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I wanted to put some postivity here... add yours!<br><br>
My partner/husband goes to work everyday with no complaints.<br>
He comes directly home, no sidetrips to a bar or a buddy's house.<br>
He helps me cook dinner.<br>
He gives baths to the kids.<br>
He puts two out of our four younger children to bed every night. EVERY NIGHT.<br>
Every Saturday (barring any plans) he wakes up with the kids and takes care of them until I wake up. Even though he's been getting up at 5:30 a.m. every day of the week. And he's a night owl.<br>
With every baby, he has woken up in the middle of the night with them and changed their diapers. If, after nursing, they don't go immediately back to sleep, he takes over for me.<br>
He has nighttime duty for three out of five kids if they need something.<br>
On occasion, he will pick up and vacuum, but has to be asked. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
He does hang up clothing (but has to be asked).<br>
Some days, when I've just had it, he tells me to leave the house and don't come back untill after bedtime, lol.<br>
He and I play games with each other most days of the week (real games).<br>
He has changed a lot over the years... he used to say heck no to cloth dipes. Now he recommends them. Same with no vax, organic, and Waldorf education.<br>
He's loving.<br>
He's kind.<br>
He's one in a million.<br><br>
Now, because of this arrangement I...<br><br>
Mow the lawn<br>
Take out the trash<br>
clean the house<br>
do the laundry<br>
cook<br>
fix things around the house<br>
do all yard maintenance<br>
try (re: TRY) to give him a peaceful home (not always easy with five kids, lol).<br><br>
Now, if I didn't want to do any of these above things? He would do them. Just as I would do the same for him.<br><br>
He is my equal, my partner. The ebb and flow of the relationship is just part of the rythm (wow, that word looks funny). He is not my "boss", my "leader", any of that. He's my best friend. We communicate all day long via e-mail, phone, whatever. And do you know that, while I have yelled at him more times than I can count, he has NEVER yelled at me in almost 8 years?<br><br><br>
This is a Man's MAN. He's real. I'm lucky.
 

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I could brag about DH for a while, but I'll just post about this morning.<br><br>
We both stayed up talking until 2:30 last night. DD woke up right at 7, and after she'd nursed DH took her downstairs so I could sleep. They played until 9 when DH brought me up a cup of coffee. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"><br><br>
Oh, and while I was typing this he brought me a refill. Gotta love a man who feeds my addiction!
 

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Exactly. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Oh! I'd say lend me your DH, but I'm attached to mine. He cleans. I'm just in charge of my bedside table and DD's room. He loves me unconditionally, and right now when I am less than a month postpartum AND sick, and stressed about all this things I feel like I need to do but can't, he told me my only jobs are to rest, relax, get better, and feed the kid. He says everything else can be done when I am better. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
He's a keeper!
 

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My husband works hard to provide the financial support for our family. He often works overtime because we need the money, but he also has three classes he's taking right now too, two towards his accounting degree and one for financial licensing, so that's a lot of homework and studying time. I don't know how he does it. Needless to say he is busy and there is very little downtime. But he still makes time to help out around the house, run errands, go for walks with us, and volunteer at our church every week.<br><br>
And he's my best friend, we have so much fun together. He understands me when I get in a funk and he thinks I'm beautiful and he tells me so all the time. And he's a GREAT dad and both of our boys just love him, not just the 2.5yo but the 6-month-old too. And he makes the best scrambled eggs ever. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I can hardly wait until we get to spend more time with him, but I appreciate all he does. He says I have the harder job though. What a guy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">:
 

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--He cleans, mostly without complaining.<br>
--He got up this morning and cleaned the living room carpet. It smelled like dog urine :puke<br>
--I've never given our 3 month old a bath because he handles all baths. Sometimes the 2 year old comes in the bath with me, but I don't actually bathe any of them.<br>
--He set up, filled, and drained my birth pool all without complaining. I ended up transferring and he didn't complain about that either.<br>
--Right now he's outside hanging the diapers out.
 

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Too much to type out about my dh.<br><br>
Suffice to say the next week we celebrate 10 years of wonderful marriage and I have no idea where that time has gone. Its seems like yesterday we where married.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">:
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I wanted to put some postivity here... add yours!<br><br>
My partner/husband goes to work everyday with no complaints.<br>
He comes directly home, no sidetrips to a bar or a buddy's house.<br>
He helps me cook dinner.<br>
He gives baths to the kids.<br>
He puts two out of our four younger children to bed every night. EVERY NIGHT.<br>
Every Saturday (barring any plans) he wakes up with the kids and takes care of them until I wake up. Even though he's been getting up at 5:30 a.m. every day of the week. And he's a night owl.<br>
With every baby, he has woken up in the middle of the night with them and changed their diapers. If, after nursing, they don't go immediately back to sleep, he takes over for me.<br>
He has nighttime duty for three out of five kids if they need something.<br>
On occasion, he will pick up and vacuum, but has to be asked. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
He does hang up clothing (but has to be asked).<br>
Some days, when I've just had it, he tells me to leave the house and don't come back untill after bedtime, lol.<br>
He and I play games with each other most days of the week (real games).<br>
He has changed a lot over the years... he used to say heck no to cloth dipes. Now he recommends them. Same with no vax, organic, and Waldorf education.<br>
He's loving.<br>
He's kind.<br>
He's one in a million.<br><br>
Now, because of this arrangement I...<br><br>
Mow the lawn<br>
Take out the trash<br>
clean the house<br>
do the laundry<br>
cook<br>
fix things around the house<br>
do all yard maintenance<br>
try (re: TRY) to give him a peaceful home (not always easy with five kids, lol).<br><br>
Now, if I didn't want to do any of these above things? He would do them. Just as I would do the same for him.<br><br>
He is my equal, my partner. The ebb and flow of the relationship is just part of the rythm (wow, that word looks funny). He is not my "boss", my "leader", any of that. He's my best friend. We communicate all day long via e-mail, phone, whatever. And do you know that, while I have yelled at him more times than I can count, he has NEVER yelled at me in almost 8 years?<br><br><br>
This is a Man's MAN. He's real. I'm lucky.</div>
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I could've written this almost word for word (minus the 5 kids) <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
We will be celebrating our 8th anniversary on Tuesday! I've been so<br>
blessed! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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I don't have time for all the good things I can say about him.<br><br>
But my dh is getting a life-time of brownie points for the way he's been with all the issues surrounding these last couple of weeks of pregnancy. He's always very caring and thoughtful during pregnancy, but this time he's been more into the whole process, and he is my rock right now, that I'm overdue with a "huge" baby and facing serious pressure from caregivers. If it weren't for him, I probably would have succumbed to an induction/c-section weeks ago.<br><br>
He lays hands on me and prays for me and the baby, lets me cry about it all, tells me I have nothing to fear, that my body works just fine, that the baby will come when he's good and ready, and that the doctor who's hassling me is a total idiot. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">:
 

