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She just asked what Max's diagnosis is. Ok. But now she asks the WEIRDEST questions about the SPD.<br><br>
She wanted to know more about it, which is fine. I sent her a link, I told her what Max is going through, explained some of his issues, no big. But talking to her is so hard sometimes. She doesn't listen to or read half of what we tell her, I guess, hence her need to repeat herself. I had to repeat my answers to her 2 or 3 times tonight. Plus I have a whole thread about her weirdo UC-related questions in the UC forum, too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
Anyway, this one, at the end of our IM convo, was the kicker for me.<br><br>
Mil: do they outgrow this to some extent cause he is smart as a whip<br><br>
Yikes! Since when did a sensory issue translate to mentally challenged or unintelligent?? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
I do applaud her efforts to learn more. (Thankfully, not to the point of Peekyboo's mil!) However, I wish she wouldn't ask such stupid and, actually, kind of hurtful questions.<br><br>
She also got offended one day when Max wouldn't respond to her one day at lunch. He was playing a game boy. He was in his own world. She was all offended, "He won't even talk to me!" In all of her research of Autism and Asperger's and talking to me about it and knowing Max, somewhere she missed the most obvious -- this child is OFTEN in his own world.<br><br>
I told her 3 times, "It's part of the Autism." She kept not hearing me. We were in a restaurant within hearing of other ppl. I choose who to share his history with. I didn't need those others to know. He was having a good day! He wasn't being different! Nobody needed to know. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banghead.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banghead"><br><br>
Talking to her drives me nuts. She also gets stupid ideas about my hyperemesis. Just stop. Go away.
 

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I'm sorry she is a pain. Most people have a complete misunderstanding of these issues though.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm sorry she is a pain. Most people have a complete misunderstanding of these issues though.</div>
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Yes, definitely. Heck, I didn't fully understand SPD and my kid HAS it!<br><br>
She is so frustrating, though. Oh my goodness. Your brain would hurt if you had to talk to her.<br><br>
I guess if you think about the name of the condition - Sensory Processing Disorder - you could figure out that it's a problem with processing your senses. Nothing to do with intelligence. Yk?
 

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I am sorry! I had this same problem with my mom that was just here. My son is on the spectrum and she doesn't get it. That is fine but she keeps making comments that aren't true. Again, I understand to an extent but she isn't real capable of learning (truly a learning disability on her end) but it still frustrates me. She keeps commenting on how my son is going to have to live with me forever. Although this is a possibility it is not a certainty but she doesn't believe me when I say it. Plus many other things that I can complain about and highjack your thread <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I understand, sorry it is so frustrating!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">. Plus many other things that I can complain about and highjack your thread <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I understand, sorry it is so frustrating!</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Hijack away! We all need a place to vent about our frustrations. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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<span><b>(((((hugs)))))<br><br>
Been there. Still doing that.<br></b></span><br><span><b>Mary</b></span><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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I think for the older generations (not all, but many people), any kind of illness that isn't obviously physical is assumed to make a person cognitively delayed. We really are living in a new era of diagnoses, and a new era of understanding people with less obvious special needs. I think it's hard for the "old-timers" (<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> ) to catch up.<br><br>
And I don't know about you, but when I say "it's part of the autism," my dad sometimes gives me a look like I'm using it as a crutch or excuse... I can just SEE it in his eyes...."oh, sure, <i>everything</i> is part of the autism." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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Every time I read about something like that or like what some of the rest of you have posted about your parents I feel shocked. I mean, would you EVER say some of these things to your child or the person your child married? I guess it could be a generational thing, but having the knowledge or not doesn't excuse people from being so careless with their own children's feelings. My parents are careless a lot too, which is why a long time ago I made it clear that if they say stupid things to me first they'll have to suffer through hearing about my feelings and then they won't be talking to me again for a long while. Now they're always careful about what they say. I'm glad we got that squared away before my kids came along. Not that this is what everyone should do - it was just the right thing for me. I realize many of you are talking about in-laws which is a whole other thing.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">She also <b>got offended one day when Max wouldn't respond to her one day</b> at lunch. He was playing a game boy. He was in his own world. She was all offended, <b>"He won't even talk to me!"</b> In all of her research of Autism and Asperger's and talking to me about it and knowing Max, somewhere she missed the most obvious -- this child is OFTEN in his own world.<br><br>
I told her 3 times, "It's part of the Autism." <b>She kept not hearing me.</b></div>
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Maybe she has Autism. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Maybe she has Autism. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biglaugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="laugh">: OMG! I never thought about that!!! That is great.. LOL
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Yes, definitely. Heck, I didn't fully understand SPD and my kid HAS it!<br><br>
She is so frustrating, though. Oh my goodness. Your brain would hurt if you had to talk to her.<br><br>
I guess if you think about the name of the condition - Sensory Processing Disorder - you could figure out that it's a problem with processing your senses. Nothing to do with intelligence. Yk?</div>
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I just don't expect much out of my MIL. It works better that way. That way I don't get mad.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Maybe she has Autism. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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That was my thought too!! Sorry, family can be hard sometimes.
 
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