/room is pretty much a parking spot for toys. This baby will also cosleep. Not to mention we're moving out of state again in February so there's really no point in putting all that work into a nursery regardless.
 

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DD has her own room, but I was kind of behind the ball on getting things ready, and she arrived before everything was set up. She slept with us the first 6 months anyway in a co-sleeper, and slept in arms a lot, so having a nursery didn't matter that much. By the time she moved into her room, I had things pretty well decorated. So, rushing around to set up a nursery could be kind of a waste.<br><br>
BUT.... if having a really cute nursery is important to you, and its something that you would enjoy putting the time (and don't forget money) into, then by all means, go for it! Some mothers really enjoy that preparation process, and its fun to show off to the female family and friends crowd <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
If nothing else, for the first 6 months or so, the nursery was an established place that I could go to pump milk while DH/DD were sleeping (I was working full time, and had to do extra pump sessions at home). It was where DH would take DD if she was awake at night and didn't need nursing, and it was where we had all her clothes and diaper changing station.<br><br>
I wouldn't be worried about doing things "too late" and having this be another stress in life though <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Enjoy your pregnancy however you feel like!
 

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We didn't have a nursery with our first and as we are now living in an rv full time we still aren't doing one. We are still cosleeping with our 19 month old so to make room in bed for baby, we made a little bed for the toddler that's snug between the wall and our bed. Nurseries are for the parents and to show them off-babies don't need them.
 

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Same here: no nursery. Never had one for DS, never missed it,never needed it. And we're still co-sleeping. Will do the same thing as Dahlea and put an extra bed between ours and the wall for DS so the baby can sleep with us.
 

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Me neither, co-sleeping. We are looking for a dresser/changing table and a rocker, that's about it. I adore the concept of a nursery, such cuteness! But we have no room for one and its not really important to me. I get more excited with the idea of creating a magical kids room, where our kid will be old enough to engage with what we created. That'll be a fun project, <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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No nursery here. We only have a 2 bedroom and haven't decided what to about that-move or remodel. So we're putting off the decision for awhile. I don't think either of my two kids were out of our room before 1.5 anyway so I guess there's time <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I would love to have a beautiful nursery but gosh I just don't think we'd use it.
 

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I did a nice nursery for my now 21mo dd, but we didn't use it as much as I thought we would. It has a crib, dresser/changing table combo, glider rocker, bookshelf, etc. We hadn't planned on cosleeping (other than the first few months in a bassinet the same room) but we ended up cosleeping anyway. The nursery has mostly been a storage room for all of baby's stuff (bathtub, bassinet, clothes, toys, books, etc). Now it's a becoming more of a playroom. I'd love to get dd transitioned to her own bed in there before the baby comes, though!
 

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My bedroom is really small, so I needed a place for baby stuff. I painted the walls in the room because they were a REALLY dark green. My parents bought a dresser, crib, and changing table. The crib wasnt used until DS was around 9 months old. We co-cleep, but I cant do co-sleeping for long. I am a sensitive sleeper and by nine months, I was the crankiest bitch on the planet. I needed sleep.<br><br>
Anyway, in the beginning, the only thing I used in DS's room was the dresser, closet, and changing table. I love having a changing table. I know lots of people dont use them, but I am much happier when I have a place for things. The changing table gives me spots for all the cloth diapering stuff and it is way easy for me. We still use the changing table with DS, who is 26 months. He is only 22 pounds, so it's easy to do with him.<br><br>
I kept a rocker in our room, but really, it sat in the middle of the small open space at night and had to be shoved to the side during the day. It was always in the way. Not loking forward to that again. I also hung out in the living room a lot, where I have a big cushioned rocker.<br><br>
I liked having a room set up for ds, I liked it being organized. I didint want baby junk all over the place. We are organized type of people. With this little one, she will eventually move in with DS in his room. I have all her clothes hung up and gave her two drawers inthe dresser. I am going to set up a changing station on my dresser in my bedroom. I imagine she might move rooms sonner than ds did, so I dont turn into such a grumpy person this time.<br><br>
I like the idea of co-sleeping, I'm all for it. But it just didnt work well for me. I am glad I had another room for ds. We both started sleeping better. That being said, I know it is good for the baby, and plan to do it again with the new baby. Also, my ds had HORRIBLE problems with reflux and allergies and eczema. Even after we were able to take care of a lot of the issues with diet change in myself, he had developed poor sleep habits. So, my *hope* is that baby girl wont have these problems and that maybe co-sleeping will be a little easier on me.
 

