Advice? Well. The best I have is to keep on keeping on. Yeah it gets better. I just focus on my dd,
and when I still had contact with her dad I just tried my best to allow it to roll off my back. My energy
is far too precious than to waste it on wondering why he could be so cruel.
Truthfully I don't think about dd having a father out there living his life much any longer. I don't feel
the anger, or the sadness I used to feel either. I think a lot of the feelings that come with being a single
mother take time to process. One thing that is totally a waste of time is the bitterness that can over
take even the strongest of us. Ahhhh, once I let that go I felt so much lighter.
Know that you are the very best Mama you can be, and that's the best we can do. It's hard to put aside
the cruel words that some of our ex's like to throw. Just know that most times when somebody is throwing
judgments on you, it says more about how they feel about themselves.
PS and Jen, just so you know the term "sperm donor" is used as a term of endearment here. Many
mama's owe a lot to the men who gave a part of themselves so that they could be Mama's. So it
can be taken offensively to use that term. When a actual sperm donor is a man who gives a precious
gift, and not a man who abandons his children.