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I am feeling a bit more touched out and irritable with nursing the past few days. It's really difficult at night when she's trying to go to sleep. I feel like in bed I have nothing to try and distract myself and she likes to rub against my other nipple. She's gotten better but omg... the sensation is like having my teeth drilled. The past couple of nights I've nursed her for a bit on each side and gotten her to actually fall asleep without the boob. That's been a lifesaver.. I'm really trying to keep my patience with her.<br><br>
She says there's still milk. I am certain there's not a whole lot and that it's switching over to colostrum. My supply never really dried up but it certainly dwindled to nothing. Sometimes I can feel her actually getting milk... but most of the time it feels like dry nursing to me. Though after she pulls off I can squeeze a few drops out... so I apparently still have something. I'm hoping I last the rest of the pregnancy. In the beginning it seemed there were a few bad days and then things leveled out, I hope that's the case still.
She says there's still milk. I am certain there's not a whole lot and that it's switching over to colostrum. My supply never really dried up but it certainly dwindled to nothing. Sometimes I can feel her actually getting milk... but most of the time it feels like dry nursing to me. Though after she pulls off I can squeeze a few drops out... so I apparently still have something. I'm hoping I last the rest of the pregnancy. In the beginning it seemed there were a few bad days and then things leveled out, I hope that's the case still.
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I am totally touched out and irritable, too. She is NOT ready to give it up, though, so I cringe and try not to cry in pain through it. Some days I feel letdown like there's milk, but I'm pretty sure there is just about nothing there for her. I know she's comfort nursing. It's making me want to stop nursing forever with how painful it is right now, though. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
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im in the same boat as you mamas.. im touched out and tired and my baby wants to nurse ALL.THE.TIME. I nurse her quite a bit still but its sore and im sure there is no milk though she claims that there is.. i was sure that she would be weaned by now based on my other two, but i guess you never can tell..i think that if she is still so into nursing at this point she may nurse all the way through..but we shall see. she is completely night weaned thank goodness.. i dont know what i would do if she was nursing all night like a few months ago.
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At nap time we nurse until she falls asleep. Luckily, it doesn't take too long. At bedtime we nurse until I can't take it and then she rolls around, cries, drinks water until she finally falls asleep.<br>
I think it's the touching and rubbing and pinching that bothers me more than anything.
I think it's the touching and rubbing and pinching that bothers me more than anything.
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I can't tell you how much better I feel knowing you all are going through this with me. I mean, I don't want anybody to feel like that but it's nice to know I'm not alone.<br><br>
Jessi, the touching, rubbing, pinching bothers me as well... though Sage has gotten better about it. As she's falling to sleep now sometimes she'll use her arm to rub across the other boob.. that used to be ok but now it really irritates me. I try to be gentle with her when I tell her... but I have at times yelped, DON'T! She at least is starting to understand reason... like at night I will say I can't. Mama can't nurse right now can we take a little break? She will nod her little head yes. Then I usually let her nurse for a little longer after that, both sides... and then I tell her I need another break. That's usually enough for her to fall asleep, thank goodness.
Jessi, the touching, rubbing, pinching bothers me as well... though Sage has gotten better about it. As she's falling to sleep now sometimes she'll use her arm to rub across the other boob.. that used to be ok but now it really irritates me. I try to be gentle with her when I tell her... but I have at times yelped, DON'T! She at least is starting to understand reason... like at night I will say I can't. Mama can't nurse right now can we take a little break? She will nod her little head yes. Then I usually let her nurse for a little longer after that, both sides... and then I tell her I need another break. That's usually enough for her to fall asleep, thank goodness.
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Same thing. Touched out. It feels like dry nursing most of the time, but there is definitely a feeling of milk let down a few times a day. DD fluctuates in her nursing now, depending on how busy we are during the day. She really misses the full tummy at nighttime, and after she nurses at night she takes a bottle of water. I'm wondering if she'll stick to it until the baby is here.
