[mommy2abigail]

Wow, I'd heard about this mystical 2 year old thing. Seen it happen with those 'other' mothers who OBVIOUSLY didn't have any sort of parenting skills, and prided myself that not a one of my daycare kids ever acted that way with ME. Surely MY child would never be one of those classified as a terrible 2! WE were going to make this year TERRIFIC! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
Ummm....ok where did I go wrong?! Sheesh, she is a pill somedays! And I feel myself quickly slipping into punative parenting.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I'm trying trying. To let the little things go. To see things from her point of view. To remember just how little she is. It's just hard when she wont nap, is screaming at the top of her lungs over me wiping her sticky watermelon hands, refuses to do just about anything....<br>
Something that I've done lately that I'm not sure about is tell her to call me when she's calmer, or when she's ready. For example, after her bath, she is very squirmy and gets crazy as I try to wrangle her jammies on. I wait for a minute, ask her to calm down, and even engage in a little tickle. However, most days she just gets soooo wound up, and it usually results in her kicking me. So now I tell her to call me when she's ready to lay down and get her jammies on. I walk out of the room. She is free to follow or stay there, whatever. Some days she will jump on the bed a little and somedays she follows me. Most days she will call me back before I even make it to the door, nd lay still enough for me to dress her. I dont try to make it a threat, I say it the same way I'd say the sky is blue. It works well, so it's easy to use that for other things as well. Like ok, call me when you're ready to eat at your seat. Or when you are ready to clean up your mess so we can g=play with something else. Or when you are ready to show your gentle hands. Some times she cries, but I reasure her it's ok, and she can take her time. Is this ok or am I missing something here?<br>
Ok that's all for now, although I know Ill have more questions later!

 

[crayon]

I have one too- born 3/16/05. She is my second- and I swear they gave me my first for a reson. My second is so dang cute- and I swear it keeps her alive <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Somedays I could just go bonkers with her. She does EVERYTHING her sister is told not to do- she HATES wearing clothes. We are at my ILs until the 1st when we get our new place and they can not stand having her naked. She HAS to brush her own teeth (cavities I swear are just a day away) she HAS to bush her own hair. She HAS to put on her own tights. She is loud and hyper. Wakes at the butt crack of dawn and is refusing to take naps.<br><br>
Most of the time when she is having a fit I say "ok, have your moment." and I walk away- let her do her own hair, put on her own tights, bursh her own teeth, wash her own face. I have released the stress of going to the store with a total miss matched child- and I try to find the cuteness in it. I laugh a lot about how she was born to be loud and the center of everything.<br><br>
We are good mothers, we have good daughters and we will make it to 3-4-5... we will....

 

[mommy2abigail]

<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Awww, thanks for that. I really, really needed that tonight. i want to be so much more than I am, and most days, I'm the mom I want to be. But somedays....not so much. I just read the 'things that only make sense to a toddler' thread, and it picked up my spirits so much. It's fun to see that most other kids her age are doing the same crazy things!