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<p>I know that OCD behavior is common in toddlers. I'm wondering if anyone can tell me if it's also common at my son's age (he'll be 4 in May)?</p>
<p>He seems to  exhibit the behaviors when he's feeling extra tired or stressed about something.</p>
<p>For example: today he freaked out every time his little brother (15 months) moved his chair. He has to have it in just the right spot at the table. The expression on his face and the level at which he's freaking out makes me think that he is genuinely upset--not just trying to boss his brother around. He did the same thing with other things that his brother pulled out....toys, pots & pans, etc.</p>
<p>Maybe when he's over tired he just feels more out of control and the OCD stuff shows up to try to gain some control over his surroundings?</p>
<p>Does anyone have experience with this?</p>
<p>I tried to help him by holding him and affirming his feelings (ie: "you want the balloons in the garage! you don't want B to play with the balloons!") and then helping him to take deep breaths and reassuring him.</p>
<p>He is extremely sensitive and seems to get anxious over things (sucks finger still...twirls hair, chews on finger when in new situations)....</p>
<p>Any thoughts?</p>
 

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<p>My 4yo ds is similar.  He's pretty chill most of the time, but when he's tired or hungry, he's likely to melt down about something not being just so.  Like, if I cut his sandwich (or don't), whichever was his whim at the time.  I think it's just residual babyness and inexperience that comes out sometimes.  I don't make a big deal either way about it, and just tell him he feels x because he is tired, etc, so we need to deal with that, and then talk about his problem.  I mean, I get grumpy if I'm hungry, too.  I just know how to deal with it better.</p>
 

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<p>My son is the same age and the behavior sounds very familiar. He has a little brother also and they get into small fights over where things should be, etc. He also has a habit of lining his toys up and putting things a certain way. He used to even have to have his room the same every night--no extra toys, no clothes on the floor, every thing in its place. I decided to just watch him and that if I made a big deal out of it, it would just stress him out more. So far, he appears to be changeable about what needs to be a certain way, so I'm not too concerned. He's also pretty interested in learning how everything works so he might just be figuring out how things are "supposed to be"? <span><img alt="shrug.gif" id="user_yui_3_4_1_2_1331700663450_171" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/shrug.gif"> </span></p>
 
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