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I've got admit it....I wish she was weaned now. At 3, I have at least convinced her that she can't touch my other "nummie" while she nurses, but the sensation of her latching on HURTS. She tells me that there is milk when I ask and I think that I believe her. Seems like I still feel a little engorged if I do convince her to go the whole day without it, but I'm starting to wonder if that's just the pregnancy fullness sensation starting. I think I could convince her to just go with morning and bedtime nursing if we had more to do during the day.....but it's 50 and raining here, so anything we would go do would require spending money randomly, something that I'm not going to do every day. So, I realize that she nurses for entertainment. She tells me that she will have the "strawberry one" and that "little baby" can have the other one. At least she is willing to share - something that she usually does with great reluctance(and tears and drama).
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Yeah, totally not loving it right now. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> My little guy isn't asking to nurse as much these days, and when he does I generally put him off until bed. I just feel so over touched and over stimulated with it. Even wearing a loose fitting night shirt that rubs is enough to make me want to jump out of my skin!<br><br>
So DS basically nurses a little bit at night but that's it. Unfortunately, he likes a pacifier. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> But he can and has fallen asleep without it in bed, when I just lay with him and snuggle. Then when he wakes later, he either just rolls over and snuggles up and is fine, or he asks for milk. I've been very glad that he's been okay with not nursing forever when it's totally dry, 'cause that kills me!<br><br>
I am glad he's still getting a little milk. I don't feel like I necessarily want him to wean, but I wish it didn't feel so awful! It will be very sad to have him done, yet I do expect him to wean before baby gets here. My sweet little guy... We've had over 2.5 years already!
So DS basically nurses a little bit at night but that's it. Unfortunately, he likes a pacifier. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> But he can and has fallen asleep without it in bed, when I just lay with him and snuggle. Then when he wakes later, he either just rolls over and snuggles up and is fine, or he asks for milk. I've been very glad that he's been okay with not nursing forever when it's totally dry, 'cause that kills me!<br><br>
I am glad he's still getting a little milk. I don't feel like I necessarily want him to wean, but I wish it didn't feel so awful! It will be very sad to have him done, yet I do expect him to wean before baby gets here. My sweet little guy... We've had over 2.5 years already!
Like the other mommas, its getting difficult here too.<br><br>
For me though, the worst is the accidental bumps/rubs in the middle of the night. UGH! How many times I've woken up and wanted to scream, "please don't touch me!" My lo is really patient with mommy, but I wish it didn't have to be so intense.<br><br>
So far we've dealt with thrush twice now. Those days were hard. I just keep thinking, it won't last forever, and I'm really not ready for her to really be a "big girl."
For me though, the worst is the accidental bumps/rubs in the middle of the night. UGH! How many times I've woken up and wanted to scream, "please don't touch me!" My lo is really patient with mommy, but I wish it didn't have to be so intense.<br><br>
So far we've dealt with thrush twice now. Those days were hard. I just keep thinking, it won't last forever, and I'm really not ready for her to really be a "big girl."
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It hurts when she latches on, and we're only doing most nights to go to sleep (if we're driving home at bedtime it gets skipped, obviously), and some mornings if she asks. I'm kind of sad thinking she'll wean and remember nursing only as cranky-mama or like she wasn't good enough (I keep asking her to stop blinking on my boob, poor thing! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> but it drives me crazy, those eyelashes!) but I think she'll hang in there... either she'll wean this summer or make it through to lots more milk <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I need a lot of space in general lately, but she's been so good. She actually askes to nurse at church (our first time trying her there in a LONG time) and got all cuddly and wanted to be all up on my boobs <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I think she was thinking of being a baby and nursing a lot... lately she plays baby a LOT.
I need a lot of space in general lately, but she's been so good. She actually askes to nurse at church (our first time trying her there in a LONG time) and got all cuddly and wanted to be all up on my boobs <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I think she was thinking of being a baby and nursing a lot... lately she plays baby a LOT.
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Wow, I guess I'm really lucky. I'm so sorry for all the mamas not enjoying nursing right now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I have yet to have any soreness/uncomfortableness with nursing, and my son is slowly and easily weaning. We're down to once or twice during the day, and maybe once overnight. He actually slept 12 hours straight the other night without nursing at all (and he's 14 months old)!! I am extremely grateful things are going so well. It's obvious he's not getting as much milk, but I'm definitely still producing enough. I'm actually more sad to have our nursing relationship end, as I'm pretty sure he'll completely wean before baby is born. But I'm really happy things are going so well and I'm still getting my snuggle time while he nurses right now. I hope things get better for everyone else!
