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I thought maybe we are due for another check in.<br><br>
I am no longer a nursing mama. And I am HAPPY! DS is also happy, it seemed to have come at a really good time for both of us and was not really traumatic at all. My milk had been gone for a couple months already and nursing was so so so painful and irritating. It was no longer a good thing for me, nor was it satisfying for him. I started giving him a bottle of all things. I never thought I would be happy to see him with a bottle, but it fills a need for him and I keep my sanity.<br><br>
How are you other mamas doing? I know how hard it is to continue.
 

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I am also no longer a nursing mama. DD(26 mos) thinks of nursing and tries every few days for a few seconds, but then generally pats the 'nanas' and says, "Milk is all gone" and "Baby comes, more milk?" And then we talk about how there will be more milk when the baby comes. I think she has kind of forgotten how to nurse though, when she tries it seems like she is trying to scrape the milk out with her teeth. Ouch. I can't tell though if it is just pg-related nipple sensitivity, or if her nursing style has changed. I am a little sad that she is done nursing, I thought she would be nursing for longer. But when she does try to nurse it feels like fingernails on a chalkboard for me, so I think it is better that she is done.
 

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I was actually going to start this thread this morning <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">.<br><br>
I am still nursing ds a few times a day. Somedays not at all other days 2-3 times. If it is in the pm I usually offer him some for 2 minutes. For whatever reason I can handle nursing in the morning for as long as he needs but nursing after his nap drives me batty. He doesn't always ask but if he does I say just for a few minutes and he handles it pretty well.<br><br>
I was going to ask others how their nursling is laying, sitting or getting to the breast these days :LOL . Ds sits next to me on the left side but on the right if he is just sitting next to me the latch is horrible and I can't stand the pain. The only comfortable latch on the right side is if he is laying over my lap but there isn't much of a lap at this point and its only going to get smaller! Sometimes I have him stand<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">.<br><br>
I am conflicted about wanting to continue and wanting to stop. I would like ds to just stop on his own and if he doesn't I will continue but I think I would be happy if he stopped. I don't completely resent it though at this point, if I did I would probably wean. Like I said morning is fine but later pm bothers me. He is also at a point where I can't, I mean CAN NOT. nurse him to sleep anymore. He stopped nursing to sleep at night on his own before 2. But he was still nursing to sleep for nap time sometimes up until a few weeks ago. But now if he falls asleep at the breast he wakes up when I put him down and nap time is over. He falls asleep fine on his own so I've stopped nursing him to sleep for nap but will sometimes (if he wants) nurse him before nap. I just make sure he doesn't fall asleep there. This kid still needs 2 hours sleep in the afternoon.<br><br>
How is everyone else.<br><br>
Here is a note from the little nursling <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bouncy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bouncy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/blahblah.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="blah blah"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biggrinbounce.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bgbounce"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/Welcome.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="welcome"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/Welcome.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="welcome"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jaw2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jaw2"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shake.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shake"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/jumpers.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jumpers">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wild.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wild">
 

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Well, I'm technically in the Jan. due date club, but I thought I'd respond since Feb. is so close. My milk is gone, but my dd still nurses at least 4 times a day and doesn't seem to upset that there isn't anything there. Every once and a while she'll squeeze my nipple and say something like "No hi milk" (she used to say hi to the milk this way).<br><br>
I haven't told her that there will be more milk with the new baby because I think 3 months is probably like an eternity to a kid her age and don't want her to be confused. Hopefully she'll keep nursing until then. Luckily, I'm not experiencing any irritation/pain with her nursing.
 

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Nothing has changed here. I haven't had milk for 2 years (yep, this month marks TWO years I've been nursing without milk--long story) and he wants nummies more often if anything. It hurts like <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/censored.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="censored"> so I put him off a lot of the time.<br><br>
He only nurses from the left and recently told me that the baby can have "that nummy" (pointing to my right breast). Gee, thanks! :LOL I did tell him that mommy's nummies would make milk after the baby came out and he just said "noooooo" like that was the craziest thing he had ever heard. He doesn't remember ever having milk, so he is in for a surprise! He's 34 months.
 

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I am still nursing DD who will be 3 in 3.5 weeks. We practice child-led weaning and she still nurses on demand. If she hasn't stopped waking at night by January 1 I am going to be forced to night-wean but she seems to be doing better. My milk has been gone since 8 weeks but it doesn't seem to bother her. Nursing has been a bit painful the last month or two but nothing excruciating. I plan to tandem nurse.
 

