OK So I've just had a talk with my #1 son about his behavior at school. How he needs to listen and respect the teacher and how everyone hates verbs and nouns, but we all have to learn them. We were talking about why he'd been acting like this and he blurted out that he feels left out. Shiny. I'm looking on the web for help with older siblings not feeling left out. Problem is... about 99% of everything I've come across assumes that the older sib is in the 4 and under crowd. DS1 is 7 years old ans DS2 was born in October. I'm very busy nursing and careing for the baby of course. DH works at his office job all day (poor thing, right?) and comes home not feeling like doing much of anything. #1 son is driving me mad, and I'm looking to find something we can do together just the two of us that can be done in our house as it gets dark shortly after he comes home from school (ye gods, I hate winter) as well as something that doesn't make a giant mess as my house is already an unholy disaster. We talk about what he did in school that day, what he had for lunch, what games he and his friends played, we do homework and everything's great. Then he starts singng at the top of his lungs, or throwing his stuffed animals into the ceiling fan, or asking me to make him a "Whole fleet" of paper airplanes. Is it too soon for me to ask him to entertain himself? Because if I have to hear "Kalump Went The Little Green Frog" one more time, I may just jump in the river.