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OK so I figured that is STBX could move on so fast that I would look at match.com<br><br>
OMG a really cute guy just sent me a IM. I was surprised. I was only signed up for the free account. Now I had to go dig out my check book, balance it and make sure I had the $$$ to pay for a one month sub! LOL<br><br>
I really do not want another man seriously but someone for a friendship is awesome! I hope this guy don't want to much because his profile is really nice.<br><br>
Ok so I had to share something positive after all the crying I have done the past month. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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I had horrible luck online dating....found it very emotionally draining....things would be going so well one day, then nothing.... it's nice to hear of some other women having success that way however! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> good luck
 

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Its not that great. The guy turned out to be a jerk. Just looking for sex.. However it was fun to chat with him until then.<br>
Oh well something to do in the evenings after the kids are in bed.<br>
I probably won't renew after this month!
 

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I've had good luck, honestly. It isn't all bad, just have to dig through most of the crap out there to find the good stuff. We're not serious yet, but I've certainly found someone I'd *like* to be serious with when the time is right.<br><br>
ETA: I've only used match.com recently, but before used a themed site, among many others. I like match quite a bit, actually.
 

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Oh I love online dating! I've done alot of it! You really have to pick and choose but there are some great guys out there! I would suggest a themed singles site such as jdate or something similar. Not just like myspace or something, I think you'll have more luck with an actual singles site. Oh, didn't read the part about match.com<br>
I've never actually tried that one. I wouldn't give up though, good luck!
 

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When I'm lonely, I find sites like match to be a great curative. I look, I say "oh my God," and I turn off the computer, happy to be with my daughter in our quiet house, with my life to myself.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
Seriously, please be extremely careful, and don't volunteer all kinds of info about where you live and your children. You have no idea who these guys are. If you're going to do something online, at least stick to social networks where you're dealing with friends of friends, so that you can vet the guys with people you know.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">When I'm lonely, I find sites like match to be a great curative. I look, I say "oh my God," and I turn off the computer, happy to be with my daughter in our quiet house, with my life to myself.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
Seriously, please be extremely careful, and don't volunteer all kinds of info about where you live and your children. You have no idea who these guys are. If you're going to do something online, at least stick to social networks where you're dealing with friends of friends, so that you can vet the guys with people you know.</div>
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I totally agree with this!!! Thats exactly what I have done! I Bought a membership. YUCK Turns out that it was just what I needed to be happy alone with the kiddos!<br><br>
But here is an example of someone that I know is a child molester and he hit me up on the plenty of fish web site! There is no way I would ever consider going out with him but how many other women know his history? I just happen to live in a small town where everybody talks thank goodness.
 

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I met my boyfriend on a <a href="http://www.okcupid.com/" target="_blank">dating</a> site named okcupid.com two years back. We spent much time online. We chatted for a while before exchanging our cell numbers. We chose restaurant to meet and we spent a lovely few hours chatting, shopping, etc... Now, we meet occasionally to know each other very well. Our relationship is going very well and internet helped me to find out him.
 

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I agree with mama41 about safety, you have to be careful because you really don't know who they are, however, the worst, scary experiences i have had have been with guys I met randomly (like in the pediatrician's office~~another story for another thread)<br><br>
Through match I have met many men, most were sincere, one or two were after sex, but they weren't pushy. I have had mostly good experiences. I have not met anyone that I have dated long term though. I equate having a profile out ther with putting myself out there, making myself available. I don't pursue guys, if an interesting one emails me, I answer and give it a try. The thiong I hate though is that I *hate* having the "let's just be friends" talk, and I usually have to do that.<br><br>
I am not going to renew basically because I realize that I have work to do on myself before I will be available for dating, but I am all for that method of meeting people (two of my close friends I met on match, it was never romantic, but we really hit it off)
 

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OT (sorry)<br><br>
Welcome spaul <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wave.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wave">
 

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I met my current boyfriend on OkCupid, and he's wonderful. Before he and I started communicating, I met a couple of other guys through OkCupid and met them in person for coffee. Both were very nice and sweet, just not "the one."<br><br>
What I like about OkC is that it's free, the questions/tests are interesting and funny, and you can block IMs, browse anonymously, and it doesn't feel meat-markety. That's my opinion, though.<br><br>
To be clear, with all the guys I met in person, including my current BF, I made sure never to give any personal information other than my first name, and I made sure to meet them in a public place in the middle of the day the first time. Even with my BF, I drove myself to our 2nd and 3rd dates and made sure to stay in public places. I told him all this and he was completely fine with it and understood, which was one early indication of what a great guy he is.<br><br>
I did encounter my share of jerks online, but honestly I met just as many good people and for someone like me who is a bit shy in person, I found it the easiest, most comfortable way to initiate talking to someone.<br><br>
good luck!
 

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met a guy on myspace <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
there are a lot of creeps on there that message me and i usually just delete, but this guy is so sweet, we talk and on the phone and are supposed to meet up saturday.<br>
im so excited and cant stop smiling!<br>
i really didnt think i was ready for this, i was so heartbroken by my ex....but things happen when you least expect them <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I'll have to check out OKc...since it's free and i'm broke!<br><br>
I had a friend that met her now hubby on yahoo personals...so online dating can be a good thing.<br><br>
The only guy i've gone out with sofar was met through myspace, he was a cutie pie...but nope, not the one.<br><br>
And i'm going out to a show this friday with another guy i met online...although i'm not sure it's an official *date*...just hanging out. I prefer to think of it as "hanging out" haha.<br><br>
(Ps. he's my brothers friend - but i had never met him before, so i'm not worried about him being a creep)
 

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That's why I worry about a set up from one of my clients. What if he is a creep? What if he likes me more than I like him, I hate that situation.
 

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I thought I'd try the Match.com thing, but it bothers me that you have to pay not only to send, but to even READ a message. It's literally impossible to meet anyone without paying for the membership.
 

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I met my bf on VegWeb.com. I'd tried tentatively on eHarmony, plentyoffish, and veggiedate, as well, and got some sincere seeming replies, and (particularly on plentyoffish) some really creepy, shallow propositions. Nothing that panned out, though, and it was a bit draining. Now that things with bf are going well, I found his profile on OK Cupid and did a bunch of questions and tests on there so we can compare and analyze different aspects of our relationship. I wish I'd found OkC earlier, it's really cool: thorough and free. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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I have had lots of fun with online dating and have met some really remarkable and wonderful men.<br><br>
I agree that it's important to be careful, but like Kelly said, meeting someone randomly is a lot scarier than online. People quickly reveal themselves when you really look at them and what they say. It's easy to weed out the crap and find the real gems.
 

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I will also add that you can get to know someone pretty well through the way they write and conduct themselves, and even how they sound on the phone (cell phone to be safe) then when (if) you meet, you have an idea.<br><br>
I sometimes even give chances to profiles with no pictures if I like what they wrote.
 
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