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He is down to just a few times a day now.. we've nightweaned and I have cut back on letting him nurse whenever he wants. Now it is mainly upon waking at 6 AM, before nap, and before bed (but not to sleep, Daddy puts him to bed at night). It is incredibly painful/uncomfortable and makes me feel creepy crawly. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I'm pretty sure there's no milk left. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
ds is still nursing frequently. my supply is way down, so we'r esupplementing with freezer stash. my pumping output is just sad. in a 24 hour shift i used to bring home 48 or so ounces (huge oversupply, but thank goodness since it's all in the freezer). now i get maybe 10 or so ounces. i'm wondering how worthwhile it is to even bother pumping, but don't want to go 24 hours without in case of plugged ducts and such. he's not acting frustrated with th eamount of milk, so it makes it very hard to know if/when he's getting enough. not feeling touched out, but the boobs have gotten really sore, like they did at the beginning of other pgs. and he has a habit of accidentally nipping me when he goes to latch on sometimes. lol, it's cute that in the past couple weeks he's discovered where the milkies hide. when i pull my shirt back down at home, he'll look at me for a minute and then pull it back up and latch back on. thankfully he only does this at home and not out in public.
I am pretty sure I have no milk left. I stopped hearing swallowing sounds a while ago, but at least there was some milk on the nipple when he was done. Now, there's nothing. He is down to nursing only 1-2 times per day (right before bed and sometimes right when he wakes up).<br><br>
He really dropped the number of nursings last month when we were out of town for 10 days. He was just too busy and having too much fun! We are going back out for about a month starting in June and I have a feeling he will wean completely during that trip. I would be sad to let it go if he was still getting milk, but he's not, so it's hard for me to keep it up. We have battled thrush on and off since his first birthday (1.5 years ago!) and I just want some normal healthy boobs before the next one comes!
He really dropped the number of nursings last month when we were out of town for 10 days. He was just too busy and having too much fun! We are going back out for about a month starting in June and I have a feeling he will wean completely during that trip. I would be sad to let it go if he was still getting milk, but he's not, so it's hard for me to keep it up. We have battled thrush on and off since his first birthday (1.5 years ago!) and I just want some normal healthy boobs before the next one comes!
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technically i shouldnt be answering since I am no longer a nursing mama..<br><br>
I bailed out in March soon after DD turned 3. I think I was about 7 weeks along.. (identical to when I found out I was pregnant when DD1 turned 3). Something about being pregnant and nursing is completely incompatible with me. I couldnt stand the feeling of nursing, seriously it was not a creepy crawly feeling it was a "no way i can do this" feeling<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> There was no fighting it for me, and mentally I was ready to be done a bit before that anyway...so to be honest I am very happy we are done. Dd and I ended on a good note, and we both talk and remember the "babas" often and with smiles on our faces.<br>
I dont know why my nipples are so freaking sensitive, my breasts dont really get tender with pregnancy, or feel any different but my nipples...oh do not <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/censored.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="censored"> come near. I swear if I myself accidentally barely brush against one with a towel or something, my hairs on my arms stand up and i feel for a second like...i dont even know how to describe it..like i want to kill whatever just touched me!<br><br>
So, nursing mamas-muchos respectos to you for nursing still!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
I bailed out in March soon after DD turned 3. I think I was about 7 weeks along.. (identical to when I found out I was pregnant when DD1 turned 3). Something about being pregnant and nursing is completely incompatible with me. I couldnt stand the feeling of nursing, seriously it was not a creepy crawly feeling it was a "no way i can do this" feeling<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> There was no fighting it for me, and mentally I was ready to be done a bit before that anyway...so to be honest I am very happy we are done. Dd and I ended on a good note, and we both talk and remember the "babas" often and with smiles on our faces.<br>
I dont know why my nipples are so freaking sensitive, my breasts dont really get tender with pregnancy, or feel any different but my nipples...oh do not <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/censored.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="censored"> come near. I swear if I myself accidentally barely brush against one with a towel or something, my hairs on my arms stand up and i feel for a second like...i dont even know how to describe it..like i want to kill whatever just touched me!<br><br>
So, nursing mamas-muchos respectos to you for nursing still!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
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Me too! I wish my lo was weaned. I can't stand the feeling... it is painful. Last night I cried through it. And she /cried for several minutes after I finally made her get off. I've tried to be as gentle as possible about weaning, but I'm getting desperate. She still wakes up 2-3 times a night to nurse too. And she's 2.5. She uses me as pacifier. And if you can't tell by the overall tone of this post, I'm starting to feel resentful about nursing in a way that makes me want to feed formula to my next lo. Ugh.... it's just a threat... if everything works fine I will nurse my next lo. I am so lucky to have a supportive dh.<br><br>
Thanks for letting me vent.
