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Ok, I've posted before about the ped retracting when ds was younger, and that he sprays uncontrollably. Well tonight, he (7yo) showed me that the opening isn't at the end so much as on the top (near the end). So when he pees (sitting down which is what he does), the pee goes out "under" the toilet seat. Dh won't let him stand up. Dh is pretty upset about the retraction years ago and the problem now. Is it because the skin was torn and then "glued back" in the wrong place? Or would this have come about anyway? Finally, what to do? Thanks.
 

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I am sure someone else will post with a name for what your son has (it's too late and I am not going to even try). It is something that your son was born with. His urethra is just not were it would normally be. If he is peeing properly then there is nothing that 'needs' to be done. Many men just live with it and pee sitting down. Has he tried peeing standing up? He may be able to learn to aim to where he can pee standing up, at least in public where it might be embaressing for him. It shouldn't effect him being able to have children either.<br><br>
I personally wouldn't do anything until your son is older. Just explain to him that his urethra is higher than most boys. When he is an adult he can choose to have a surgery to have it fixed if it really bothers him. But I would personally discourage any surgery which is medically unnecessary and could possibly damage such a vital body part.
 

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It is called hypospadius and yes that does sound like what your ds has. Tho his seems to be a very slight case and it dosnt need anything done for it. Like pp said it is a sort of defect that happens during the fetal stage.<br><br>
Most of the time the urethral opening will be farther down under that glans as opposed to higher up on it but it is basicly the same thing.
 

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Hypospadias is when the urinary opening is on the underside (ventral side) of the head of the penis. Epispadias is when the urinary opening is on the above-side (dorsal side) of the head of the penis. If it is out near the tip, it is certainly a mild situation. As long as his penis is not bent from it, and he's not having trouble passing his urine, probably nothing needs be done except for making adaptations in peeing technique to get the urine to go where you want it to go. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Here is more info on hypospadias/epispadias:<br><a href="http://www.heainfo.com/" target="_blank">http://www.heainfo.com/</a><br><br>
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Oddly enough, I just had a dinner table discussion about hypospadias with my parents tonight when soy products came up.<br><br>
Best of luck to you and your little guy. He'll adjust to it as he gets older and adapt just fine. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Hypospadias is when the urinary opening is on the underside (ventral side) of the head of the penis. Epispadias is when the urinary opening is on the above-side (dorsal side) of the head of the penis. If it is out near the tip, it is certainly a mild situation. As long as his penis is not bent from it, and he's not having trouble passing his urine, probably nothing needs be done except for making adaptations in peeing technique to get the urine to go where you want it to go. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Here is more info on hypospadias/epispadias:<br><a href="http://www.heainfo.com/" target="_blank">http://www.heainfo.com/</a><br><br>
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Thank you for that information. I knew it was a variation of hypo but never heard the proper name for it.
 

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Thanks for your replies ... and the link. I've read it, and maybe I'm in denial?, but wouldn't we have noticed this before if it was present from birth? Dh seems to think the opening in the foreskin (which isn't retractable at all) doesn't match up (due to the forced retraction years ago) and that is causing the problem? We have video of ds having a bath when he was just a few days old and he arcs a perfect stream of pee (in the right direction with no spraying!).<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Dh offers this as "proof" that he was born "properly functioning".<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> I admit to being confused. Dh has made a big deal of it. I'm worried that alone will be enough to cause problems for ds. Oh yes, the inability to get the pee to go down has been happening for close to a year, probably...
 

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OK, let's back off from the hypospadias/epispadias theory/concern. Deep breaths! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
As the foreskin goes through it's normal progression to full retractability, sometimes it will be more adherent on one side than another, and the lips of the orifice may overlap over the urinary opening in a way that can divert the urine stream in funny directions. This was the case with my older son. But as the foreskin becomes more evenly loosened and retractable, this deviation of the urine stream normalizes<br><br>
Perhaps this is what is going on with your son since, as you noted, this has only been going on for a year. I'd just give it time.<br><br>
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Honestly, our ds (22 m.o. now) has been peeing *differently* all his life. When he was a baby it could go every possible direction: left, right, up, solid stream, spraying stream (I could always see that because we were ec-ing). Now (he's been potty trained for a while) he pees pretty much straight (not left or right), but sometimes more up and sometimes more down, sometimes with a solid stream and sometimes spraying. It has never occurred to me to worry about the matter...<br>
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It is possible that when he was retracted by force it cause that area to heal in a odd possition but odds are great if this is the case that when the natural retraction process starts it will correct itself.<br><br>
My ds's foreskin opening and his urethral opening in the glans dont line up. He has a bunch of skin on the bottom of his foreskin making it look like the opening is on top of and behind the tip of his foreskin. It has always been this way and when he messes with around with it things move around and the extra skin moves back like it is supposed to.<br><br>
I can understand you being concerned but at this point there is nothing that can be done anyway and only time will tell if he will have a spot that takes longer to release than the rest due to the forced retraction.
 

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From reading the OPs post I just assumed her son was now fully retractable, and that she was able to see the entire head of the penis. Since she mentioned it was on the top of the head of the penis.<br><br>
But regardless of what it is, as long as he is peeing fine, no pain, then nothing needs to be done. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Thanks everyone! I'm feeling better.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Now if I could just get dh to chill!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 
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