So, dd1 has been refusing to eat for many days in a row now, and will be sooooo cranky and weepy all day because of it (and her whining drives me up the wall) and then, right at bedtime, she says she is hungry. So we feed her. Which of course delays bedtime and she can barely eat even though she's hungry because she is so tired. I don't know what to do. I have tried, in the past, to coerce her to eat, and it works enough that she'll get something in her stomach at least, but I am tired of this and I don't think it is the best idea in the long run.... this morning I told her she didn't have to eat and that the food will still be there all day and that I wasn't going to ask her to eat and that she can tell me when she's hungry... (which is pretty much my tactic in general these days) and I explain over and over why it's important to eat a little here and there throughout the day instead of all at once before bed... just now she was whining and crying about something she wouldn't usually have a problem with and I explained that it might be because she is hungry (to which she said "no I'm not!"). I don't know what to do..... I need advice. How long can this possibly continue? I want to ride through it with as much equinimaty as possible, but my patience is really wearing thin, and whining is one of my major buttons.....and at times I end up yelling because of it, and then of course I feel terrible, dd feels terrible.... ug. Any help would be great. thanks.