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i'm needing some support/advice/whatever i can get.<br><br>
i have called the local legal aid office and left several messages and have not heard anything. i've called a domestic violence hotline and called the numbers they recommended, and nothing. i guess that's what i get for living in a big city. seriously, what does it take just to find out my legal rights for crying out loud!? i'm so frustrated that it's all i can do to hold myself together! it doesn't help that i can only make and receive phone calls when stbx is not around. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bawling.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bawl">
 

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I don't know where you live but I called the DV hotline and asked for two laywers numbers, called both one never returned my call.<br>
I think you have to ask specific questions, my dv support group is very helpful with resources, shelters I hear are great places too even if you aren't a resident.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">i'm needing some support/advice/whatever i can get.<br><br>
i have called the local legal aid office and left several messages and have not heard anything. i've called a domestic violence hotline and called the numbers they recommended, and nothing. i guess that's what i get for living in a big city. seriously, what does it take just to find out my legal rights for crying out loud!? i'm so frustrated that it's all i can do to hold myself together! it doesn't help that i can only make and receive phone calls when stbx is not around. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bawling.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bawl"></div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Sorry to burst your bubble but where I live it's impossible to get a legal aid lawyer. You either go in with your own hired lawyer or you go in unrepresented. Our legal aid lawyers outirght refuse to take on new clients and said the waiting list for representation was over 2 years (and that was almost 3 years ago)
 

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Are there law schools near you? Call them. A lot have legal clinics where students, under the supervision of a licensed attorney, can help you.<br>
Just keep calling people, if someone says they can't help, ask if they have any other ideas of who or where to call.<br><br>
Also, some court houses have "lawyer of the day" programs. Go to the court house in your county and see if they have one, they sit there for a day and wil answer questions, etc.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Are there law schools near you? Call them. A lot have legal clinics where students, under the supervision of a licensed attorney, can help you.<br>
Just keep calling people, if someone says they can't help, ask if they have any other ideas of who or where to call.<br><br>
Also, some court houses have "lawyer of the day" programs. Go to the court house in your county and see if they have one, they sit there for a day and wil answer questions, etc.</div>
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thanks for the great idea! i know my university has a legal clinic, but they aren't taking pro bono divorce cases. i bet they'd answer some questions though!
 

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it's not that i'm against paying, i just really, really need some advice right now. i was also told that my university's legal clinic only takes divorce cases if they come recommended from the legal aid office. that would awesome if that could happen.<br><br>
*sigh* i guarantee your town's not the only one with long waiting lists. it's so unfortunate, especially for people in desperate circumstances.
 

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Also, this site has a ton of information<br><a href="http://kansasfamilylawblog.lexblog.com/" target="_blank">http://kansasfamilylawblog.lexblog.com/</a><br>
and you might be able to find a link to your state also.
 

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I live in a city where the local bar association offers a service that connects people to attorneys for low-cost consultations. I paid $20 to talk to one attorney and get some advice (actually a second opinion).
 

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Hey LLobster,<br>
I'm so sorry to hear about your experiences w/ the DV hotline. I used to work at a DV crisis line and a DV shelter, and we referred to Legal Aid all the time. In our area DV cases were prioritized. I'm so sad to hear it isn't like that everywhere else. It really should be! Other suggestions would be what the other mamas have already said...your state bar association, any legal school or college around. I wonder if you can call the DV shelter in your area and get some better referrals? Also what you said about not being able to make/receive calls...that is really scary. I hope you have a good support system. Do you have friends/family around? I am sending you safe thoughts and good-luck wishes!<br><br>
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I must have called 25 attorneys in my quest to find one, and I learned a little more about the family code with each call. I spoke to some pretty pricey attorneys, too. Usually in the first call, they would ask about my case and wind up explaining some nuance of the Family Code. It might not hurt to just start cold calling family law attorneys, if you're looking for basic information.
 

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good luck! Will you be able to come up with money for a retainer once you start filing things? Sometimes you can be awarded temporary maintenance or access to enough $$ for legal stuff. I know my ex and I got halfway through the divorce, and each took a big hunk of $$ for divorce trial use.
 
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