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I've already got a nice pooch over here and I am 14 weeks tomorrow.<br><br>
At my first prenatal appointment today they gave me a really LARGE bag stuffed with a lot of mothering magazines, other magazines, samples, coupons, etc. And, I mean LARGE...it was stuffed and must weigh 20 pounds!<br><br>
So, DH thought we'd let the kids look through it and guess what kind of appointment Mommy went to.<br><br>
I gave them hints. What is this a picture of...(a baby), and what is this (a small diaper)...so forth. There was SO MUCH baby stuff in there. I don't get how my oldest especially didn't guess!<br><br>
For some reason I'm having difficulty just coming out and saying it. I want something cute and memorable. Does anyone have any ideas?<br><br>
For some reason I'm worried they might be upset (which they probably won't!).
 

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This is how we told the kids.<br><br>
(I wrote it down right after, because we thought it turned out hilarious. Annie is 8, Molly is 4. I was 7w3d. I added color to the different "actors" because it was all running together - I don't know if that helps or makes it more confusing! Annie loved hearing the story again, just now.)<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/carrot.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="carrot"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/broc1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Broccoli">: May 4, Annie helped make dinner (scrambled eggs, 5 biscuits, apples, honey)<br><br><span style="color:#0000FF;">Annie: Let's do cheers!</span><br>
<we raise our glasses and say cheers><br><span style="color:#0000FF;">Annie: Why do people do cheers?</span><br><span style="color:#008000;">To celebrate something. What should we celebrate?</span><br>
<no answer> <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/headscratch.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="headscratch"><br><span style="color:#008000;">Can you think of something we could celebrate today?</span> <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br>
<no answer> <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/headscratch.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="headscratch"><br>
<we then eat dinner and have typical conversations><br><span style="color:#0000FF;">Annie: Can I have the last biscuit?</span><br><span style="color:#008000;">No. We can all share it.</span><br><span>Molly: We can cut it into 3 halfs.</span><br><span style="color:#008000;">haha No, we need more than 3</span><br><span style="color:#0000FF;">Annie: 4?</span><br>
<Molly shows us how to cut it into 4 halfs><br><span style="color:#008000;">yes! Now, what if I told you there were 5 people in our family?</span><br><span style="color:#0000FF;">Annie: Then the biscuit would be all gone.</span> <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/duh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="duh"><br><span style="color:#008000;">haha! No, forget about the biscuit. What if I told you there were going to be 5 people in our family?</span><br><span style="color:#0000FF;">Annie: Then we would have to cut it into 5 pieces.</span><br>
<this back & forth goes on for a long time><br>
<we try desperately to steer the conversation away from the 5th biscuit><br><span style="color:#008000;">What would it mean if there were 5 people in our family?</span><br><span style="color:#0000FF;">Annie: We wouldn't have an extra biscuit.</span><br>
<aaaaaaaaaaaaa> <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bigeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bigeyes"><br><span style="color:#008000;">How many people are in our family?</span><br><span>Molly counts: 4</span><br><span style="color:#008000;">Where could a 5th person be?</span><br>
<Annie points to a space at the table where a chair "could" be><br><span style="color:#008000;">If we told you that there are going to be 5 people in our family, where is the 5th person now?</span><br>
<Annie thinks, then points up to heaven, which is where we told her all babies start><br><span style="color:#008000;">Nope, somewhere else.</span><br>
<Annie points up to my head, which is where I have always told her that she was before I was pregnant with her><br><span style="color:#008000;">Good guess - but not there, either</span><br>
<great confusion><br><span style="color:#0000FF;">Annie: But you're not pregnant</span><br><span style="color:#008000;">Oh, yes I am!</span> <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hearts.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hearts"><br><span>Molly: How did that happen?</span><br><br>
Then, we all discussed the various aspects of me being pregnant - how I couldn't possibly be pregnant because I'm not big enough - what will it be - what kind of car are we going to need - we forgot to think of a baby name ... Annie did also ask some serious questions, such as how do I know I'm pregnant? I told her that I'm sure because I've already seen a doctor. I have always told her that God decides if someone is going to have a baby, but she's seen on Little House on the Prairie where Caroline wanted to have a baby, but she couldn't, so she was worried that maybe I might not be.<br><br>
Then, we just waited to see who they chose to tell, how & when. It was cute for a few days ... then they sort of got bored. We decided to tell our parents on Mother's Day - and asked Annie to do it. That was a big mistake! We practically had to drag the story out of them because they confused the grandparents so severely.<br><br>
Forever, we will remember the story of the 5th biscuit! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">:<br><br>
have fun creating a memorable story!<br>
--janis
 

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phatchristy, I know what you mean. And jrabbit, that is a hilarious story! I'm glad you've written it down - it'll be a great one for the family archive.<br><br>
I was struggling with this, too, and since mine are older I felt like I had to tell them before they started noticing my changing shape. Also, I didn't want to tell anyone else before them, in case someone slipped up and asked them about it. I had several days when I felt like I had the "right moment" but my husband was tired or didn't feel ready, and I wanted to wait for him, too. When I told my midwife I was struggling for a way to tell them she suggested making a birthday cake, and telling them who it was for. Since they always love a reason for cake, I figured this was a great idea!<br><br>
We ended up telling them at Grandma's house, with aunties and uncles present, with the cake. It went off pretty well, except that my ds (7) was kind of tired at the time, and not really that focussed on what I was saying. So he got kind of confused after I announced that they'd be getting a new brother or sister - he lay down on the floor, really quiet for a few minutes while everyone else talked and congratulated us. Then he stood up and asked me in this really sweet but kind of anxious voice: "But, who's having the baby?" It was so cute and funny, we couldn't help but laugh (me, too), which made him kind of self-conscious and I started to worry he might cry. I guess it was a bit overwhelming. So, while it was fun to share the news with the bigger family group (it did feel festive with the cake), maybe it would have been better for him if we had told him and dd at home, with just the four of us, first. DD, 11, took it in great stride, didn't even seem that surprised, and was very excited immediately. Ds has started warming up to the idea more and more, I think he just needed some time. I'm sure however you tell them, your kids will pick up on your happiness and excitement. Let us know how it goes!
 

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I don't think I am being particularly original with this, but what about "big brother" "big sister" shirts? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I bet they will be super excited when they DO figure it out!
 

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When I was 17 my parents had a "surprise" moment when they found out they were going to have their 7th. They were not spring chickens so they hid it from us until she was 3 months along. Then two days before Christmas they sat us all down and said we could each open one gift early. They put a gift in front of each of us and told us to open them at the same time. When we did we each had something to do with babies. We all looked at each other in shock and then at my parents who were sitting on the couch crying. It was priceless!! Of course we figured it out and were all very thrilled. Now we tell my youngest brother about it and he loves it, we always remind him at Christmastime about the special present we got.
 

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I still couldn't bring myself to do it today...ACK. Too much else going on during the weekend. There are some great suggestions here! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
Only my two older ones are going to get it, the youngest is 2. I do think that if I tell them when they're in the right mood they'll be really happy. I'm going to talk to DH about it this weekend and see if we can come up with something creative!
 
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