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We'll be cosleeping too, but this is my first baby and I want a nursery. There, I said it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
And anyway our bedroom is very small, so we need space for baby's things. I figure the crib and bedding might be a bit of an extravagance (though I bet she will at least take naps there), but the dresser and shelves we will use as child furniture for some time.
 

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We set up more of a child's room than a nusery for DD #1. I did a moon/star theme that is really pretty neutral (painted walls and a wallpaper strip), so that it wouldn't be dated for an older child. I needed a spot for the crib (we co-sleep, so crib was mostly for naps), changing table, baby clothing, diapers, toys, books, bouncers, slings, etc. I wasn't willing to have my space (the bedroom) taken over by baby stuff, so that worked for us. Also, the room that we choose for that was a chocolate brown study, so it really did need revamping to work for a kids room.<br><br>
Baby #2 is going to be sharing that space, so I'm not too worried about setting stuff up. All I need to do is set up the crib and either make space for the baby clothing in the current fruniture or figure out about getting some drawers for the closet or something similar for the baby's clothing. I would like to have a spot for the rocker too, but I'm not so sure it will fit what with DD #1 twin bed in there and whatnot.<br><br>
Do not feel badly if you don't want a nusury. My DD was easily over a year before she realized her room was decorated. And if you are moving soon, I think making a room into a nursury is not the best idea since potential buyers might not have young kids, and that means they just see something else they have to paint/remodel. Just figure out where all the baby stuff/clothing is going to end up and call it done. If you really want to set up a cute room at the new house, do it when you move! It is so much easier to do rooms when there is no furniture in them. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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We set up a construction themed nursery and are having a blast putting it together. It's our first and we had a 3rd bedroom and it was important to us to have one. We'll see how much use it gets, I guess <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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No nursery here. I'd like to get a dresser for the baby so I can keep using the extra dresser to store my boys' off-season stuff, but we'll just put that, along with our cloth-diapering shelf in our room. I'm not sure how long we'll be living here, but eventually (18-30 months) we'll move my office out of the third bedroom and set that up for the then-toddler. Until then, the baby will just be in our bed with us.
 

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We won't be doing a nursery either and this thread is full of great ideas. We are also expecting our first. Part of our lack of nursery is living in a one bedroom home and will stay here for at least another year.<br><br>
Our focus has been on making our entire home (and lives) more family friendly, this seems to be sufficiently appeasing the desire for making a sweet little nursey. And the payoff is good too, since we get an entire sweet little house!<br><br>
As many others have also mentioned, we'll also be co-sleeping and dresser/changing table combo-ing. We're also trying to locate areas to make into baby friendly Montessori style spaces that will fit in with the rhythm of our everyday lives in out tiny space. Its a challenge and its fun. Since we're not buying a bunch of stuff for a nursery we are able to upgrade some of our "make-do" cheap furniture for pieces that are more beautiful and efficient and in line with our style that we'll be happy to live with for the rest of our lives/pass down to the kiddos eventually. And all these things feel special becuase they are part of our preparation for life as a family. I was worried I'd miss having a nursery (even though I knew I'd never leave a baby in one) but I don't miss it at all.<br><br>
Good luck with your space and congrats on your little one.
 

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yay! i'm so glad to hear all the mommas not doing nurseries. all my friends/co-workers are asking if i've started on my nursery yet and i'm like "we're not having one" and i get these incredulous looks like i'm a horrible mother or crazy or both. for me, i don't see the point since we intend to co-sleep and we want to be minimalists with baby stuff. i have a low enough dresser we can change her on and a bookshelf near it that i think i'll put her clothes in unless i find an amazing second hand dresser...<br>
part of me is drawn in by beautiful nurseries and makes me want one but i would rather spend that money someplace else, like a weekend away or food. i tend to get overwhelmed by decorating spaces and DH doesn't care either way, so it seems easier to not worry about it until she wants her own room then we can convert the office.
 
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