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My ds is much wilder than my dd was at this age.<br><br>
I have almost had it. He stands on his head to nurse and pushes me away with his feet while clamped onto to nurse and he chomps down- it is like some kind of torture- the pain. He also almost rips the opposite nipple off or pulls my hair, grabs inside my nose and twists with his fingernails dug in. He never does anything like this when he's not nursing!!!!!!!!!!<br><br>
I am feeling abused. he will do this for an hour trying to nap, then not nap and I am scratched up and in pain from being gnawed on and pummelled.<br><br>
I haven't many warm fuzzies left- he nurses all night and chews on me as well. I have fled and told dh to just take him so I could sit and cry. I am so worn out.<br><br>
I really need to nurse him to at least 2- (he has eczema) and since he's my last, planned on nursing him as long as he wants. I have had it though. I'm cranky and feeling abused.
 

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I am so sorry to hear how bad you are feeling! I have a 15 month old ds, and there are times I could just throw him out the window when he is nursing. It was so much easier to nurse him when he was little, and he would just lie there!<br><br>
Have you tried putting him in a sling to nurse? It might contain him a little bit. I sometimes put my hand on my other breast to keep my ds from pinching, picking, stabbing, poking, etc. my other nipple, because that just drives me crazy!<br><br>
Have you tried gettting him to nap in the car or stroller? Even if it is just a few days a week, you get a rest from being mauled at nap time.<br><br>
I have the same issues, particularly at night, and I too have ended up in tears. I just keep telling myself that one day he will sleep (although that doesn't stop me feeling angry and upset at night).<br><br>
Hang in there - you are being a great mom for nursing your ds for so long. And don't forget that it is ok to get upset about it sometimes! And if you can get a break, even if just for a few hours, ask your dh to take your kids out and have a nap yourself, or a bath, or read a book, or watch tv, or.......
 

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I agree, it is good to let your dh take over when you have had it.<br><br>
Trying to get a toddler to nap can be so frustrating. Nursing for and hour, then they are rested and you are a wreck and the nap is out the window--arrgh!<br><br>
We used to do car naps when needed, we called them cruisin for a snoozin.<br><br>
Now, when your ds is not in the mood to nurse, and you are both in good moods or say, driving , talk to him about his nursing manners. It is not too early to teach him about respecting others personal space and how his actions can physically hurt others. he may understand more than you think.<br><br>
Read <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/reading.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="reading"> Mothering Your Nursing Toddler for more ideas. And:<br><br><a href="http://www.kellymom.com/bf/bfextended/ebf-links.html#manners" target="_blank">http://www.kellymom.com/bf/bfextende...s.html#manners</a>
 

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Thanks for the replies. I will read those articles on manners- I have already read Mothering Your Nursing toddler until it is dog-eared. I am not going to wean- I guess I just needed some ideas/help to get me throught his.<br><br>
Thanks for being there and understanding. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Some days (and lots of nights) I was almost loosing it--nursing CONSTANTLY. One thing that helped me was only letting him nurse while we're laying down--even during the day. That forced us both to relax--plus him doing gymnastics was killing my nipples. We nurse on demand still, its just we have limits when it comes to him pinching, hitting, and rolling around.
 

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I just want to second DaryLLL's advice. I really think that nursing manners are crucial. For the record I'm nursing a 2 year 4 month old and a 4month old. Everyone has their own limits but for me nursing is about snuggling and unwinding. Not jumping, twisting twiddling poking hmmm wha telse do they like to do lol. So for my 2 year old when she started to be more active if she was wiggling when she wanted to nurse I would put her down and play with her. When she asked again we'd try again. It really only took about a week for her to figure it out. If she wanted to twiddle my other nipple I would say that hurts here you can hold mama's hand or a soft toy etc. Now at 2 if she starts wanting to play I ask if you want to play or nurse. If she says nurse then I remind her to be gentle with mommy if play then she gets down and plays.<br>
With my dd (4 months) we don't have these problems yet but as they come up I think I will deal with them the same way. We hold hands instead of twiddling etc. I hear alot of moms complain about twiddling and other not so gentle nursing habits, and I think sometimes we have to look at the situation from a different perspective would you let this behavior happen to another person? If no then why do you let it happen to you. I hope that makes sense. And like I said before everyone has their own limits, for me I need my little ones to respect my body and realize that they don't have to hurt me to confort themselves.<br>
I hope that helps feel free of course to ignore its just what works for my family and every family is different<br>
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try this:<br><br>
nurse first, food second.<br><br>
as much as you can, try to sit or lie down and nurse him while he is actually hungry. then, when he is full of milk, let him eat food.<br><br>
this may reduce the acrobatic, not really hungry, not tired enough nursing.<br><br>
offer him water throughout the day, too.<br><br>
my kids are more acrobatic when their tummys are bothering them. they may be trying to get enough liquid to process all the food. enough liquid to get the poop out.<br><br>
observe. when he is most acrobatic, is a poop soon to follow?<br><br>
my son has the hair tangling fettish, too. if he pulls my hair and won't let go, i pull his until he lets go. may be alittle primitive, but he gets the point.<br><br>
also, for excema and intestinal discomfort, give him daily acidopholus supplement. you take it, too. it helps us. eat a no whites, whole food diet. that will make a big difference.<br><br>
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I could've written your post! I think I really need someone to tell me that I'm not depriving my DS of something by not letting him twiddle, claw, yank, all that stuff - since it's so obvious that he enjoys it! He gets especially upset when I don't want to let him do it when we're laying down for him to go to sleep. He just cries and cries! Hopefully working on it during the day will help at naptime and bedtime too.<br><br>
No suggestions for you but lots and lots of sympathy!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 
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