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So Ds (6) has grown out his hair over the past 6 months, to shoulder-length in the back and chin-length in the front (where the shorter layers are). He REALLY REALLY wants long hair -- "long long down to the floor" he says -- but it's starting to present some problems.<br><br>
I can wash it (with baking soda or Dr Bronner's, we are no-poo) and later the same day it looks all clumpy and unkempt.<br><br>
The worst? He cannot keep it out of his face when he eats. So he's always brushing it back with his hands that have food on them and the bits around his face get all disgusting and lanky <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grossedout.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="gross"> the other day DH fed him a piece of cold chicken before storytime at the library and his whole head was *drenched* with chicken grease. It had to be washed again before he could leave the house. NASTY.<br><br>
It's not long enough to keep it all back in a ponytail and I don't think pigtails would be do-able either. I did buy some little clips for him but after about 10 minutes he says he doesn't like them and takes them out.<br><br>
I know there's lots of kids out there that have long hair, so howcome I seem to be the only one in the world whose kid looks like a street beggar every time we go out in public? I'm really uncomfortable with telling him he has to cut <i>his</i> hair which he wants long, but I'm at my wits end.<br><br>
(To make things worse, if I *do* cut it, I -- and him -- will be in for a million "told you so's" from my ILs and family who think it was pretty stupid of me to let him grow it out in the first place. And being only human, I'd really rather avoid that!)
 

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We're in a slightly different situation, but I am interested in the responses you get. Ds is only 4, and I want to grow his hair long (he doesn't seem to care). But I can't figure out how to grow it long without it covering his eyes or having a bowl cut.<br><br>
For your son - how about a bandana? I don't know what it's called (doo rag?) where it covers his head and ties in the back? We used to put that on ds when he was younger and it was super cute!
 

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You could try a headband; either Alice-in-Wonderland style or circling his head feathered-headdress style.
 

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I have a friend with 7yo twins who insist on their hair long and they wear hats a lot. Soon it will be long enough for a pony but not yet.<br><br>
my son's hair was long for a long time between 2 and 7, but for some reason we didn't have this problem. Well, he did have bangs.
 

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I don't have a long haired boy, but I do have a VERY long haired girl.<br><br>
I think braids would help keep it back and out of his face, but would he wear them? I'm thinking cornrow-type french or dutch braids. I've also seen some very nice, not girly, french or dutch braids on males at Renaissance faires. Oh, and in the LOTR movie.<br><br>
My dd's hair is almost always braided - fewer tangles, less hair care overall. A good, well plaited braid can last several days before becoming so fuzzy that it has to be taken down and combed out. And it definately stays cleaner!<br><br>
Here's a good site for braiding instructions and examples, including some on men:<br><a href="http://www.dreamweaverbraiding.com/" target="_blank">http://www.dreamweaverbraiding.com/</a>
 

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My daughter's hair is very long, and it's curly. We were having the same issues you are. I finally talked with her and said that if she wants to have long hair, she has to do certain things to keep her hair healthy and attractive. I brush it every morning. I brush it and put it in ponytails or barrettes before we go out. (If we are staying home, she doesn't have to do anything with it.) When she eats, she has to have a ponytail or barrettes to keep it away from her face. When she gripes about these things, I remind her that we have a deal: if she wants long hair, she has to do certain things to keep her hair healthy and looking attractive. If she can't do those things, we'll need to cut her hair so that it's manageable. I don't threaten her, I just remind her of the deal we have.<br><br>
My daughter is 3, and she understands this. I think your six-year-old son is certainly old enough to have a discussion like this and work out some mutually acceptable strategies.<br><br>
If his hair is too short for a ponytail, try a headband, a hat, or just taking the top and sides and putting it in a little ponytail on the top of his head.<br><br>
As for the hair looking dirty, I tried washing my hair with Dr. Bronner's. It was not right for my hair. It left my hair clumpy and sticky and unbrushable. Perhaps this is not the right hair-care product for your son's hair. Everyone's hair is different and some people need different types of products.<br><br>
Namaste!
 

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We use hats (skull caps, not a fan of ball caps), headbands and barrettes. DS has great hair (unlike his mama), so it's just growing off to the side mostly - a natural part?<br><br>
By brother just moved into a new apartment and held a house warming. DS attended with DP and I and my brother's very hip crowd loved the "fashion mullet" DS has going now, lol. Argh.<br><br>
When it was a bit shorter and not sweeping to the side I used gel. DS likes the coloured ones.
 

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ITA. Long hair is work, and if your ds wants his hair long, he needs to accept some of the responsibility of caring for it.
 

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Wow, some great ideas! I'm over here <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/duh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="duh"> at not thinking of a bandanna or skullcap. I use scarves to cover/contain my own hair some days. We'll check for bandannas at the dollar store today.<br><br>
I never thought of cornrows either. I dunno if I'm up to learning them on a squirmy 6-yo but I can see how they would come in handy. Maybe I'll give it a try!<br><br>
Wonder how how long till it's all long enough to ponytail every day ... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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yep, I was thinking headbands or hats ....<br>
something I have always done when I need an efficient headband in a pinch is cut the sleeve off of a tshirt- works great as a headband! and can be washed with the laundry
 

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I just used the most boring hair clips I could find on BeanBean when he still had his beautiful long hair. On an older child, I'd probably go for bobby pins because they show less. They could keep his hair out of his face without looking like he's wearing barrettes. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
The other thing is, at six (unless he's got nappy hair) he should probably be learning to care for it himself; that is, to comb and brush his own hair, shampoo, etc. It's his decision to grow his hair long, but by making that choice he's also choosing to take more responsibility for caring for himself. If his hair requires more work, that can (and probably should) wait until he's older, but there are still things which a six year old can do to make caring for their hair easier (like put in some bobby pins).
 
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