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Thought I'd try to start a commiseration thread. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I'm 29 weeks pregnant and ds is 22 months old. I am so tired I can hardly believe it! I never thought I could be this tired and still function. Everyday is just non-stop until ds goes to sleep. Thank goodness for dh, as he volunteered to co-sleep with ds so that I can sleep alone in a different bedroom. When I first got pregnant with #2 I was the one co-sleeping with ds (which amounts to not really sleeping!) so dh rescued me for the sake of the next baby's (and my) health. And, I tell ya, sleeping by myself is sheer heaven! I did miss having my little man sleeping like a snuggly little teddy bear next to me at first, but I have to say I don't really miss the frequent wake-ups and the occasional toddler foot in my eye/ear/ribs.<br><br>
Anyway, I'm so crazy tired these days and I think all you other pregnant moms with toddlers must be too. Is your toddler as whiny and fussy as mine??? I feel like ds whines at least 50% of the time he is awake - he is a real handful in every way imaginable. I guess that's kids....or is that just my ds??? I've heard that 2nd babies are often much less work so I am hoping and praying that this is true!<br><br>
What do you do to relax? I feel like down-time is so limited...there's always dishes to wash, laundry to do, something that needs to be cleaned or fixed, etc. The one thing I do for myself (now that the weather is warmer, hurrah!) is to sit on the front steps after dh and ds go to bed and read a book for a while. This accomplishes two things: 1) I can get some fresh air and enjoy some leisure reading; 2) I can avoid listening to ds complain/scream/whine about having to go to bed. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I have decided that this is the first and last time that I'm going to purposely get pregnant when there's still a toddler in the house!<br><br>
Anyway, I'd just love to hear about how you all are crazy tired. Let's commiserate! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I'm 29 weeks myself, & DD is 12 months old; I don't remember being so tired at this stage last time! I read a bit while she plays on the floor in her room, I pretty much do dishes & laundry when she's eating in her high chair - cooking meals is pretty hit or miss, as is housecleaning, as I'm getting to the point where I'm sleeping so badly at night, if I can get DD down for a nap, I nap too, rather than "getting something done". DH does a lot of vacuuming on weekends. I'm not sure how this is going to work with *2* DC......
 

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I am also 29 weeks (for 2 more days), and I am just exhausted beyond belief! Plus, I am not getting nearly as much sleep as I feel I need with all the nightly potty trips. By the time I get back in bed, my dh is snoring so loudly that I can't get back to sleep. Augh!<br><br>
I also do a lot of the housework while ds eats. It takes him a while some days so I have time to do dishes, general kitchen cleaning, and laundry (right next to the kitchen) during his meals. I am trying to get dh to pick up 2-3 morning tasks (make the bed, unload the washer, and get ds up and changed) so that I am not wiped out before the day starts. I don't have much else to tell you though. I just try to do chores in 5 minutes. I can usually get up enough energy for that, but I often have to rest after little tasks. I have also been doing once a month cooking. It takes me 3 days to cook, but I don't have to do much more work for the rest of the month (only 2 recipes require more work than defrost in the fridge and bake). I have also decided that I can't do grocery shopping any more. Pushing the cart with a toddler and groceries wears me out too much. Since I do oamc, I don't have major lists except once a month anyways. My retired dad has been taking me to the store during my big buying day. I get dh to pick up the few groceries that I need for the small grocery weeks. This week my mil was nice enough to pick up milk and dish soap for me. Everyone seems very concerned with me driving a stick shift now, but I am not sure why. I think they are all just worried that I will have another month early baby so people are starting to pitch in a <i>little</i> more.<br><br>
It is terrible though! I was so fed up last week that I cried pretty much all morning one day. My poor son kept coming up to me and saying don't cry mommy. I finally told him that I wouldn't cry any more if he picked up all his legos (I know I am a bad mom for saying that...but I had been trying to get him to pick up those silly things ALL morning). The sad part is that he actually cleaned them up. At least we only have a few more weeks. I know having a new baby is exhausting all by itself, but I remember having a little more energy after the baby was born.
 

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LOL. I'm also almost 29 weeks (tuesday). DS is 29 months. I'm having a hard time keeping up with him and I am so tired which makes me crabby. Pregnancy the second time is definitely difficult. I can't carry him as well as I used to and he keeps asking me to "take baby brother out" so that he can fit on my lap like he used to. I've done a lot of laying on the floor in the playroom while he runs circles around me or sitting with him outside where he can run free. I just have to get out of the house with him a lot or I'd be tempted to spend all day curled up on the sofa watching DVDs with him.
 

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My ds (36 months) is quite active, and between he and dd and I am on the go all the time. I find that by the end of the day, it's not so much that I want to go to sleep, but I just want to sit down for more than 2 minutes!
 