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Me too! I wish my lo was weaned. I can't stand the feeling... it is painful. Last night I cried through it. And she /cried for several minutes after I finally made her get off. I've tried to be as gentle as possible about weaning, but I'm getting desperate. She still wakes up 2-3 times a night to nurse too. And she's 2.5. She uses me as pacifier. And if you can't tell by the overall tone of this post, I'm starting to feel resentful about nursing in a way that makes me want to feed formula to my next lo. Ugh.... it's just a threat... if everything works fine I will nurse my next lo. I am so lucky to have a supportive dh.<br><br>
Thanks for letting me vent.
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I was completely in all of your boats. My nipples screamed, I felt irritable, and every little thing my guy did annoyed me. So then I thought about what I said when I first started nursing, which was we would go on as long as it was something we BOTH wanted.<br><br>
So I gradually started having him nurse only at nap and bed, and then one day, he went down for a nap without asking. Same at bed. He's asked a few times since then, but I've just said the milks all gone, and he's fine. He's 22 months old, and I figured that was pretty darned good, and I didn't want my irritation over nursing to get in the way of our loving relationship, which I could see how it might. Now we just snuggle a bit more before naps and bed.
So I gradually started having him nurse only at nap and bed, and then one day, he went down for a nap without asking. Same at bed. He's asked a few times since then, but I've just said the milks all gone, and he's fine. He's 22 months old, and I figured that was pretty darned good, and I didn't want my irritation over nursing to get in the way of our loving relationship, which I could see how it might. Now we just snuggle a bit more before naps and bed.
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Not a nursing pregnant Mama anymore. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
DD weaned about two weeks ago. She had started to nurse less and less and was quite irritable that she wasn't getting much so would push me away and go off to play.<br><br>
It dawned on me a couple weeks ago that she hadn't nursed in a few days and everytime I offered she'd get mad about it and push me away. I tried offering for about another week, but she showed zero interest.<br><br>
I'm okay with it. I don't know if she would have chosen to wean now if my milk hadn't dried up... but she does seem content with it. She does suck on a paci from time to time now, which she never did before because she always used me. lol And I'm really okay with that! Because I was not the biggest fan of her using me as a paci because it would never switch over the the slow sucking of milk and the constant fast flickers would end up driving me batty and after several minutes I'd end up breaking suction and trying to get her to take a paci anyway.<br><br>
Now to just wait and see if interest returns when new LO arrives. lol
DD weaned about two weeks ago. She had started to nurse less and less and was quite irritable that she wasn't getting much so would push me away and go off to play.<br><br>
It dawned on me a couple weeks ago that she hadn't nursed in a few days and everytime I offered she'd get mad about it and push me away. I tried offering for about another week, but she showed zero interest.<br><br>
I'm okay with it. I don't know if she would have chosen to wean now if my milk hadn't dried up... but she does seem content with it. She does suck on a paci from time to time now, which she never did before because she always used me. lol And I'm really okay with that! Because I was not the biggest fan of her using me as a paci because it would never switch over the the slow sucking of milk and the constant fast flickers would end up driving me batty and after several minutes I'd end up breaking suction and trying to get her to take a paci anyway.<br><br>
Now to just wait and see if interest returns when new LO arrives. lol
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Yes! I finally figured out it was that constant flickering that was driving me crazy. DD says sometimes there's no milk and sometimes there is. She cried a bit today but we still nursed and she said there was some... Poor thing. I told her she can have nursies even if there's no milk. Understanding that the milk really is pretty much gone made it much easier for me to nurse her for some reason-- I think I had kept expecting her to settle into that nice suckling and when she didn't it bugged me, but knowing makes all the difference. And I made it clear the milk would come back... like a gift from the baby! And she said "Cuz in the fall... baby pops out!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
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