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Tomorrow is our weekly kindergym class. I was told last week that, it being Valentine's, they would be doing some kind of treat at the end. We don't eat sugar and I'm feeling conflicted. Do I go and just give in for the day? Do I skip the class to avoid the situation? Do I go and leave early? A non-option is to make her sit there and NOT have a candy while the rest of the class has one--I'm not into singling her out. CR is 2, and I'm just so irked that there always has to be junk food present at these things (it's a gymnastics class, afterall, shouldn't we be doing jumping-jacks to celebrate instead?).<br><br>
Enlighten me, wise women, what do I do?
 

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I'd take my own healthy, but appealing snack. That way she doesn't miss out. I'd make it look as festive as I could though so she isn't eating a granola bar while they have cake. Maybe make some healthy muffins and lightly frost it?
 

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I like the BYOS idea, if it weren't for the fact that I'm a baker, and the girl is nothing if not sick of her mom's 'treats'. And part of being included is getting to go and line up for your snack, the anticipation, you know? I don't want to deprive her of that excitement, but I equally don't want her to eat the junk.<br><br>
Thanks for the response, keep them coming.
 

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Can you bring treats for the whole group? Then your daughter could line up and just be given one of yours, none the wiser. If you bring something without sugar or artificial whatevers, more than one parent there is likely to be grateful. Fruit?<br><br>
On the other hand, as my family does eat sugar, I personally would just let my kid have some. I don't want sugar to become the holy grail for my children - the more its restricted the more it becomes somehow more valuable than foods like melon, etc. Right now, given a choice between cookies and melon, ds will choose cantaloupe every time. Too bad it's not in season!
 

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It is possible that it won't even be an issue.... A year ago ds (then, 2.25yrs, still pretty sheltered from sugary treats) attended a Valentine's day party complete with cake and ice cream. Since it wasn't in his every day experience and he was happy playing with the toys the host had, he didn't even notice what he wasn't getting.<br><br>
I think the bigger issue is the types of activities you join, and who you surround yourself with. The one-time class with treats doesn't make different eating habits hard to manage, but facing junky snacks on a more regular basis does. I haven't figured out a solution for the big picture issue other than to justify flexibility since I control what they eat at home, so I know they are not getting too much sugar/ partially hydrogenated oils even if they do indulge at playgroups etc.
 

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Maybe it would be helpful to consider this as just the single event and not worry to much about this being a "gateway cupcake" to future sugar abuse. You don't eat that way in your household so you know aside from this event she generally eats healthfully. I would be more concerned about her emotional need to be a part of the group. And as a pp said, not putting sugar up on a pedestal of sorts. Certainly you will have to confront this issue again so I think you have the opportunity to set the tone for sweet treats to be just that... a treat, no biggie.<br>
And then you guys can go home and do your celebratory jumping jacks to burn of that sugar!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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I won't have a problem at all with her having a treat now and then when she's a bit older, but for now I just can't feel okay about it--just my thing. That said, I may just have to let it go tomorrow. Perhaps my bigger beef is the rituals of junk food. The industry-created holidays preying on my daughter.<br>
I get that I'm being slightly obsessed about this, but I do feel truely concerned.<br><br>
Anyway, thanks for the insights and suggestions.
 

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Genuinely curious -- when you say you don't eat sugar, do you mean refined sugars? Or what? Do you draw the line at a fruit rollup, or a piece of fruit?<br><br>
Is this something you have always done, or something you started when you had kids? And (I mean this respectfully), what is the rationalization for not eating sugar, if you don't mind me asking?
 

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Do you know what the treat is? The teachers idea of a treat might actually be something inline with your nutritional values.
 

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Maybe this will reassure you. We don't have sweets i.e. junky candy stuff but chocolate is OK-ish, dd loves chocolate, at the playgroup thing we go to there were loads of sweets being handed out etc for the kids in celebration of 'La Coronne du Roi' sort of festival thing I still don't quite understand!! However, dd at 4.5 years old and younger took the sweet tasted it and handed it very discretly to me, she just doesn't like them - so I wouldn't be too apprehensive she may just decide that she doesn't like it all on her own. DS (18 months) is heading in that line, they were given sweeten cereal at my brothers when we stayed there and they just didn't like it either so. So proud of my little munchkins!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> Your dd could very well have the same reaction.<br><br>
In your situation I would try and suggest that the class provide something healthy - red apple idea is wonderful - I may steal that for dd's class on Friday <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> .
 

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This is a HUGE pet peeve of mine. If it were truly a "once in a while" thing, I would be cool with it. But we have found, especially as dd gets older, that it is not once in a while. I cannot go to the bank, grocery store, hairdresser, POST OFFICE (!), bakery, anyone's office (including my own and dh's), violin lessons, gymnastics, the *fitness center*, story hour, playgroup, my mom's church, playdates, and on and on and on without "treats" being waved at dd. It is multiple times a day if we dare to leave the house. Dd comes to expect it every time we go anywhere. I am sure it is not ruining her health for life but it does two things that really bug me. One, it is training her to think she needs a sugary snack every single day. And two, I, as her parent, do not feel like *I* can ever treat her and share the joy of a donut or make some cookies because she is already getting too much. I would be inclined to call the gymnastics teacher on this. Gymnastics is about fitness and developing healthy and capable bodies. A treat is fine, but make it healthy. Model the seldom utilized idea that a "treat" can be wholesome and healthy.
 

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I think if you model good nutrition at home, like other posters have said you really won't have to worry about 1 sweet treat snowballing into a steady diet of treats.<br><br>
I say this as the Mom of a 15 yo ds and a 18 mo dd, my son was offered sweets as a young child and he actually hates sweets now as a teenager. So much so that for his birthday 2 weeks ago he didn't even want a cake because he hates cake.<br><br>
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It sounds like you feel strongly about it, so if I were you I would just skip the event.<br><br>
We didn't have refined sugar for a long time, we buy it and use it sparingly now (financial reasons, mostly) and I let the kids have treats if they are offered, but really try to avoid them. They can have anything someone else around them is having....I don't think its fair to exclude them blatantly. I am a sucker, though.<br><br>
I understand how dangerous sugar is for the body, how much strain and damage it can do...especially to young immune systems....so I understand your concerns.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">This is a HUGE pet peeve of mine. If it were truly a "once in a while" thing, I would be cool with it. But we have found, especially as dd gets older, that it is not once in a while. I cannot go to the bank, grocery store, hairdresser, POST OFFICE (!), bakery, anyone's office (including my own and dh's), violin lessons, gymnastics, the *fitness center*, story hour, playgroup, my mom's church, playdates, and on and on and on without "treats" being waved at dd. It is multiple times a day if we dare to leave the house. Dd comes to expect it every time we go anywhere. I am sure it is not ruining her health for life but it does two things that really bug me. One, it is training her to think she needs a sugary snack every single day. And two, I, as her parent, do not feel like *I* can ever treat her and share the joy of a donut or make some cookies because she is already getting too much. I would be inclined to call the gymnastics teacher on this. Gymnastics is about fitness and developing healthy and capable bodies. A treat is fine, but make it healthy. Model the seldom utilized idea that a "treat" can be wholesome and healthy.</div>
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I know what you mean!! The grandparents and others sugar my son so much it drives me nuts. AND I want to carefully consider when to do it since sugars effect his behavior. He is more likely to have a meltdown if he gets too much sugar. Its an American thing, especially, this culture has an unhealthy view of food. Everything is about food, and not good food either. Its really frustrating when you are trying to raise healthy children.
 
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