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I didn't meet their "25 milestones for the First 5 Years"

Too late for DD, guess I better try to stuff them in in the next 15 months for DS.

http://family.msn.com/tool/article.a...p=true&offer=2

My failings:
Get baby out of your bed and into a crib when he is 3 months old.
Get baby a big-kid bed around the age of 2. (DD *had* a big-kid bed--- does it not matter she never used it until after 5? DS *has* gone into a big-kid bed).
Take baby's pacifier away around 2 to 3 months of age.
Get a pet no earlier than age 2. (uhhh, we already HAD a pet).
Have drop-off play dates by age 3.
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Tell your toddler about the new baby in your belly sometime during the second trimester. (told DD about the baby in my UTERUS the day we found out).

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Go on a trip without your child before baby is 5 months old. "At this age, babies don't miss you when you are away," says Scarlett. "In many ways, babies are more resilient to separation than toddlers, whose greater ability to picture you means they have a greater ability to miss you." The earlier you start leaving baby -- and get him accustomed to a caregiver and to the idea that you will return -- the easier future separations will be for both of you. Plus, you and your partner deserve some time away!
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Teach children to tie their shoes by kindergarten.

And, of course, I did some of the things WAAAAAAY too "early"
 

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Wow, I am also failing miserably as a parent.
I am baffled by the suggestions for physical play. Put a child on a "big kid" swing 3-6 months after she learns to walk? DS is 3 and he still consistently falls off of them!

Wow, i had no idea I was such a horrible parent, smothering my child like this.
 

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To be fair, they did add in after the "out of bed at 3 months" - "(This does not apply, of course, to parents who opt for a family bed.)" It's nice they at least acknowledged it!

We got our dog when dd was 1.

If being a successful parent means leaving my 5 month old baby, I prefer to be a failure!! That's a load of BULL that they don't miss you!
 

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Oh, and I told 3 year old dd about the baby in my UTERUS as soon as we found out, too!
The first time we went to the midwife she proudly proclaimed, "There's a baby in my mommy's uterus!" Midwife was very impressed.
 

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Go on a trip without your child before baby is 5 months old.
People actually do this?!

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Start teaching ABCs, numbers, colors, and shapes when baby is 6 months old.
No. I'll let her be a baby and stop worrying about "school."

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Start chores when baby is 18 months old.
Nope! Play, not work!

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Take a baby to the dentist within six months of his getting his first tooth, or no later than his first birthday
My 3.5-year-old has never been to the dentist.

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Visit Santa when your child is 3 or 4.
We're not doing Santa...

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Teach kids to ride a two-wheeler as young as age 4.
I learned when I was 7. Guess I was failed.
 

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Are you sure the article is not some kind of spoof?

Leave baby at 5 moths? Like, do you leave your breasts with him?
 

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Interesting...

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Get baby out of your bed and into a crib when he is 3 months old. If you wait too much longer, you might have a difficult time getting him accustomed to sleeping in his own space. (This does not apply, of course, to parents who opt for a family bed.)
Well...they did mention family beds. Some of that is rather silly. Why would you go on a trip alone when you have a five month old unless it was INCREDIBLY necessary?
 

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I was honestly shocked by the trip by five months and the get rid of the pacifier by 2-3 months. Those two seem to be far outside the "norm" even for mainstream parents.
 

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What do they think will happen to BREASTFEEDING if you are away from your 5-month-old baby on a trip?

Oh, I guess at 5 months surely any sane mother would have weaned? Unless she is one of those freakazoids who is only nursing for themselves. :LOL
 

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: What a bunch of BS!!!
 

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get baby out of your bed and into a crib when he is 3 months old.
Nope.

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Get baby a big-kid bed around the age of 2.
Can't remember how old she was. It wasn't important.

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Take baby's pacifier away around 2 to 3 months of age....
and they say it causes speech problems in 3 to 4 year olds. Well it didn't cause speech problems for my firstborn, and my secondborn never had one. So again...nope.

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Start teaching ABCs, numbers, colors, and shapes when baby is 6 months old. While comprehension won't come for some time, there is no downside to introducing these concepts to very young children. Keep the learning fun and meaningful -- use books, real-life examples (the banana is yellow, the ball is round), and forget the flash cards! "Rather than grill them on letters, sing songs, read books, and say rhymes," says Linda Acredolo, PhD, professor of psychology at the University of California at Davis and the author of Baby Minds (Bantam Books, 2000).
Good god I don't even remember whether I did this or not. And I am certainly not going to beat myself up trying.

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Have a one-on-one play date once your baby can sit up and get a good view of his buddy. "Babies are much more interested in each other than people realize," says Acredolo. "Even at 2 to 3 months, they notice each other. By 9 to 12 months, they are offering each other toys and imitating each other." To encourage friendly interaction and to minimize fighting, have doubles of toys on hand.
Yes, we did this, but cause the other mom was my FRIEND and it was fun. And I did know that babies enjoy each other...but WHO CARES if another mom DOESN"T do this? Who expletive cares?

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Get a pet no earlier than age 2.
I am so glad I am not living with the incredibly bossy annoying author of this article.

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For pets such as cats and dogs, it's best to wait until a child can be gentle and considerate, probably not until he's at least 3 or 4.
Already had one when the kid was born. Too bad so sad.

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Have drop-off play dates by age 3.
As if! How am I going to find a friend willing to watch two three year olds alone!?! :LOL

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Start chores when baby is 18 months old. P
Nope.

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Tell your toddler about the new baby in your belly sometime during the second trimester. ... be sure to tell them what their role will be and what they can do to help once the baby arrives," .
What they can do to HELP? "I'm getting a new kid and you will have to WORK now." Oh wait they've already been doing housework since 18 months :LOL

(I don't think it's wrong to have toddlers help with simple chores, I just never bothered!)

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Take a baby to the dentist within six months of his getting his first tooth, or no later than his first birthday, according to the American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that children see a dentist at age 3, earlier if there are problems such as staining or abnormal tooth development. Which is right for you? Consult your pediatrician, or err on the side of caution and go when your child is younger to ensure the best preventive care.
Since they can't decide I'm glad I didn't spend too much time worrying about it. We did get around to it eventually.

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Give baby his first trip down the slide unattended at 15 to 18 months, says Jody L. Jensen, PhD, associate professor of kinesiology and health education at the University of Texas at Austin. Once a baby starts to walk well, he has the ability to control his trunk and make adjustments in his body posture, which allows him to slide and land at the bottom safely on his own.
This is classist. We lived in an apt. with no playground and no other playground nearby at that time.

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Put baby on a "big kid" swing three to six months after he learns to walk.
See above.

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Buy your baby a ride-on toy once she can sit steadily.
AGAIN with the BOSSINESS!!!!!

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Buy your baby a tricycle at 18 months. W
Nope

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Stop using sippy cups when your child is 18 months old.
yeah right! :LOL

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Visit Santa when your child is 3 or 4.
Nope.

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Go on a trip without your child before baby is 5 months old. "At this age, babies don't miss you when you are away,"
As if!

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Teach kids to blow their nose at age 3.
I may have done this.

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Let an older sibling hold baby when you feel it's safe and appropriate.
Oh my, common sense for once!

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Teach children to tie their shoes by kindergarten.
They had other ideas


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Teach kids to ride a two-wheeler as young as age 4.
Nope. I was 8!!!!

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Sign up for swim lessons once your child turns 4.
Nope it was later.

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Let your child answer the phone at age 4
I don't think so!

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Let a child chew gum at age 5.
They never asked, I never bothered.

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Start giving a child an allowance during elementary school
I waited until they asked.

Well that was a waste of time! :LOL
 
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