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So, my roommate decided yesterday that he is moving out... he'll pay his rent on May 1st (well, today) but I can't afford to stay here and I'm not going to risk bringing some unknown person into my house where my child is... I'm just not. My rent right now is $2300 and he was paying $300 its just too much of a stretch for me already...<br><br>
So now I am scared out of my mind, my sister is moving here Aug 1 when her DH gets deployed to Iraq for a year, and we are going to live together, but that is still 2 months of having no where to go...<br><br>
I am so scared. I even called my X (who lives completely alone) to see if Connor and I could stay there for two months and he said NO...<br><br><br>
WTH am I gonna do???? I have to put a roof over DS's head, but I am out of options right now...<br><br>
Any ideas?<br><br>
(and this won't be one of those threads where I ask for ideas and then turn them all down for some weird or lame reasons)<br><br>
TIA<br><br><br>
--- and mods, I am sorry if this should be in single parenting... but it didn't seem to quite fit there so I thought this would be OK, if its not I'm sorry.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">So, my roommate decided yesterday that he is moving out... he'll pay his rent on May 1st (well, today) but I can't afford to stay here and I'm not going to risk bringing some unknown person into my house where my child is... I'm just not. My rent right now is $2300 and he was paying $300 its just too much of a stretch for me already...<br><br>
So now I am scared out of my mind, my sister is moving here Aug 1 when her DH gets deployed to Iraq for a year, and we are going to live together, but that is still 2 months of having no where to go...<br><br>
I am so scared. I even called my X (who lives completely alone) to see if Connor and I could stay there for two months and he said NO...<br><br><br>
WTH am I gonna do???? I have to put a roof over DS's head, but I am out of options right now...<br><br>
Any ideas?<br><br>
(and this won't be one of those threads where I ask for ideas and then turn them all down for some weird or lame reasons)<br><br>
TIA<br><br><br>
--- and mods, I am sorry if this should be in single parenting... but it didn't seem to quite fit there so I thought this would be OK, if its not I'm sorry.</div>
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So you basically need a place for June and July, right? I'm thinking...thinking...do you have to stay where you are for work?
 

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Was your sister going to share the rent with you?? My thought was if she is maybe you call your landlord and explain the situation and see if he will give you a break for the next 2 months, maybe use part of your first/last/deposit that you can then pay back in installments once your sister arrives? I am thinking if he knows you are good for it and have someone coming he might be willing to negotiate.<br><br>
The other idea is there any work that needs to be done around the place that you could do? Spring clean up stuff, painting common areas, etc that you could use to negotiate lower rent for a month or two?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">So you basically need a place for June and July, right? I'm thinking...thinking...do you have to stay where you are for work?</div>
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Hahaha... I have a daycare in my current house... so, uh, I need to find a new job like ASAP!!! And where we live childcare runs between $200 and $250 a week, which of course I wasn't having to pay...<br><br>
ACK - see I was starting to have a defeatist attitude there... (shake it off, muckemom)...<br><br>
No, I don't have to stay where I am for work.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Hahaha... I have a daycare in my current house... so, uh, I need to find a new job like ASAP!!! And where we live childcare runs between $200 and $250 a week, which of course I wasn't having to pay...<br><br>
ACK - see I was starting to have a defeatist attitude there... (shake it off, muckemom)...<br><br>
No, I don't have to stay where I am for work.</div>
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Okay, and your current roommate only paid $300 of the rent, or am I an idiot and read that wrong (don't answer the idiot part, allow me to stay in my fragile, fragile world)?<br><br>
IF that's correct, could you:<br><br>
a) raise your prices slightly to make up for the shortfall<br>
b) talk to your landlord about reducing your rent for the last two months (long shot I know, but is your friend on the lease?)
 

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Or call your sis and see if she can front load the rent.... start paying a small share now? Is it a two bedroom? It just seems crazy to move when the rent gap is only for two months. Do you have anything you can sell for $600?
 

