Hey Darci,
All I can say is I was glad to see the title of your post because i'm the same way. Especially the part about how you're getting tired of your own self not being in the mood. i actually remember the last time I was ITM, and it was many moons ago. It felt so FANTASTIC. That's why I know that right now I'm pretty damn miserable in this regard.
DD just turned 12 months old. She sleeps in our room, right next to our bed in playpen, but often is in our bed, too, whenever she wants to be. I know one thing, my nipples used to be my FAVORITE part about being stimulated and now it's ANNOYING if my DH tries to initiate ML with that. One thing we've tried is other kinds of stimulation, like a back rub. ALso, we tend to put DD to bed and then watch a movie, relishing in our 'freetime' while DD is sleeping soundly. BUt, the downside is that when the movie's over and it's time for us to go to bed, we're exhausted from raising DD and from staying up too late and getting up too early with DD. So, I'm suggesting that we skip the movie once in a while and instead set aside time to GIO, saving our little energy reserves for that at least once a week, if not twice (not ready for twice yet, if you know what I mean).
Basically, I am suggesting that you look at your routine and all the other factors which may be contributing to your libido beyond nursing - exhaustion has to be one of them, right? stress? needing new ways of being stimulated and feeling good since nursing numbs the nipples (a blessing for us concerning the baby, but not concerning the hubby)? And just try to make some changes. Of course, I'm suggesting this before actually trying it out myself. I litterally JUST made this suggestion this morning to DH!!! He was really glad about it (understandably) because he wants me to enjoy myself, too.
Good luck and I hope other people write and give us ideas/support!
zuri'smom
All I can say is I was glad to see the title of your post because i'm the same way. Especially the part about how you're getting tired of your own self not being in the mood. i actually remember the last time I was ITM, and it was many moons ago. It felt so FANTASTIC. That's why I know that right now I'm pretty damn miserable in this regard.
DD just turned 12 months old. She sleeps in our room, right next to our bed in playpen, but often is in our bed, too, whenever she wants to be. I know one thing, my nipples used to be my FAVORITE part about being stimulated and now it's ANNOYING if my DH tries to initiate ML with that. One thing we've tried is other kinds of stimulation, like a back rub. ALso, we tend to put DD to bed and then watch a movie, relishing in our 'freetime' while DD is sleeping soundly. BUt, the downside is that when the movie's over and it's time for us to go to bed, we're exhausted from raising DD and from staying up too late and getting up too early with DD. So, I'm suggesting that we skip the movie once in a while and instead set aside time to GIO, saving our little energy reserves for that at least once a week, if not twice (not ready for twice yet, if you know what I mean).
Basically, I am suggesting that you look at your routine and all the other factors which may be contributing to your libido beyond nursing - exhaustion has to be one of them, right? stress? needing new ways of being stimulated and feeling good since nursing numbs the nipples (a blessing for us concerning the baby, but not concerning the hubby)? And just try to make some changes. Of course, I'm suggesting this before actually trying it out myself. I litterally JUST made this suggestion this morning to DH!!! He was really glad about it (understandably) because he wants me to enjoy myself, too.
Good luck and I hope other people write and give us ideas/support!
zuri'smom
