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I can't help it, I don't want to be vane and I wish I could accept my body but it is so disturbing to me when I feel or see my belly. I have really bad stretch marks- I look like I was in a terrible fire and the skin hangsin a sack. Iam a dancer and while I have never been dancerskinny I was always muscular and tight. Ds is almost 7 mos old.I lost all the weight by 6 weeks so it isn't that. I know it won't get better be/c this is baby #2 and it hadn't improved with #1 by the time I got pg when he was 16 months. I find myself feeling panicky about the way it feels and getting jealous almost hateful if I see a mom with a smooth belly! .I am not used to my stomach feeling out of control. Dh thinks I am just as sexy as before but I always say he is lying or blinded. Ugh. I know there are worse things in life!!
 

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It wasn't until my 2nd child was 1 that I learned to accept mine. It takes time...and honestly you may never LOVE them. Just try not to not like yourself becasue of them.<br><br>
I don't love mine. I don't ever expect too. But now they are such a part of me I'm not sure I'd feel if they were gone. I like to think I would be excited but Im just not so sur.
 

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I have crazy stretchmarks... angry red ones from bellybutton to mid thigh... all the way around... all through my pubic area and everything. I dont love them, thats for sure.... but i also dont hate them! Chalk it up to genetics! I probably wont be wearing anything tummy bearing anytime soon... but I have been known to flash them to new moms.... nothing makes them feel better about thier stretchmarks than seeing my epic ones!<br>
I bet your partner does like them.I know that they are hard to get used to though!
 

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you can learn to accept them or opt for surgery. I've heard tummy lift or "lasering the stretch marks" helps. You'd have to check it out with a qualified doctor.<br><br>
Not that I'm telling you to have surgery - I too have stretch marks but not doing anything about them. Just what I've heard/read.
 

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I'm planning a tummy tuck and as a result most of mine will be gone....most <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I don't have them on my belly, but I do on my breats and sides of butt. I think that you can get them lasered at the dermo to make them fade (or maybe they have some high powered meds?)<br>
I know they bother you, but maybe they won't be so bad over time. Things about my appearance that I used to fret about I actaully don't think about anymore. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s Jennifer
 

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I have stretch marks on my belly, thighs, breasts, butt and on the insides of my thighs all the way down to below my knee.<br>
They DO fade and you do learn to live with them but they are permanent and don't ever really go away. The oldest ones on my belly from my first son are practically invisible but I still notice them. DP says he doesn't though.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> i know exactly where you are! they totally suck but they really don't go away, so it's an amazing lesson in acceptance. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> dd is now almost 3 & i'm not fully to terms with my belly. it hangs, i look like i was attacked by freddy kreuger, & at times, i truly feel that my stomach was "ruined" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> those are the bad days. on the good days, i can see the beauty in what my body went through to produce a chubby, healthy baby girl who is rapidly changing each day.<br><br>
dh doesn't seem to be put off by them, which i was sure was a lie. no, he just doesn't pay them attention the way i do. men are focused on completely different things <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mischievous.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="mischief">:
 

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Dier, i can totally relate. i too am a dancer. and was left with stretch marks and a hanging stomach. it takes a loooong time to get your body back. my ds is 2.5 and it is just now that i am starting to reactivated certain muscles in my pelvis and abdomen that i just couldn't locate before. i think as a dancer i was so used to having strong muscles there that it really felt quite devastating not to be able to find them again.. i really believe that you can tone up with OUT surgery. it takes time and consistincy. first i would just kegel like crazy. maybe even get those weights for your pc muscle. you need to have strong pelvic floor muscles in order to support your abdominal muscles. secondly, i f you CAN, do pilates(on the equipment not just the mat work)) it is soo expensive but it really will help you find your weak muscles and strenghtn them and lift them. and then i would do daily massages to help break down the toxins in the skin.<br>
i have heard that it takes 2.5 years for a women to fully recover from childbirth. and i beilieve it because it is just now i feel like my body might get back to normal. before i was very pessimistic and traumatized.<br>
also, cut yourself some slack. you have 2 small children, i know how hard it is to ever even foucus on myself. you will get there just give yourself the time....i hope this helps you. this is helping me. i am am not yet a succes story, but an improving work in progress......
 
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