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The past few weeks it is taking my 20 month old well over an hour to nurse to sleep. Prior to that it was more like 30 - 45 minutes. I just can't take it anymore! I'm sure it sounds terrible but I feel trapped and ready to cut my breasts off and leave them there. If I try to take a break or offer something else, my DD screams. DD acts like it is cocaine coming out of my breasts. She also constantly tries to switch sides (like every 30 seconds).<br><br>
I've tried putting her to bed earlier, later, sitting up to nurse, nursing in a chair, etc. I am out of ideas and feel like I am going to lose it. I have few resources to call on. My DH is rarely home on time to put my daughter to sleep. We have no other family nearby. Any suggestions?
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Mama! That sounds really really really frustrating. I totally get the feeling of wanting to cut your boobs off!<br><br>
I hate to suggest this, but have you tried a video? It works for DS when he's weirdly wound up and can't settle. He'll either fall asleep watching the video in my lap, or he'll setlle enough that he nurses to sleep relatively quickly. (There's Baby Einstein on youtube....) It's what DH does when I'm not home for nap time.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">The past few weeks it is taking my 20 month old well over an hour to nurse to sleep. Prior to that it was more like 30 - 45 minutes. I just can't take it anymore! I'm sure it sounds terrible but I feel trapped and ready to cut my breasts off and leave them there. If I try to take a break or offer something else, my DD screams. DD acts like it is cocaine coming out of my breasts. She also constantly tries to switch sides (like every 30 seconds).<br><br>
I've tried putting her to bed earlier, later, sitting up to nurse, nursing in a chair, etc. I am out of ideas and feel like I am going to lose it. I have few resources to call on. My DH is rarely home on time to put my daughter to sleep. We have no other family nearby. Any suggestions?</div>
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I am wondering about the switching sides...do you have a slow let down? Is your supply tanking? Are you pregnant <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">?<br><br>
When my ds is taking a while to go down i nurse him in the rocking chair and that usually helps. OR, we switch between dh and I...so like he'll nurse but if he pulls off to look around or something i'll say "okay dada will rock you if you are all done nursing" and dh will take him and rock himi and sing to him and he'll cry a little and say mama so i'll take him back and nurse him again and we continue/repeat this a few times and usually he just nurses and closes his eyes and falls asleep after the third time or so.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I am wondering about the switching sides...do you have a slow let down? Is your supply tanking? Are you pregnant <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">?<br></div>
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Hmmm... I had such oversupply problems early on that it really didn't occur to me that maybe all of this switching is low supply.
 

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I very much relate to your frustration. It's sad too, because nursing is so wonderful, but when you feel used up, it's rough!<br><br>
I have started in the past month or so to watch for when she seems to be done eating (approx. 15 minutes), then I put on a solid t-shirt and say, "I'm going to hold you while you fall asleep. And I'll listen to any feelings you have because I know we're used to nursing to sleep."<br><br>
For the first several nights, she had biiig cries, then slept in my arms. Now, I am doing it every night, she gives one yelp, then plops to sleep in my arms sooo peacefully. I hold her for about 10 minutes, then set her down next to me in bed.<br><br>
She still wakes in the night a few times, and I usually nurse her a bit, then follow the same path described above.<br><br>
I am pretty sure that some of the long nursing we were getting into was her having feelings and not getting a chance to express them. She acts very loving and trusting, so I feel good about this switch in bedtime ritual.<br><br>
Let me know if you have any thoughts on this, or any questions. Peace!
 

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What is her sleep schedule like? Wake/nap/sleep times.<br><br>
Mali was just like that until I reduced her naps and made sure she was more active during the day. I also gave a small snack before bed so I knew she wasnt hungry.
 

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DD went through a phase like that and it drove me bananas!! I started rolling over and asking her if she wanted to read more books. We'd read more and when she'd ask to nurse again I'd ask if we were done reading and ready to go to sleep. If she said yes, usually the nursing was pretty quick at that point. Now (at 24 mos) we are at the point that if she asks to nurse when we are reading, I ask her if it is time to go to sleep, she turns off the light and nursing is pretty quick, usually. Sometimes the whole reading/nursing thing takes over an hour, but it is waaaaay less frustrating to read 6 more books (2 times each!) than to be laying there wondering when the heck the kid is going to drop off.<br><br>
I also start the night routine based on what we did that day, when she woke up from her nap, whatever. Really cut down on the length of nursing.
 

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DD usually wakes between 6:30 and 7:30 am. Goes down for a nap between 12 and 1. Nap lengths vary. Somedays it is an hour. Others it is up to 2 1/2 hours. Bedtime was 7:30 but I haven't been able to get her to sleep before 8:15 lately and sometimes it is even later since it is taking so long. Most nights she is down to one true wake-up every night (she goes down to sleep in a crib and sleeps there until she wakes up. She usually wakes somewhere between 2 and 4am. She's then nursed back to sleep and cosleeps the rest of the night).<br><br>
I'm always afraid to let her cry (I don't mean CIO, I mean cry with me) at bedtime as I am afraid it will wake her further but I am going to try the suggestions you've made about stopping to read, etc. Maybe the crying will only be while she adjusts. I'm going to buy a low wattage bulb to use in her room and we'll see how it goes. I'm with you! I'd much rather read/nurse for an hour than just nurse. I want so much to get back to snuggling to sleep being a highlight of the day rather than the time I dread.<br><br>
Thanks ladies! I treasure all of you so much. You have no idea!!!
 
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