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Oh my, I am tired. Except when DS and DH go to bed. Then I have nothing but energy, can't sleep, won't sleep, heartburn is kickin' so I couldn't lie down if I wanted to! (I am 9 months preggo, so this is obviously the reason)<br><br>
Chasing DS (22 mos) is really taxing. I've started handing him off to MIL, DH, whoever I can find to give me a breaka nd a chance to sit down. Laundry is suffering around here, toys are meandering around from room to room without ever really getting put away, but at least I'm staying on top of the dishes and the kitchen, so the house isn't dirty, just a little chaotic.<br><br>
I do feel very badly that I can't chase him around in back of the house (big yard, but NO FENCE) now that the weather is starting to get nice. Too big and TIRED! Also he runs so fast, and I can't run at all right now! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> So he really wants to go outside, and the best I can offer is a nice ride in the car or playing inside until Daddy gets home to help. Sigh. Recipe for Mommy guilt and Baby tears/whining.<br><br>
Sometimes if we get up too early I start falling asleep while he plays in front of me, an hour before he's due for nap. That's when he wants to read books. Oh! So hard to make it through the hour until we can go up to rest.<br><br>
I HOPE that this will get better someday... how silly am I to hope that I will be LESS tired with a newborn in the mix? :sigh
 

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Yup! 5wk 6days here w/a 1 year old toddler who weighs 23lbs and ALWAYS wants momma to hold her...*sigh* I'm exhausted!
 

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YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS 37 weeks here with an almost 19 month old. I\ve been feeling like I don't know how I'm goign to last until the end for quite some time now. It seems the bigger and more awkward I get the more DS wants to be carried around.
 

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Yes I'm almost 14 weeks and my DS is 21 months old.<br><br>
I'm still feeling tired from early pregnancy. Some days I fall asleep on the couch (unintentionally).<br><br>
Most afternoons I am couch bound from tiredness.<br><br>
I feel really bad because I feel like I should be kicking the ball with DS or chasing him around ... but I'm too tired to.<br><br>
Everyday I tell myself that I'll do it tomorrow but when tomorrow comes I'm back on the couch <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
I'm waiting for the second trimester energy to arrive at my doorstep.
 

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Second, and subsequent.<br><br>
There really seems to be a huge difference amongst my friends in how they treat their first versus subsequent pregnancies. The first is so much more involved, every little detail attended to, prenatal appointments waited for with anxious anticipation, EVERYTHING is such a big deal! They even send an email when they buy a piece of clothing, and research every piece of brand new baby equipment for hours on their lunch breaks from work. That stuff is all great, but when you're home with other kids, you just stop having time to worry about all that. With this, my third, i can't believe I'm already 22 weeks. The pregnancy is gonig by without me. I had my first prenatal visit at 9 weeks, then didn't bother going again until 16, then 21 and now sometime around 25ish.
 

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I've got 2 4yo and a 2yo and I'm freaking exhausted. I'm only 17w. Friday night dh took the kids to the store and I was reading in bed, and I told him, "Oh, I'll do XYZ while you guys are gone." HA. He found me there 2.5h later, in the same position, asleep!
 

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This is my 3rd, but my DS was 10 when I had my DD. Now my DD is 19 mos and I am about 16ish weeks pregnant. I am soo exhausted. I had bad nausia, and now every single day at 4pm if I don't lay down and rest I get a super bad headache from it.<br><br>
We go for a walk about a mile round trip every morning (well the past week anyways, lol) and I let DD use the backpack harness so she gets to walk off some energy, but that takes all of my energy. I'm falling asleep at 8:30 or 9pm every night (compared to midnight normally).<br><br>
My DD is not hard to take care of by any means. I lead her to her toddler mattress and hand her a bottle and she will lay down and go to sleep for naps and bedtime. She plays with her brother, watches cartoons or plays with her toys pretty independently during the day. I am just sooo tired though, and it takes all of my strength to lift her up to the changing table anymore. I don't know how I'm going to make it till the end of pregnancy.<br><br>
Honestly, I thought that all the trouble I'm having this time around just meant I was having a boy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I'm 23 weeks this week. I have twins 3 year olds who make a mess every minute and a 9 and 7 year old who also make messes and I'm constantly running around with their activities. The house work never ends, don't know how to get some time to myself or even take a nap. I thought I would get my house organized before this baby but doesn't look like it's gonna happen. I just have to let go and say Oh well, I guess.
 

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Yes yes, I have a 23 mo. old dd and am only like 3 wks PG (!!!!!) but I feel sooooooooooooo tired (and weepy and angry). Hard to keep up. Yes. Yes. Poor dh has heard it from me this week = need him to step up more or we have to hire out ($$$ ouch) but I can't do it all by myself (housework, etc).<br><br>
*hugs* It does get easier, right? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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beyond tired<br><br>
DS slept less than 6 hours last night -- so momma slept a lot less than 6 hurs<br><br>
17 months old<br><br>
I am 13 weeks PG today<br><br>
I am totally afreind fo what will happen when the new baby gets here
 
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