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So, over the past 2 months or so, my DD has developed a fear of well, old men. Old men with gray hair specifically, including all 3 of her grandfathers. Whenever she is in close proximity to an old man with gray hair, she gets VERY upset. She starts to scream and cry hysterically and buries her face in my chest, etc. Sometimes she will warm up to the old man in question, sometimes she won't. Most times they can't be in the same room with her, sometimes she will be ok with them being in the corner of the room and not moving or speaking. Very rarely she will warm up to them enough to be near them, but very rarely and no matter what it involves these crying spells. So what am I to do? It really sucks for her grandfathers, not to mention it makes getting together at say a restaurant (something we used to do frequently) near impossible. It seems to have gotten worse with time, instead of better. It now includes any old man that gets to close in public too (ie someone sitting at the next table in a restaurant, or someone at the DMV) Anybody go through this? What should we do? When will she get over this? How will we get our picture with Santa?<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
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Sorry, I just had to laugh at your post, picturing her grandpas huddled in a corner not moving for fear of scaring the baby. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I don't know that I have any solutions other than maybe some hair dye?? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:
 

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Aww, that's ok, I'm afraid of old men too.<br><br>
Well, not ALL old men, but random scruffy old men I see in the mall food court and in coffee shops. They just freak me out. So you can tell your little cutie<br>
"Oh honey, that's ok, wanderinggypsy doesn't like them either."<br><br>
I know this is no help. But seriously, she'll get over it. When it comes to people, there is probably nothing furthur away from YOU than an old man. And you are her 'perfect', her ideal. So fret not. It's funny.
 

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Old Man Phobia <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
I'd listen to that band! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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My daughter is afraid of tall black men with dredlocks and a beard. It all started when my cousin, who is a tall black man with dredlocks, who is very acrobatic, was doing flips in their living room, and scared her. She is not afraid of tall black men, or tall men, or tall black men with a beard. It has to be the exact combination.<br><br>
We are very close to their family, so when ever we went over there, she was terrified! He has 3 kids, so is very very good with them, and over the past few months has let her slowly get used to him again. At first he didn't interact with her at all. Then slowly, slowly, she got used to him enough so that he could actually sit on the couch a few feet away. Still not interacting. The guy at our cafe, who also has kids, and looks similar, has done the same thing. Slowly, slowly, over a few months, sneaked smiles at her, stood near by but not interacting, letting her fear subside.<br><br>
My guess is that there was some moment that she got scared. Maybe one of the grandpas can try the approach that I described above. Coming over to visit, but not interacting with her at all. Just letting her hear his voice. Letting her see you interact with him and be happy. It can take months, but I think that with a lot of patience and tenderness, it will work.
 
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