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On the heels of the pool thread...

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please, please, please take it seriously. I read the discussion with interest and agreed wholeheartedly. What kind of parent could let their child drown I thought. Now I know - a normal one! Yesterday we set up the kids wading pool in the yard. There is about 12 inches of water in it. I was sitting about 5 feet away in a chair while the kids were in the water. I don't know what I was doing, I guess daydreaming or my mind drifted. I noticed Olivia splashing but since I was 5 feet away (I didn't want to get splashed) I couldn't see the bottom. When she was still splashing about 10-15 seconds later I went to look. What I saw will stay burned in my memory forever. She was flat on her back under the water with her mouth wide open as if to scream and her eyes were wide with terror. I started screaming and grabbed her up. She didn't breath when I picked her up until I shook her and she gasped and then started crying. I feel so horrible, I was awake all night with guilt. I almost let my daughter drown! I can't belive how easy it would have been for her to drown and with me right there. What if I had gone over the the other side of the yard for a second, what if I was getting something from the car, what if anything else. She could have drowned that quickly. I am so thankful it ended up with my baby being safe. Please learn from my mistake! Watching means staring right at the children the entire time.
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how terrible- I'm glad Olivia is alright. Thanks for the warning.
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wow. Thanks for sharing. I'm sitting here wide eyed and heart beating fast. Your story made an impact on me and will stay with me anytime we are at the pool.

Im so glad your dd is alright. this
is for her
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I"m so glad your baby is alright. We live in Arizona and there are so many drownings. It breaks my heart. They say "two seconds" is all it takes. Thats what the commercials use.... it only takes 'two seconds'. We have designated pool watchers at parties... they are 'on duty'.

its so scary. Please do watch your children around water. always.
Oh that is so horrible, you must still be shaking. I'm so glad she's okay.

Water is something to take seriously for sure.
Thankyou very much for sharing this. We all need to hear it. Im so glad your baby was okay. I hope you will sleep better, believing that perhaps this was just a wake-up call to you and/or others. I saw many moms at the pool yesterday talking away to eachother and thought how easy this same thing could happen, even in the shallow end. The kids are moving fast and moms are sometimes so busy having mature conversations.
I realize why the life-guards on duty get frequent breaks where someone else takes over. If you keep your eyes glued with that much responsibility it does get to be draining. we all know this thats for sure.
thanks again.
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Praise the Lord your little one is fine.

With swimming and anything else, it only takes a moment for them to get into trouble, it's scarey. You are an alert mommy and acted quickly!!! Kudos to you!! I know I may be over-protective but I don't let my DD swim without me (DH isn't much of a water person so it's usually me anyway).

One thing another mom tried teaching my DD (for safety) is to swim to the edge of the pool and reach up & climb out. I'm floored at how quickly she picks up on all this!
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My dd has had near drownings twice, both times while I was right there. We used to go to a swim class at the Y, and the teacher said they had a child drwon in the pool with 6 adults in it once. It really does only take a second. I'm glad your baby is ok.
My heart was beating so fast reading your post. Heavenly, I am so glad that your DD is okay! You must be beside yourself. Thank you so much for having the courage and good heart to post this. It's a story I won't soon forget!!
Heavenly, Bless you and baby. I am glad she is okay. I like the idea of the people on pool duty. I am going to throw that one in my original thread. Love to you.
I would guess many of us don't understand how drowning happens. Like I used to think that you had to be submerged for a long time to drown, but it seems from actual stories in these discussions that a child can simply take in too much water and not be able to expel it all- that the breathing can't always resume on its own even when they aren't underwater that long and you get them out? I hate to sound stupid but I'm getting the impression that drowning can happen in different ways? If so, I think an article that really explains this would help immensely. I also think all pools should be REQUIRED to send this kind of information to parents. Like my sister has a pool at her condo and often takes my daughter (6), and she is a good watcher but I know she could converse with another adult or get distracted for a few seconds, and now I'm thinking I'd like to have specific information to give her and maybe I really shouldn't be letting anyone else be responsible for my child at a pool until she's older.
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When I was nine months pregnant with my son we went to the lake to watch the fire works on the fourth of July. There were hundreds of people there and a quite a few of them were in the water. Now where we were was up on a ledge, and you had to climb down to the water and nearby was a cut out in the ledge and the water would rush in pretty fast. Some kids and adults were in the cove area playing on boogie boards in the waves. All of the sudden a man comes running up out of the water carrying a little boy probably about 7 years old. He's screaming "He's not breathing! He's not breathing!" Well everyone starts panicking and running around, and I don't know what came over me but I just jumped up (no small task at nine months pregnant) and ran over to them. I helped him get the boy on the ground and yelled for some one to call 911 and started doing CPR. Luckily the boy started coughing quickly and I rolled him over and he coughed the water out and started breathing. It all just happened so fast. From what I gather the man was the little boys uncle and he had been watching a large group of kids by himself. A wave had come in and knocked the boy off of his board and under the ledge. It had taken a minute for the uncle to realize that one of the kids was missing, and then to locate him. The mother turned up while I was giving CPR and started screaming. An ambulance showed up shortly after, and the kid and his mom got in and left.

It was really scary for me and I am just glad that I remembered my training. It just proved to me how fast something like that can happen. I still can't believe that that boys mother had left him with about 12 other kids and only one adult to watch him. I don't blame the uncle he had his hands full watching all of those kids, and if he hadn't of acted quickly the little boy probably wouldn't have made it. It is just really scary, and eye opening. Believe me I never leave my son's side when he is near the water.
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thank you so much for sharing. i will be much more careful when ds is in our wading pool.
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I was a lifeguard when I was a teenager and we would need to have conversations with pool patrons or supervisors or other lifeguards and we would just stand right next to each other and talk but not look at each other at all. We would have to explain to a patron that we didn't mean to be rude in not making eye contact when they had a question but we could not ever take our eyes off the pool. Parents that want to converse while watching their kids at the pool might give this a try.

I also learned how to scan the water back and forth across the area I was responsible for and it should take 2-3 seconds to take in the whole scene. That way you don't get tired of staring at the same spot the whole time and you are sure to see the whole pool or your area of concentration once every 2 seconds or so. Alternate looking underwater at the floor of the pool and along the surface.
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As a new school year approaches with dread according to my 11 year old dd with Dyslexia, I am reminded that Dyslexia is a wonderful gift at times. My daughter can see the big picture, when she is at a pool. The first time she pulled someone out of the water she was 6 and when she told me, I couldn't believe it. Then I witnessed her rescue her cousin who was underwater and no adults saw him because it was crowded and he was wedged between two of those long things that people float on and as they slammed together they wedged his head and then he went under and couldn't get out (he was 4 and dd was 6). She saw him somehow, then dived under and rescued him and she didn't know how to hold her breath when she went under for him. She managed to drag him and herself out of the pool. They both took in some water. None of her rescues ended up with someone not breathing, just coughing, and sputtering. There was a time that she pulled out a very small child who was under, the mom had looked away, and when she saw, became hesterical, was crying and so thankful and told her "you saved my childs life". I don't know why these rescues keep happening to dd other than she is extremely attentive to her surroundings. She may be doing the 2-3 second scan of the pool without even realizing it.
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Bestbiirths: That is truly amazing for your daughter to have that ability when others arent paying attention. -and the fact that she is concerned enough to go on with it even when she's unable/not ready to hold her breath underwater is so beautiful. Thankx for sharing this and let her know we appreciate her

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