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My dd is 3.5 and is a great kid. We have a lot of fun with her.<br><br>
She has recently taken up whining as her favorite hobby <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:. I can't STAND it when she whines. It gets on my last nerve and makes me want to pull my hair out! Is it something I am doing that makes her do this or is it just the nature of the age? Please tell me I am not the only one with this! If your dc has past this phase, any tokens of wisdom you could share with me??<br><br>
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I think most children go through a whining stage. I would always tell my older ones "I can't hear you when you whine, please speak clearly." My DS grew out of it, my DD? She's almost 12 and she STILL whines about things. *sigh*
 

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My 3 yr old whines...ALL THE TIMEAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> Lately, we have started to teach him how to request something or whatever it is that's making him whine. For example, if a kid is doing something that is brothing him and he is yell/whining STOOOOOOOOOOOPAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH! Then I say (after taking a few deep breaths) "Why don't you say, please stop that" or I tell him to suggest doing something else. We try to teach him, but so far only about 1/4 of the time it works. I am starting to feel desperate, but remind myself it is just a phase.<br><br>
Good luck to you, I know how hard it is....in fact this morning when my dh left for work I said "think of me, b/c I am going to have a long day"<br><br>
1more thing-as I was writing this, Logan started whining and yelling MIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIINNNNNNEEEEEEEEEEEAAAAAAAAAAAaHH HHHHHHHH! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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Yep, I gotta 3 y/o and the whining has started full forse. It's enough to make you commit yourself. I just have to breath, count to ten and try to ignore it if it isn't an urgent situation.<br><br>
Taking him into any sort of store is the worse. When he wants something he says, "Can we get that? Can we?? Can we?? Can we?? CAN WE!!!!!!!!!!"<br><br>
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Dd has been whining for a while now; at first I was nice (honey, can you please ask me in a normal voice instead of your whining voice?) or I'd ignore it. After many months of this, I've become more direct: 'that's whining, and it needs to stop right now.' Or, 'Stop whining.' Or, 'If you're going to whine go to the other room.' I'm don't think those are the ideal responses, but boy the whining is enough to drive you crazy. Ignoring it doesn't get me anywhere either, because she'll keep at it until *I* can't take it anymore (even if I'm not responding).<br><br>
Anyhow, she still whines, but I have to say that being more direct with her seems to cut it off. She might get mad, but at least she stops.
 

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Ugh. The Whine.<br><br>
Ds has just turned 4 and still whines a good bit, but less, thank goodness. My ears have been ultra-sensitive for the past few months, for some reason, and it's physically painful to hear.<br><br>
For awhile now, I've been telling him, "Your whining hurts my ears. I'm going to have to stop listening until you speak to me in your normal voice."<br><br>
As long as I stick to my guns, it works fairly well.
 

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My mom told me this one (she was a Kindergarten teacher for years and I have a younger sister) "I can't hear you unless you lower your voice and use nice words with me." and then turn away until they speak to you nicely. It works wonders in my house. It doesn't help if your children are screaming at oneanother!
 

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My kids didn't whine much, thank the gods. But my two nephews whined inncessantly. It made me crazy within seconds. I usually tried humor, as in "Do you want some cheese with that whine?" They were silly boys with a good sense of humor, so it was ok.<br><br>
When they stayed with me, I usually snapped within hours and told them, politely, that I simply was one of those people who couldn't cope with that sound. If they had a problem, please talk normally. If they forgot, I'd just remind them.<br><br>
They are 16, and still whine, constantly! to their mother. Never with me.
 

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Thank you mamas. I have been trying some of those already........we have been going through this for a few mos now. I think I need to work on consistency. My patience is so low due to preg <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">. I do no tolerate the whining easily. It is good to know that mine is not the only child that does, though. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I thought all children came with a whining stage, LOL! Anyways, we have our days. Right now it seems like once a month we have a bad whining day. I tell her I don't understand what she is saying/asking for till she asks nicely. THEN when she does ask nicely, I immediatey jump up and get/do whatever and tell her that I understood her that time.<br><br>
Also, I will frequently out of the blue say to her "you know what, I like when you ask me something without whining" or something along that line just to reinforce to her that she's doing the right thing by not whining. Hope that made sense.
 
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