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Up until now I have been able to put my worries behind me<br>
and I was cool calm and collected. Yesterday it all hit<br>
me and I'm scared of pretty much everything. I'm scared of:<br><br>
-having a giant baby (thanks to my OB for telling me at every appoinwnt this baby is HUGE)<br>
-suddeky scared baby is breech because I'm very wide (although this was never a concern before an my ob never mentioned it)<br>
-scared of a super long labor (again thanks to my OB for telling me that I would have a long labor)<br>
-scared this baby is going to have downs (if you recall at my 23 ish week scan I was told the nuchal fold was large. There were no othere indicators or<br>
soft markers and my odds are 1 in 84 thousand something...I know it's not likely but the fear is there)<br><br>
uggg why am I suddenly doubting everythig? Is this like a "tranistion" before labor thing? Am I close or just crazy?
 

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I don't know, but wanted to let you know you are not the only one. I have been going through it for a while, but have not posted because didn't want to scare others.
 

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((hugs)) it's ok to be scared momma! but everything is going to be FINE!! don't listen to your ob. there is no way for her/him to know that you are going to have a long labor. and your baby will be as big as she needs to be to be healthy. your body CAN handle it!!! it will be ok. ((hugs))<br><br>
eta: be scared is completely normal. i'm scared myself!!
 

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It must be a thing because I'm doing it too. It's probably a good indicator that I'm going to have PPD, so at least it's useful a little bit.
 

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Ugh, this is the day for a lot of us, right?<br><br>
For me, my doula backed out this morning, my DH is a borderline jerk, my mom told me she wasn't willing to handle my DD while I was in labor (really?), and a good friend of mine is distancing herself from me for some unknown reason.<br><br>
Good grief. Add to this my LO's constantly changing position and I just have this nagging fear that I will end up w/a much more medical birth than I ever wanted.<br><br>
Anxiety, you ain't my friend!
 

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So sorry you are feeling anxious Mama. I really do think, like you said that it is amost a "transition" phase, like labor. This is just our mind's way of sorting through the hopes and fears that we need to address so we can get down to business birthing our LO's. Take the time to seriously address each and every issue that comes up, no matter how small it seems.<br><br>
Im due with #7 in 11 days and all my friends and family (including DH) just think of me as the "old pro", that I'll just drop the kid in mid squat then get back up and continue doing dishes or something. They have no clue that Im nervous and anxious and wondering "can I handle it this time, can I do it". This is my 4th UC, and ive fought a lot of the same fears each time. I wonder if she's too small (always being small for dates even tho im tiny), worrying about low fluid and possible distress/mec (her fluid levels have risen and no indications of worry), I wonder: "what if she turns breech" (Im a 3rd yr apprentice and have attended and assisted 1/2dozen beautiful home frank breeches as well as 1 footling that were born perfectly). I know I can do this, I know my babygirl knows how to be born, but i still wonder if Im somehow going to f**k it all up, kwim?<br><br>
We're all getting close (those of us that still are cooking babes anyways lol) and I think this is completely normal thing. Hormones, preconcevied ideas, "professionals" opinions, you cant walk away from it completely untouched. It's a vulnerable time. Be easy on yourself and work through things as they come.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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I get nerves like this, but I also get the total morbid thoughts that are just...random. Out of the blue I'll get a crystal clear image of one of my kids in a horrid wreck or something. It creeps me the hell out! I know it's a hormonal thing because I do this at the end of every single pregnancy. Perhaps some instinct that makes you draw your family together for protection or something? I'll be glad when we are on the other side for sure!<br><br>
hang in there-you're not alone!
 

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Crispie- I get those thoughts too. Especially that something is gonna go wrong in the pregnancy....after you have had a loss I don't think the fear ever leaves.<br><br>
I'm glad I'm not alone or that I'm just crazy. I hope we can all relax and enjoy the rest of our pregnancy and our lo's.
 

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Yeah I hit a big batch of anxiety last week too; suddenly everything that had been rolling off all along seemed like a HUGE worry.<br><br>
And I kind of had the same interpretation: Hey this isn't supposed to happen till transition!<br><br>
I've had enough of a history with anxiety it was pretty clear to me, it was chemical shifts. I called my midwife right away and she whipped up a "stress hormone balance" tincture, and the anxious thoughts quit by the next day. My naturopath has some good things too that help keep the chemical fluxes from creating that level of misery.<br><br>
What also helped IMMENSELY was the smell of lavender. I'd read somewhere that it has a similar effect on the same part of the brain, as Valium. Seems a stretch but it did help right away.<br><br>
Hang in there! It might help calm the thoughts just to know, your hormones are shifting so strongly, they can alter your thoughts and interpretation of how risky the situation is.
 
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