You might want to approach the situation by asking her to consider the feelings of the other people involved even if she doesn't share those feelings. Try to cite examples of things she cares about that someone else might not care about (Say a little child would barge in the bathroom when she was bathing, the little child doesn't care about privacy but she does.)
I think getting her to empathise with others even when she doesn't share their viewpoint is a good stretch for her and will help her to grow into a compassionate adult.
Perhaps you could develop a consequence for violating the property rights of others. I'm thinking charging "rent" for the "use" of the object. If she's caught playing with someone's CD (for example) without the owner's consent she would be charged $.50 or $1.00 and then, if she's broke, she would work to earn the money to pay restitiution.
I have older children and this issue has arisen from time to time because a couple of mine had trouble with others' owning things-vs-what is held commonly by the family.
Debra Baker
I think getting her to empathise with others even when she doesn't share their viewpoint is a good stretch for her and will help her to grow into a compassionate adult.
Perhaps you could develop a consequence for violating the property rights of others. I'm thinking charging "rent" for the "use" of the object. If she's caught playing with someone's CD (for example) without the owner's consent she would be charged $.50 or $1.00 and then, if she's broke, she would work to earn the money to pay restitiution.
I have older children and this issue has arisen from time to time because a couple of mine had trouble with others' owning things-vs-what is held commonly by the family.
Debra Baker