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Thursday night dh was out of town about 5 hours away. I called him and was telling him that the brakes on the car were all messed up. He gave me a few options for solutions, all of which would work, but not be the easiest to do. No worries I said, I'll figure it out and get them fixed. He was worried because he leaves tomorrow for a trip and will be gone all week. So, he came home with his rental car Thursday, so we could take my car in Friday and have it fixed before he left. It was silly and I totally could have handled it myself, but he didn't want to stress me and wanted to do the whole "riding in on a white horse thing."<br><br>
Very sweet he is!
 

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You know, I love threads like these cause I would read about all your lovely DHs and I would think "omg your hubby is soooooo sweet, he sounds exactly like mine!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> And it would remind me once again how wonderful a husband I have and how much I should cherish and treasure him. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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My DH and yours must be twins! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Sometimes I forget how wonderful he is and take advantage a little bit. I need to remind myself to appreciate him and what he does for me and the kids every day (and since we have a little one, I need to make an effort to pay kind attention to DH).
 

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Well, that's exactly it. I could write the negative stuff out (and there is some)... but you know, I've found that it takes a lot of positive to overcome a little negative. Have you ever noticed that you can hear praise all the time, but the moment someone says negative things to you, you come down off your cloud? It's amazing.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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He cleans.<br><br>
He does part of the laundry.<br><br>
He'll take the kids on the weekend mornings when they get up at 630am so that I can get a bit more sleep.<br><br>
He is smart and actually capable of changing his opinions!<br><br>
He is a good judge of character.<br><br>
When he gets up to go to work, he'll shovel the walk off of snow and shovel right out to the driver's door on the road so that I won't have to struggle through the snow with the 3 kids! I love that one. Not only is it helpful, but it proves he actually thinks about ways to make my life easier when I'm not even there and asking him.<br><br>
He stands up for what he knows is right.<br><br>
He makes it a point to call me when he is out and about - I don't require it and never asked and don't expect it, but he is so earnest about it that I love him for it.<br><br>
He'll still looks at me and tells me I'm a cutie out of nowhere. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">:
 

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I loved reading this thread. I had just been thinking to myself "there are so many stories about horrible spouse behavior. I just want to sing Jimmy's praises" and I can.<br><br>
He does about a million great things for us. He's a provider, caring husband, adoring dad, and perfect partner for me.
 

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My husband does some great things too. He does lack a little bit in the department of paying attention to my needs but I also lack in expressing my needs to him. But I can say that he was never the type to want to get up at night with our babies, not a single one of them nor would he notice I'm having a hard day and tell me to leave the house and go some place and enjoy myself until I feel better (ha). But I still love him for the things he does do and they are too many to list here! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">:
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> I LOVE my DH! He also works hard, comes straight home...and when he IS home he does WAY more than I do! I am so lucky, I know lot's of others whose DH's do JACK. I have to work harder on appreciation, because I can get a tad bitchy at times, demanding MORE help...I have to remind myself to chill... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">:
 

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Thanks for putting this out there!<br><br>
We only have one child, but otherwise, I could have written your post word for word.<br><br>
Things aren't perfect and this past year has been particularly hard, but we love each other and are able to just add the hard times to our overall feeling of conquering the world together. :)<br><br>
Hubby works sometimes 80 hour weeks.....overnight even....and he still is the one that baths our daughter 99% of the time.....and tucks her in bed when he is here and lets me sleep in on the weekends.<br><br>
He loves me and it shows in his actions....every day.<br><br>
I am blessed and lucky and I wish more people knew that good guys do exist....so they would hold out for the good ones.<br><br>
with smiles,<br>
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He works and comes home and thanks me for raising our little boy -<br><br>
he credits my patience and hard work with creating a happy baby..<br><br>
I cook, he cleans...<br><br>
I buy my favorite laundry machines and he does laundry on the weekends..<br><br>
He buys his favorite tractor and lets me take over the yard work and mowing just so I can "get away"<br><br>
it isn't perfect but it couldn't be any better...<br><br>
Oh I'm leaving so much out but it boils down to all the wonderful respect we share<br><br>
he even still turns me on with both our post prego tummies...
 

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I could type out lots of things but the one thing my friends tell me the envy the most is that my husband gets up before me and goes downstairs and empties the dishwasher, makes coffee and breakfast. He then bring me my coffee and breakfast upstairs while I get ready. He feeds our son and gets him dressed and organized for school. When I come downstairs my son is ready to go, he has my car started and a coffee to go in the cup holder. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 
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