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My dd(34 months) has cut way down on nursing lately. She still nurses to sleep and when she gets up the morning. There are times she literally is nursing from 7 am to after 9, which is no fun for me! Then she will not ask to nurse again until the late afternoon(most days).<br>
There are times when I feel like I have to stop nursing her, it is the only way she falls asleep and there are times it just drives me crazy. Then five minutes later she is asleep and all is fine. I need to find another way to help her fall asleep but I am too tired to figure out what that could be so it is so much easier to just keep nursing her.<br>
She only nurses on one side and she likes to hold the other side. She is pretty good about asking and not holding if it I say no. She is very cute about it. She will look at me and ask "Mommy say it's okay?" and if I tell her not right now she will just say "wait".<br><br>
So, things are just going along. At this point I am not so big that it changes any of the postions that she can nurse in. I am not sure how it is going to be when I am bigger and laying down isn't comfortable.<br><br>
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DS is 26 months and nurses anywhere from 4 to 15 times a day. Some days I still wonder (out loud) if there is milk available, he will suck and not sallow to show me that there is plenty of milk on my nipple. He's quite attached to nursing and we are practicing CLW. I keep wondering if this baby will wean before him, it's happened to friends of mine before, so you never know. The other night I had a dream he was a teenage coming home from college, a big, husky guy, and he picked me up, swung me around and whispered in my ear 'maas' (his word for nursing). LOL I don't picture it going that far, but it feels like it sometimes <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Also no longer a nursing mama. Dd is 23 months and last month things got so painful that I just couldn't do it anymore. We had a couple of nights where things were tense, but she moved on very quickly. She hasn't asked to nurse in 2-3 weeks now. she was basically down to nursing only at night so it wasn't very difficult for her to stop - and she sleeps better now too <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> She's sleeping all night long instead of waking 3-4 times a night - woohoo!!!<br><br>
she used to be very possessive about HER booboos, now she pats them and says "baby booboos" Hopefully once the babe is here she will be ok with baby having them. We'll see what happens I guess
 

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It is so wonderful to read all of these responses!<br><br>
I am still nursing ds, who is 2.5, but - good lord - it hurts soooo bad!! I am absolutely forcing myself to keep up w/it. He only nurses twice a day. Once, when he falls asleep and again first thing in the morning. Sometimes it isn't so bad, but sometimes... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jaw.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="dropjaw">...but you all know how that feels. I want to just take him off of my breast and run to the neighbor's house!
 

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Tomorrow is my nursling's first birthday and we are still nursing and I still make some milk.I know its not very much but I do still have some.He mainly nurses to sleep and when he is feeling possesive of me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> If hes been nursing for awhile it does hurt and then I try to give him a cup instead.I just have to remember to bring one upstairs for the middle of the night.LOL
 

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DS (29 months) is still nursing, but I wish he wasn't! It has been excruciating for months now, and I have weaned him some, but he is definitely not ready to give it up completely.<br><br>
I'm always in conflict with myself about it - when he was first born, even though I thought breastfeeding was best, I've always hated to have my breasts touched and didn't know whether I'd make it past 6 months or not. Fast forward almost 2 years, and here we are. I'd like to wean completely before baby #2 comes, but it doesn't look like that will be happening.<br><br>
We mostly night weaned a while ago. If he is sick or had a really rough day, I make an exception at night. Most days he nurses at 6am, again when we wake up (usually around 9am these days), at nap time (this seems like the hardest one for him to give up), and at bedtime (unless DH puts him to bed).<br><br>
He is also a chronic, agressive twiddler, which makes it all worse!<br><br>
Anyway, I feel like the Energizer Bunny...I just keep going, and going, and going.........<br>
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Oh, mine too! He started doing it when my milk dried up when he was a baby, around 9-10 months or so. It became part of the nursing and he WILL NOT stop. I have tried everything, literally. Sometimes he actually PREFERS to twiddle instead of nurse, the weirdo.<br><br>
And I also thought he'd wean sometime in that second year when my milk had been gone for several months. Nope. I've made several attempts to wean which ended catastrophically. Now I admit I'm secretly hoping he hates the taste of breastmilk and will wean when my milk comes in b/c I'm also sensitive to being touched and I'm really worried about getting touched out if they're both nursing. As it is I want to throw him across the room almost every time he latches on. I know, everyone tells me that if I feel that way I need to quit but he just won't without severe trauma (he's got sensory issues/high needs/all that jazz).
 
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