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Yeah if you are only short 300 for 2 months, I'd call and work it out with your landlord, raise your prices for you day care or try and borrow the money or sell something.<br><br>
Worst case scenario I'd charge it on my credit cards if I had no other choice (assuming that is an option)
 

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I'm sorry, I should have been more clear... we're getting a NEW place when my sister moves up here.<br><br>
This house is HUGE but on a dangerous street (dangerous as in busy not dangerous and in guns and street warfare) so we found a really great house that is going to become available Aug 1 (the day my sis gets here) because THAT is a military family who is being stationed down south somewhere<br><br>
I could offer to maybe repaint for them and maybe do some of the landscaping for the next two months in exchange for lowered rent... and I'm not trying to make excuses here but they are WELL freakin' known for being stingy.... plus there is a waiting list for this house (its a steal here) so they would kick me to the curb for more $$$... but its def. worth a shot!
 

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Can you take one more child daycare wise even just part time?<br><br>
Or raise your rates if you didn't at the first of the year...
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm sorry, I should have been more clear... we're getting a NEW place when my sister moves up here.<br><br>
This house is HUGE but on a dangerous street (dangerous as in busy not dangerous and in guns and street warfare) so we found a really great house that is going to become available Aug 1 (the day my sis gets here) because THAT is a military family who is being stationed down south somewhere<br><br>
I could offer to maybe repaint for them and maybe do some of the landscaping for the next two months in exchange for lowered rent... and I'm not trying to make excuses here but they are WELL freakin' known for being stingy.... plus there is a waiting list for this house (its a steal here) so they would kick me to the curb for more $$$... but its def. worth a shot!</div>
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Got anything to sell, maybe? I think the handygal idea is a great one - I mean it's only for two months, criminy, they should let you do it. You could always try writing for Associated Content (they don't pay much, I don't think, but you could generate some cash that way). Ebay stuff, maybe, garage sale - etc.
 

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I would sell or pawn something. If you have any really valuable jewelry or anything like that you could pawn it and get it back later down the road. Or do you have any friends or family who could loan you the money?<br><br>
Sorry I don't have better suggestions, but I hope everything works out ok.
 

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What about just paying what you can. Even if they file an eviction notice it takes months to process and by then your gone. I don't know if it screws up your credit rating though.<br><br>
I know it's not the "right" thing to do but it's better then being homeless.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Can you take one more child daycare wise even just part time?<br><br>
Or raise your rates if you didn't at the first of the year...</div>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I would sell or pawn something. ... Or do you have any friends or family who could loan you the money?</div>
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ITA with the pp who say that you should try to raise the money! $600 is a lot, but it's doable, and you only have to worry about $300 at a time. If you break it down, we're talking $10/day.<br><br>
If you're moving at the end of the summer, you'd probably want to have a garage sale anyway...? The odd jobs idea for your landlords is good.<br><br>
Shave every possible penny out of the regular budget.<br><br>
You can do this!!
 

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Offer to use some of the rent to buy things for the home, and work for the rest of the rent. There's easy to install wood floors, landscaping, new fixtures... all sorts of things you can do to increase the worth on their home for them.
 

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Call around to find some short term leasing places. There are some month to month type places.<br><br>
Ask the owner if you can get reduced rent if you work for them somehow. Or perhaps you can delay that $300-400 and pay it plus your regular rent when your sister comes into town.<br><br>
Could you babysit a friend's child for extra money or pick up a few more shifts (if you work) temporarily to make up the difference.
 

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I know this is weird... but I was on craigslist and this woman needs someone to live her downstairs two bedroom apartment to help her with her new babies (she had twins) kind of like a live in mothers helper...<br><br>
No rent and she would pay $150 a week, and I could move in 2 weeks, so I'll pay for here through May and then I'm outta here!!!<br><br>
Hooray, and I told her in 2 months I would be moving in with my sister, and she said thats fine, in 2 months her husband will be back to help her...<br><br>
Whew... plus I will be saving $$$$<br><br>
ETA: The Goddess or whatever you want to believe in, if anything, works in mysterious ways...
 

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Glad to hear a solution manifested!
 
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