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I got nuthin' for mom and MIL.<br><br>
Sigh.<br><br>
I am SO BAD at holidays and gifts...
 

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I forgot to mention.. neither are local - too late to ship anything unless we pay major bucks to overnight it.<br><br>
And we seriously don't have major bucks. Bad, bad Laohaire... should have dealt with this last week.
 

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Do you have friends or family in the same town as your mom? Maybe you can arrange for them to take care of a gift and just pay them for it. I don't have the money to actually send presents but yesterday morning I made up a card with my computer for mom and mailed it, hoping it makes it there tomorrow.
 

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do you have anyway to send them a video or audio recording of dd saying/doing/singing something cute? i mean, via email? or can you do a slideshow of her that they could view online and download?<br><br>
if that stuff won't work, you could just send a nice card with a nice note and some photos and it should arrive early next week. just call on sunday, say happy mother's day, ask if they got the card, and act like, "hmm, it should be there any day now." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> that's what i would do!
 

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oh yeah. here is what we're doing. we're having dinner with mil tonight because she has to work sunday. we're bringing a pizza (her request) and we'll also bring some photos of the kids and probably some kid artwork.<br><br>
for my mom, i ordered postage with a photo of my boys. it probably won't get there for at least another week, even though i ordered it monday, because i didn't want to pay for faster shipping. i was also going to have my boys mail her some artwork but i forgot - guess we'll be swinging by the post office tomorrow morning! it'll get there monday because she's not local, but not far (same state).<br><br>
i haven't thought about my step-mother, former-step-mother, grandmother or great-grandmother. because i'm also terrible with holidays and gifts and things. bad doubledutch!
 

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Me too! My dad sent me a text mentioning Mother's Day and I was like "Oh %*&^* that's THIS weekend???"
 

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trying to put something together for my mom via texting my sister and brother. poor mommy! She's cooking a big ole' dinner tonight because my bothers coming back from college, and she only has two weeks to fatten him up.
 

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lohaire, we are planning on doing a scrap book page with all of her kids having typed out something nice about her.<br><br>
Ya'll could do something similar, scan it, and have it printed at a wallgreens or kinkos near by her. (or just email it to her).
 

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It might not be too late to order flowers. I ordered some for my mom and MIl on Tues and had the option to have them delivered as early as wednesday morning.
 

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My dad is out of town so my mom is visiting people all weekend. So, she won't be home! I was like, "way to make it harder for me!!!"
 

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I am sending my mom itunes GCs. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
She loves to listen to books on her ipod.<br><br>
You could send amazon GCs
 

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Hahahaha... ahhh, that is the question.<br><br>
I am CHEAP. I'm a CHEAP PERSON. That is compounded by the fact that I personally hate gifts. I really, sincerely do.<br><br>
So it's a struggle for me to remind myself that I'm weird and other people like gifts and I should give them.<br><br>
Personally I think a phone call should be enough. My mother and my MIL have everything they could ever want or need. I also really wonder if $25 of flowers on the table really improves anyone's life $25 worth. See? I'm Scrooge.<br><br>
I hate consumerism and hate the pressure to spend to prove my love for my mother and MIL. I think calling them up proves it nicely enough. And making an effort to visit when I can.<br><br>
Every year I struggle with Mother's Day in particular. I cough up for birthday gifts and Christmas gifts but I never manage to plan ahead for Mother's Day.<br><br>
Hey, I'm a mother... this year for mother's day, I want to be FREE OF THE OBLIGATIONS!!!!<br><br>
Sorry if I offended anyone. Note: the above post is my opinion and my opinion only, I understand fully that mother's day is important to other people and that gifts are an expression of love to some people. I don't believe my views are the end-all-be-all, but it's just my particular POV.
 

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Oh yeah, the budget.<br><br>
I have $200 budgeted A YEAR for ALL GIFTS. Christmas. Birthdays. Anything.<br><br>
Clearly it's not enough.<br><br>
I don't have anything specifically budgeted for Mother's Day. I should change that.<br><br>
No, we don't exchange gifts at all in this house, so that $200 is only for extended family.
 

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Guys, I think this year I'm doing a phone call and letting it be.<br><br>
I will be forgiven for it, they won't disown me.<br><br>
It's not even the first year we didn't do anything for Mother's Day.
 

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If you do decide to go ahead with something, small bouquets of flowers are fine IMO and you have plenty of time to order them.
 

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would it make you feel better if I share with you ... my DH "wonderful words" about mother's day ?<br><br>
= quite a few weeks ago I reminded him that in his country, Mother's day is much earlier than where we are living now .... => don't you want to do something now so that's on time ?<br><br>
his answer "I don't want to do anything, it's all commercialism, I couldn't care less"<br><br>
PS: I didn't remind him because I actually appreciate my MIL .... I was just worried that if he did nothing, THEN I would be blamed for it. That's probably been the case, he didn't do anything for his mother, .... but then that's his choice and in the end I think he had to do what felt OK to him.<br><br>
we do give gifts to our children but we have greatly reduced gifting to each other and hardly do gifts for extended family members ....<br>
it's sometimes hard not to be in the majority but I'm sure you are NOT the only one making the choices you are making .....
 

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I totally forgot too, so I'm eff'ed. And probably won't be getting anything either since I'm pretty sure DH doesn't have an idea its this weekend either.<br><br>
I hate these holidays <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
maybe I can try to get the boys to make ... something *sigh*
 

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Oy, I probably sound just like that.<br><br>
I care about the PEOPLE though. I care about my mom and my MIL.<br><br>
I just have a hard time understanding that people do really like gifts, that they enjoy receiving them and actually appreciate them.<br><br>
Because for me, when I get gifts, I just kind of think "great, more clutter for my house." I know, I'm AWFUL. But when you think like I do, it's hard to believe that other people actually LIKE the stuff.<br><br>
I hate cards too. I mean, I'll get a card and I know I'm supposed to appreciate the sentiment and the thought but I'm really thinking "they blew $3.75 plus a stamp on something I'm going to open and throw away - what, am I supposed to KEEP this or something?" Not to mention the whole "great, a tree got chopped down to make this paper for me to open and throw away."<br><br>
Wow, I'm really showing myself in a great light here. Sigh.<br><br>
My DH agrees with me, so that probably makes it worse.<br><br>
So, yeah, mom and MIL are getting a phone call this year. A selfish choice for sure, but I just can't imagine their level of appreciation will meet or exceed the stress it will take me to deal with it. I can imagine blowing $40 to get a bouquet of flowers sent to MIL (a huge chunk of change for us) and having MIL get it and think "oh, how lovely" and that's it.
 

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I can understand your feelings, laohaire. I do enjoy giving and receiving gifts, but all the points you make are totally true. I think a phone call is just fine -- it's just about acknowledging the day, right?<br><br>
We do really simple Mother's Day gifts -- usually something like a new plant for the garden and homemade cards from the kids.
 
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