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In the last 6 months, I've had 2 miscarriages and I can't help but think that maybe my nursing my 33 month old ds has something to do with them. I totally dismissed the idea after the first one, but now I keep wondering. He doesn't even nurse very much, he had a nursing strike at 11 months and hasn't nursed except in bed ever since, some nights he doesn't nurse at all anymore.<br><br>
Most days I'd like to let him wean when he's ready, especially since he seems to be well on the way to that, and I often wonder how mothers deal with kids who aren't nursing and won't go to sleep, but I also really don't want to risk another miscarriage. Should I try to encourage him to wean? I don't know what has caused the miscarriages, but I'm afraid to take a chance on another one. On the other hand, the thought of weaning him brings tears to my eyes.<br><br>
I just don't know what to do for the best.
 

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Lisa-Marie,<br><br>
I know you want to find the reasons for your miscarriages, but there was really nothing you could have done to prevent them. It seems like your first one was an early miscarriage, I assume the second one was too. These happen, not because of nursing, just because. You didn't do anything wrong. If the thought of weaning is making you sad, I really think you should continue nursing. You both still need it and it is not going to hurt your future baby under these circumstances.<br><br>
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I had a m/c two months ago and I had the very same feelings that you do. I thought that maybe it was because I am still nursing my dd. But my OB assured me that couldn't have been a factor. In fact, he encouraged me to continue BF.<br><br>
I was also contemplating weaning dd. But in the end, it just didn't feel right to me. We are happily still nursing. And I will be ttc in the next month or so. Good luck to you!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriages...<br><br><i>Please</i> don't feel like anything you did caused them. You don't need to feel guilt on top of the grief you're already feeling.<br><br>
I don't know how you feel about traditional medicine, but I would encourage you to find a doctor who is willing to work through this with you. I had multiple miscarriages, too, after my first child... and after some testing we found a medical reason for it. (Immune system issues.) PM me if you'd like to know more of the particulars.<br><br>
Best wishes to you as you work through this... and kudos for continuing to nurse your little one!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
I am so sorry for your losses. Like the others said, you didn't cause them and nursing didn't either.<br><br>
If you heart tells you not to wean, then don't do it. Best of luck to you in your next pregnancy! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I'm sorry :-(.<br><br>
Know that nursing did not cause your miscarriage. Every study done on this subject says that nursing mothers suffer miscarriages at the same rate as non-nursing mothers. This has gone a long way to disproving common opinion that nursing must cause miscarriage - in fact, this thought was based on the fact that nursing causes release of hormones that normally stimulate the uterus, but in reality, the uterus does not have the receptors for these hormones until late in pregnancy (so all the nursing in the world wouldn't cause a reaction at your uterus). We still hold onto that old thought, though :-(, much to the detriment of nursing toddlers and the poor mothers who feel guilty about any miscarriages that happen while nursing.
 

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Thank you, everyone. I'm feeling better about everything now. I really didn't want to wean ds when he's doing a good job of slowly weaning himself.<br><br>
I nursed him to sleep last night and he looked so peaceful and sweet. Now if only he'd sleep long enough to not be tired all the time! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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