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hi, i have a 2 year old and am 11weeks pregnant. Right now im nursing no.1 6-8 times a day. Thankfully he sleeps through the night most of the time, but wakes around 5-6am to nurse, and then again at 7.<br><br>
Im just wondering how this is going to work with a newborn. I remember it was hard just dealing with one, when ds was a newborn, so i figure im going to be pretty tired, and not wanting to nurse both a toddler and a newborn so early in the morning. (probably 3-4 times between 5-7am, if two are involved)<br><br>
Just wondering how any of you handled these kinds of issues?<br><br>
(so far, ive been lucky, no sore nipples, and we've been nursing pretty much as before)<br><br>
Maya
 

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You're only 11 weeks pregnant. It's months yet before you'll be nursing two. A LOT changes in that amount of time.<br><br>
-Angela
 

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hi, yeah i take your point. But if there are going to be changes in his nursing habits, i bet they wont be his first morning ones. Im am really hoping he doesnt wean himself because of my pregnancy, but realise anything is possible.<br>
I just thought its better to be prepared. I would love to get an idea how other mothers handled the newborn tandem situation, so i know what im in for. i have 'Adventures of Tandem Nursing' but it doesnt go into this in particular.
 

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Nursing a newborn and a toddler is not too bad. My dd was almost 3 when her sister was born. It was pretty easy to nurse both of them because I would get in a position to allow the babe to nurse and then I would let the toddler attach however she wanted.<br><br>
I thought my oldest had weaned while I was pregnant but when she saw the baby nursing, she had to nurse too. I think my oldest and middle child weaned around the same time even though there was a 3 year age difference.
 

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Bedtime was my toughest, but mornings with my newborn and 21 mo were ok. They didn't wake up at the same time, usually. When they did, my older one was ok with waiting for me to get baby latched before he joined us.<br>
Baby isn't even 6 months yet and things are soooo different. I nurse tiniest baby, get up for alone time, toddler wakes up about 20 minutes later and tiniest baby sleeps for another 40 min or so. My toddler is so cute when he comes out exclaiming "I yake up Mommy!!" and says "Sit a couch now" while he pulls me over to snuggle and nurse.<br>
The best thing to remember is that when it is smooth and sweet, revel in it 'cause it will pass by quick. And when you want to scream because you are triple touched out sore and irritated, breathe deep and hold on 'cause it will pass by quick.<br>
Hugs Momma (and congratulations)<br><br>
PS Welcome to MDC library lady!
 

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what has your experience been like? was it easy to make the transition to nursing two, baby and toddler?
 

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i am currently nursing my 3 month old and almost 3 year old (he was 2.5 ish when ds2 was born). While ds1 hadn't weaned during pregnancy, he'd really slacked off to primarily nursing at bedtime and when he woke up. Now, he usually requests to nurse whenever the baby is nursing unless he's just too wrapped up in whatever he's doing. i'll second the PP who said bedtime is harder than the morning simply b/c wake times are different but bedtimes are close to the same. i started early with "little brother needs nee nees ALOT just like you did when you were smaller. you can eat and drink other things but he can't. let's let him have neenees first and then you can have some. there's enough neenees for both of you...etc..." it's worked well b/c now even when ds2 is asleep, if ds1 is finished nursing, he'll say, "mommy, give noah some neenees now too!" expect sharing problems, but know that they CAN resolve (or at least be manageable!).<br>
and alot is going to depend on temperament of your kiddos - my first woke me at least every hour to nurse until he was almost 26 months old. my second? he "sleeps thru the night" and started when he was only about a month old. even right after he was born, he woke no more than twice per night. i was actually wanting SOMEBODY to wake up just to relieve the pain of full breasts! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
the only thing i've done differently is put a bit of a time limit on ds1. it's so funny, b/c now when he nurses, he'll say "can i have neenees *just for a minute*?" i use the 'just for a minute' thing (even though we don't time it or anything). i don't get concerned about who nursed which side last and when and for how long. i just feel whichever boob is "heavier" and go. i figure since ds1's nursing has picked back up (and ds2 is 3 months and quite hefty!) that it's all gonna balance out. i realize things would be different if i had some kind of supply problem or if ds2 didn't nurse as well as he does, so someone else's situation could always be different.<br>
i guess my main point is even if you think weaning has happened, don't be surprised if your first dc picks right back up when baby comes! expect jealousy. and expect to feel like the last thing you want is for a child to nurse somtimes! it passes quickly and i think it's getting a little easier every day.
 

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Hi, thanks for the responses. They are really helpful. When i posted this question, i was in my firsttrimester, and ds was still nursing 7-8 times a day. he now nurses 4-6 times a day (hard to believe). he'll usually ask for 'ongi' first thing in the morning, but will happily go to the fridge and fetch some yoghurt if im a little slow to stir. I now have a spoon for him ready to go. (so i dont have to get up)After yoghurt, he will nurse (or more often before) I guess he's just not getting the same amount of milk as before (im now 18weeks)<br><br><br><br>
Anyway, we'll see how it goes.<br>
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I have a 3 yr old still nursing and am 8 weeks pregnant. I was wondering the same thing about the morning nursing, that's usually his longest session. It's nice to hear how other mom's did it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Funny, I'm right at 12 weeks nursing a 2 year old as well. Things have already slowed down for her, she only nurses like 1-2 times a day, sometimes 3 times. It's kinda sad BUT I know she's diong it soley on her own and not due to my being pregnant so that helps a lot. I also wonder how things will work when the new baby comes, I'd LOVE to nurse both of them at least sometimes! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> guess we'll see!
 
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