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DS will be 20 mo next week. I have been continuing to nurse on demand with no intention of stopping but I am facing two very big issues...<br><br>
1. It hurts like hell. My nipples are raw, tender and it feels like he is biting me even though he isn't. It makes it excrutiating (sp?) when he nurses and he tends to pull off quickly these days which only makes it worse.<br><br>
2. As of the past week, he has cut down his nursing drastically and as of this past weekend he throws a fit every time he tries to nurse. He will latch on, suckle for a few seconds, pull of and throw a fit. He tries the other side and repeats the process. This lead to multiple melt downs last night as he clearly wanted to nurse but something was stopping him... I am still producing milk, that much I know for sure.<br><br>
What do I do? I don't want to force weaning, and if he is weaning because of taste or whatever else I didn't want it to be this abrupt and hard on him.
 

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my two are ten yrs apart and these will be seven so no experience, I just wanted to throw support your way.. I hope it is temporary for you..
 

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My ds just weaned when I was about 5.5-6 weeks along, but, I've had a few m/c's that I nursed though...and ouch. I totally feel your pain. My son is much older, he's almost 4, and I know how rough it can be.<br><br>
No real BTDT advice, just sending some <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s. I wish you the best in this hard decision.
 

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Oh that must be rough. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I am sorry, that sounds bad<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br>
I cut down on my nursings a little bit which in ds case means he still nurse 10-12 times a day, but it gives me some time to recover in between. i especially had a problem with night nursing (all night long), he nurses twice now at night. it is hard on him, but my nipples are holding up much better. Lansinoh also helps to make them feel better, but not with the actual latch on.<br>
I don't know about the tast. I noticed ds is not oo happy with what he gets sometimes, even though i still have milk. He still likes it enough, though. You wrote it happens at night. Could you nightwean? It is hard, but if it would help....<br>
I am sorry I don't have real answers for you. I hope it will get better and in a few month you will have all this good milk again.
 

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My DD is 20 months old and still nursing. I also nursed my DS through my whole pregnancy with DD.<br><br>
That said, I'm there with you. It hurts SO much, I actually breathe like I'm in labor through it. Slow, deep breaths and try to focus on something else. She is cutting back the number of times she nurses, I think we're down to 3x a day or so now. I never offer it to her, but don't refuse her if she asks b/c she gets really upset. Sometimes I can offer her a drink or a snack instead, but not usually.<br><br>
IRT him having meltdowns, I assume that your supply probably isn't what it used to be and the taste has most likely changed. I don't know that there is much you can do about it, though. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Yoga -- I am so sorry<br><br>
My first thought is this -- if you KONW youa re making milk the taest MUST be changing. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> it is the only thing i can think of to cause a fit at nurseing -- it is not what he is expecting. I would ride it out and see if he 'adapts" to the new taest, not much else you can do.<br><br>
nurseing Theo hurt less -- and it doesn't hurt as bad as it does for you -- if i drink silly amounts of water all day -- night nurseing hurts more cus i am not drinking.<br><br>
When we have our big nurseing sessions (we nurse about evey hour -- a little anyway) we go to teh rocker in his room and i listen to my hynopbirth cd -- i started that a week or so ago just so i'd get to hear it in a somewhat relaxed manner (sitting and rocking) ... that seems to be makeing the time fly by faster.<br><br>
I am on weel 12 and the pain is getting better... so mamy there is hope?<br><br>
I have not BTDT -- this si my first time doing this -- so I don't know what else to suggest.
 

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Not sure I have any concrete advice here. We are facing issue #1 as well, but part of that is due to the fact that she has increased her nursing dramatically, and insists on doing so in strange positions that do not contribute to good latch.<br><br>
To try to make the best of things, there are a few things I've been trying. Lansinoh, like the PP suggested, is one - although I've been using it very sparingly. I'm trying to make sure that the situation is conducive to nursing - that she is not being distracted and popping off all the time. If she's popping on and off, then I'll try to see if some water or a snack or going outside to play are options she would like since she doesn't always want to nurse necessarily, sometimes she just wants food or liquid or my attention or something different.<br><br>
Even though there is still milk, it's probably not what it used to be, and that is probably causing some behavioural changes.<br><br>
Good luck to you. I know that one of the few things I look forward to when going back to work on Mondays is the 10 hour break my nipples get.
 

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I can only think it is not coming out as fast as he is used too and this is leading to frustration. And if he's feeling hungry or thirsty, that's got to aggravate him.<br><br>
I'm a big believer in nursing has to be a good experience for both of you. Nursing is such a controversial issue, and I've been doing it for 5.5 years straight now so I no longer see things so black and white as some do on Mothering (the whole 'don't refuse' issue). I think it is time to introduce some diversions and distractions. Have a cool new sippy cup ready for when he wants to nurse and you just don't think you can handle the pain. Or offer snacks...follow your heart, you'll know what to do.
 

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Im all for full term nursing, but I also see that nursing should be a "mutually benefical relationship"...
 

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Thank you again mamas. Marisa, we are starting to try to distract a bit and see if he really wants to nurse or is just wanting a quick latch on...<br><br>
He was able to sleep through the whole night last night without waking to nurse although we did nurse to sleep. I find that if I am sitting upright and use the boppy it helps with the pain a little so it must improve his latch. But he didn't even ask to nurse this morning when he woke...<br><br>
I too feel like it needs to be a beneficial thing for both parties. I want to stay positive and in a good mind set for nursing this next babe too and don't want to push myself too hard in to resenting when DS nurses.<br><br>
But again, thank you all. We are doing better, and I am feeling a little bit better too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy">
 
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