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We are in a playgroup with several other kids, all around DD's age. Ever since we met this group, a year ago, DD has been the only one nursing. I don't think I've ever nursed in front of them, only because it has never come up... DD is so distracted around the kids she doesn't think of nursing.<br><br>
So we were all just chatting when nursing came up and they all talked about how if the child is old enough to ask for it, it is time to stop. Yadda yadda yadda. I thought either I can keep it quiet and hope that DD never asks to nurse in the future around them, or I can 'fess up that we still nurse. So I did it, I told them I still nurse DD (she's 22 months).<br><br>
They were horrified! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: One of them couldn't even look at me and totally shut up. Another started back-pedalling about what she'd said, clearly she was uncomfortable with my nursing but didn't want to make me uncomfortable.<br><br>
Thing is, I am totally happy and comfortable that I am still nursing, especially at this age. But I really think that one mother in particular is going to have a very hard time around me from now on. How weird is that? It does bum me out because we don't know a whole lot of people in town and I do like these moms and their kids. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
Oh well, as shocked as they were, my annoucement was one step closer to making nursing toddlers a normal thing.
 

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Good for you!! I'm sure it feels awkward (I've had similar discussions w/ more mainstream friends) but you are helping normalize extended breastfeeding for them<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumbsup.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbsup">
 

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How sad that they are horrifed, for them. Good for you for being confident!<br><br>
I'm a bit disgruntled b/c I just learned at a playdate yesterday that a friend weaned her 15-month old a few months ago... I've never weaned a child even ha-ha... plus annoyed that another mom at the group covered up. I just don't get it. I've decided I'm going to speak up even more, someone has to help normalize breastfeeding, and I guess it's us, huh? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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How frustrating.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: Those comments are so very horrid IMO.<br><br>
In my playgroup all of the babies (under 1) are BF, and one mom is still BF her 3 year old. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">: And it's not an AP group, it's a UU church play group! We'll see how things go as the babes grow up, but I'm not expecting rude comments even if the other babes wean earlier than my DD.
 

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I can totally share your frustration. We left our playgroup last year for much the same reason- they were just not comfortable with my breastfeeding toddler. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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I understand your frustration. None of my friends understand while I still nurse my 2 1/2 yr old son before naps and at night. They think I'm nuts. I can't admit it to anyone in the family (except my mom and sister who are okay with it.) Mother-in-law is almost angry about it. DH and I just don't bring it up (the nursing, the family bed or the non-vaxing).<br>
Sad that people are so close-minded. DS is happy, healthy and thriving and that is what should matter most!<br>
So glad this is a place to meet like-minded people.
 

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I'm so sorry for your close-minded friends. Hopefully you have opened their eyes that NORMAL people that they associate with DO nurse beyond infancy.<br><br>
Just posting out of joy -- my new playgroup includes THREE nursing two year olds. My DS plus two others. One of the mamas was NIP at this week's get together.
 

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Yeah, i guess I'm lucky. All the kids in our playgoup nursed until at least two, and two of them until 3. Ds is the longest though, goin' on 4!<br><br>
Hey, Hokulele, I know it sucks, believe me, I've gotten plenty of remarks and pressure from family andfriends, but just remember, we are on the front lines of a cultural revolution. We are changing the way people look at bf-ing toddlers and small children, and the more we casually talk about it and NIP, the sooner it will be accepted as normal in our society. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/toddler.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="toddler">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bfinfant.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bfinfant">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bftoddler.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bftoddler">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/fbbf.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="familybed breastfeeding"> :
 

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Isn't it crazy we have to have a cultural revolution to bring us back to the way things have been for thousands of years? It's only been in the last 60 years that the whole idea of breastfeeding a child is weird.<br><br>
In the 1950-60s in the USA when formula and bottle feeding was thought to be better (what a joke!) and people thought it odd or you must be poor if you breastfed. Most other countries have always been more natural and breastfeed well beyond a year.<br><br>
No one probably ever told a mother in ancient times that she should not feed her child milk from her breast anymore and to force him to wean! The children all weaned when it was naturally time to and they wanted to.<br><br>
Modern thinking and modern medicine are often times even more backward because our bodies and natural substances/foods have more powerful healing properties in them than today's scientists can even fathom!
 

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How stupid and sad that anyone would be upset by ANY nursing children of any age! Where the heck is your playgroup? We could do a nurse-in! Heh heh, they'd REALLY like my tandem nurslings----my 4 1/2-yr-old and my 1 1/2-yr-old! LOL, I could probably even convince my 6-yr-old to nurse, just to get into the spirit! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> But seriously, these people that are uncomfortable with nature, it makes me !&#%^@^&@*#! Let's all nurse everywhere and get that yummy milk to our kiddoes!<br><br>
Here in southern California, NO ONE nurses in public. How sad. We started our family in Minneapolis, and there, gosh, people nursed everywhere. I literally never thought twice about it.....until moving here. I nurse in public still here, but am uncomfortable, but I figure, it is my child's right to nurse when she needs to. She is ONE for goodness sake. I'm not gonna tell her to wait 30 minutes or whatever.<br><br>
Maybe you can do a nurse-in at your playgroup! I'm serious.
 

