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well, i'm <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: right now.<br><br>
always been pretty well in tune with my body, and for the past week or two i've known something was up. feeling nauseous, tired, but not ill . . . so this morning i went n bought a pregnancy test. man, as soon as i peed on it, it showed positive.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> so i called dh and let him know, and the first thing out of his mouth was 'call the doctor.'<br><br>
i don't want to call a doctor. my last pg, i guess the OB was nice enough. but he didn't show up for the birth, his new partner who i'd never met did. and then because it was a holiday weekend i got lots n lots of pit and still ended up with a c/s. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> so when we talked about ttc again, i presented lots of ideas on homebirth, on midwives, etc.<br><br>
i will be bringing it up to him this evening when he gets home, and he's usually great about going along with my desires. i dont anticipate problems there, i'm just wondering. do i need to get a midwife right away and start 'prenatal care,' or can i wait a little and get my mind right for this.<br><br>
really i'm just sort of freaked out and in shock right now, and need some advice.<br><br>
tia!
 

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CONGRATS!<br>
My advice is to take as long as you need before running off to a prenatal care provider. Start taking vitamins, (or not) and spend a long time discussing the options for birth. Homebirth, (my personal favorite!), birth with a midwife in a birth center, or even hospital... and then you can start shopping around for midwives. It's common to change midwives during pregnancy, even quite a number of times! You can start meeting with midwives that interest you, discussing your possibilities, and planning out your ideal birth- (obviously quite different from your previous experience!)<br>
Of course there are LM's, CNM's... doula's etc.<br><br>
My DH was concerned at first about homebirth, so having a Certified Nurse Midwife was kind of like our compromise, and after reading Henci Goer's "The Thinking Woman's Guide to a Better Birth" he's been very supportive!<br><br>
Good luck in your decision and have a happy, healthy pregnancy!
 

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First of all <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime"> CONGRATULATIONS!!! Surprises can be fun but, well, surprising, LOL.<br><br>
I think it's a great idea not to call a doctor. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Are you interested in doing a VBAC? (vaginal birth after cesarean) or a HBAC (Homebirth after cesarean)?<br><br>
There's no reason for you to have prenatal appointments yet-- you already know what to do and not to do while pregnant, and you have an idea of when you got pregnant. But it would be a good time to start researching your options... such as finding midwives or birthing centers in your area. I know in some places midwives can book up quick so you might want to think about interviewing some.<br><br>
You totally have time to think about whatever it is you want in terms of prenatal care!!! It's your birth and you should do it the way you want <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> And it sounds to me like your DH will be on board once you explain your wishes to him. He probably just said to call the doctor because that's what he was used to with your last pregnancy.
 

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thanks mamas! i'm getting a little more excited . . . by the end of the day i'll be great! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
thanks for the advice, too. i'm definitely gonna take my time this time and find someone who will help me have the birth i want. i'm hoping for an HBAC, but will be okay with VBAC. i just really, really, really do not want another c/s, it had to be the most horrid experience i've had.<br><br>
so it looks like i'll be doing lots and lots of research and interviews. . . cool!<br><br>
(anyone know of any great midwives in NE Ohio?<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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Maybe if you try to Tribal area or Birth Professionals board you could find a MW in your area? I live in NJ so I am not much help. lol.<br><br>
P.S. there is also a vbac forum under birth and beyond!
 

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Definitely, take your time. This is your second pregnancy, so you know that all the doctor will do the first few months is take your blood pressure and tell you to take prenatals. There's nothing they'd do about any of the blood test results in the beginning except tell you to take iron if you're anemic, too.<br><br>
I got pregnant with #2 just as I graduated from law school, and I had to move and take the bar exam in the next few months. The first time I saw a doctor was around 4 months, and even then I would have waited another few weeks except that I was silly enough to call the ob/gyn I'd picked to make an appointment for a few weeks down and they refused to do it because it was already so "late." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug">: I'm 32 weeks now, and no ill effects <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Yeah, no hurries! Just try to eat and drink and sleep <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">.<br><br>
I second the suggestion to check out the Finding Your Tribe section -- the Indiana/Ohio/Michigan board is <a href="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/forumdisplay.php?f=80" target="_blank">here</a> <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">. People ask for mw recommendations all the time, so you should be able to turn a bunch of info up with a search.<br><br>
A great book to read (for you and dh) is called <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=motheringhud-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FPushed-Painful-Childbirth-Modern-Maternity%2Fdp%2F0738210730%2Fref%3Dpd_bbs_sr_1%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbooks%26qid%3D1196107504%26sr%3D1-1" target="_blank">Pushed</a>. It talks about how messed up hospital birth is, and why OBs do the things they do (like, give lots of pit on holiday weekends!). And check in the FYT section to see if there are any area screenings of the movie <a href="http://www.thebusinessofbeingborn.com/" target="_blank">The Business of Being Born</a>. It makes a great companion to Pushed. If there aren't any screenings coming up, I've heard it will be coming out on Netflix eventually. These things will probably help your dh become more comfortable with the idea of a homebirth or birth center birth.<br><br>
Congratulations and good luck!
 

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Although I agree with much of what has been said about not "needing" to go see a midwife right away in terms of getting "early prenatal care" and all that jazz, I DO want to jump in with a thought. In some areas, the midwives get booked up very quickly, because there just aren't many of them, so I would actually encourage looking ASAP, because you don't want to be halfway through your pregnancy and starting to call around and realizing that all the midwives who WOULD have taken you are already booked up for your due date. This is especially more important with homebirth, since most homebirth midwives will only schedule a VERY limited number of births each month, to ensure each client gets the best, most personal care, and to try and ensure she is actually available for your delivery and doesn't have 3 women in labor at once, etc.<br>
this *might* not be a factor in your area, but in some places, if you don't call the instant the stick turns blue, you're out of luck, the midwives are already booked! Put it this way, my midwife already had this coming January booked ...in APRIL.<br>
Also, as a pp pointed out, some providers will not take someone who has not started prenatal care early (even with a different care provider). So, you also don't want to find yourself in the position of finding out all your local options would have taken you, but only if you had started care prior to 12 weeks, etc. Or, could be a total non-issue.<br>
Also, since you ARE a Vbac/Hbac.....you *might* have a harder time finding someone to take you. Not necesarily, but there *are* some midwives who just won't take you, so you might find your options to be more limited than another woman....<br>
The fact that midwifery is under attack in Ohio makes it harder...you are possibly going to have to go "underground" to find a midwife...etc.<br>
Another factor which might make it better to seek out a provider sooner rather than later is stress....which we all know is bad...so, getting settled in a knowing you have a care provider who you are comfortable with might just make you and dh feel better, and that sense of well-being is certainly better for you and baby than the stress of worrying about wat you are going to do, looking for someone, interviewing providers, etc. Maybe not, depends on your personality, but something to think about.<br><br>
Anyway, just wanted to throw out some thoughts.....
 

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oooh, 'the business of being born', i've been meaning to look for that!<br><br>
well, i've posted my ISO threads in tribal areas and birth professionals, but no responses yet . . . keeping the fingers crossed! there's a board i know of for cleveland area but i don't go there often, i posted there, too.<br><br>
midwifery being under attack here is one of the reasons i want to try to find one asap, for sure. it's gonna be a stressful thing. i wont feel right until i have a . . . mentor i guess you could call it.<br><br>
uh-oh, ds needs some 'booh-bee.'<br>
gtg
 
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