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I totally know where you are coming from. I get all the looks from some people when my 22 month old ds comes up and asks to nurse- very loudly - and with reaching his hands in my shirt. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> Someone made the same comment to me the other day about when they are old enough to ask they are too old to nurse, and someone else asked me if I had ever heard of cups.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hopmad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hopping mad"> I have to remind myself that it is their ignorance.<br>
I like to say to people, "well actually the american academy of pediatrics recommends nursing up to 2 years". That usually shuts them up and also educates them. Most people are surprised by that info.<br>
Good for you for speaking up. I hope you will stick it out in the playgroup. Hopefully the fact that you are nursing will not end the friendships you have formed. People tend to move on and forget about things after a while. kwim?<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/winner.jpg" style="border:0px solid;" title="BFSymbol">
 

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Any friendships that end because of your nursing were categorically NOT worth having in the first place. In my humble opinion. I mean, anyone who has a problem with your nursing---is that the kind of person who will "get" your parenting or respect your right to parent and live as you see best? NOT a friendship worth keeping, unless each person loves and respects the other, and honors the other's choices. For what it's worth, I love you nursing mammas and honor your choices!!!
 

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Well, I will admit I was <i>shocked</i> the first time I saw a toddler breastfed (at a LLL meeting). But here I am 3 years later tandem nursing a 3 yo and a 1 yo.<br><br>
Good for you for speaking up. You don't know what positive effect you may have had.<br><br>
Lara
 

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I totally agree!<br><br>
I also have to confess that the first time (YEARS ago!) I saw an older child nursing (in the family's home) it took me by surprise because I had never considered it before. Looking back on it, regardless of how hard I was trying not to seem it, I probably did seem uncomfortable. But I think back now and realize that was the first step towards my healthy attitudes about breast feeding, because I didn't get them from my family. AND I credit all the mamas and babes I know that have done extended breastfeeding for helping to insure my son is provided the same opportunity!<br><br>
My bet is that you have done a really good thing but nobody may know it yet! Keep that in your mind to wash out all the other stuff!<br><br>
Erin, mom to a 9 month old boy<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/winner.jpg" style="border:0px solid;" title="BFSymbol">
 

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My daughters new peditrician did a double take when I said she self weaned these last three months and she only ask for it at night and sometimes during a very long day or when she teeths. He asked how long I nurse and I said ten 15 minutes and he was surprised that she chose this without much fuss, I said well, she is independant and energetic, she has her own plans! besides I don't care about extended nursing. DD is 17 months. He thought she had stopped awhile back. He was shocked she hardly ever had a bottle and has had a sippy since six months (once a day with water when she was learning for three months because she liked haveing her own big girl cup like her best friend! her best friend was two!) and barely recovered.<br><br>
One woman I knew told me only jungle freak nomads from national geographic specials nurse! bottles are healthier and better because you are not responsible. I laughed, right in her face, and felt bad immediately. She was so serious....I said o.k. well then count me in and if you think it's backward or wrong please keep your opinion to yourself like I do about your bottle feeding because let me tell you I could give you information you've never encountered and if you ask any doctor they can support the info and you'll feel pretty lousy if I throw infomation you've have not learned at you. so leave me be. I do research what is best for my daughter, wanna ask me?<br><br>
Sadly..I'm pretty imtimadating when people act rude.. I tell them thier behavior is lacking good manners, intelligence, and get on a rant. I don't care if you bottle or BF but please do not get an attitude because you do not know how to deal with my parenting style.<br><br>
You're a brave momma!!
 

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Ugh. FFS, nursing a 22 month old is frigging NORMAL. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banghead.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banghead"> Ugh. Just ugh. Sorry you got crap for it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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Hyenas nurse their offspring for 13 months!! Love the National Geographic Channel! Surely people are supposed to at the very least double that.<br><br>
To the OP:<br>
I attend a play group where even new mothers with babies under 6 months either cover with a blanket or hide when they are nursing. I am uncomfortable nursing there but do if DS wants too. I don't hide it. I also attend LLL meetings and have started to have mothers meetings at my house. It helps me to know I'm not the only one. I just need to get my LLL moms to go to the playgroup now that would shake things up!
 

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What a crock, I wouldn't even bother with people who were seemingly offended that I nurse! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 
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