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Jachin Boaz Ellis arrived at 4:30 a.m. on Monday morning, the 14th of January. He was born at 37 weeks 2 days, and weighed 7 lbs 9 oz at birth.<br><br>
I had just griped on sunday that I couldn't stand this prodromal labor (<a href="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=822962&page=2" target="_blank">http://www.mothering.com/discussions...=822962&page=2</a>)<br>
much longer, and it turned out that I didn't have to!<br><br>
After 3 nights of prodromal labor that stopped when the sun rose, labor started for 'really truly' at 6:30 p.m. on sunday. It was the most peaceful labor and I cannot think of a thing I would change about any of it. The 3 days of warm-up labor had prompted my dh and I to rush around like crazy cleaning and preparing for baby--I was only 37 weeks along, so we weren't anywhere near ready a few days before.<br><br>
But by the time labor started in earnest, the house was clean, the La Bassine birth tub was set up in the immaculate (gasp!) living room, and I was emotionally ready. I went into labor shortly before my 3 little boys (ages 6, 4, and 2) went to bed, perfect timing in that respect. Labor was easy the first few hours, so I kept walking around setting out the necessary supplies, and even made a cake! I've always thought it was so cool that a mom could/would do that while in labor.<br><br>
About 10:00 p.m., I did something I have never, ever done before--I checked my own cervix! It was soooo cool! Exhilirating, thrilling, amazing. I felt the dilation and guessed myself to be 6 cm (I was actually probably closer to 4). I could feel bag of waters bulging and got so excited--this was really it! I was going to see my baby tonight! At that point, I told my dh to hurry up on the tub, since I felt far enough to get in.<br><br>
About 10:30 p.m., my dh called 2 young sisters from our church--both a little over college-age, to just hang around and take care of our 3 little boys should they wake up, and to be the photographer and videographer. I had thought I would not want anyone there at all, but it was nice to have them, and later they played a critical role. Our house/apt is tiny, so they had to sit in our dining room, just about 10 feet from the pool I was laboring in (by this time, labor was too intense to do anything else but rest between contractions). But they were quiet as mice, whispering softly when they needed to talk, and working on their laptops, surfing the web. My dh prepped them on how to be--esp. the 'don't stare, and don't talk to her' rules, and they were perfect!<br><br>
My dh called the midwife around this time too, and although she only lives 6 blocks from us, she knows I didn't really want her there except for the very end, so she said she'd come over around midnight.<br><br>
Sidenote: I have read about UC for <i>years</i>, and was mentally convinced that it is the way to go. I quoted all kinds of stories and exerpts from books to my dh, and he was also open to it. But in the end, whenever I prayed, I had this overwhelming uneasy feeling, so we ended up hiring a midwife after all. There was a reason--you'll see.<br><br>
So, I labored in the water, it was painful and slow--all my labors have been this way, maybe becase I have a posterior cervix. But in the water it was tolerable, and I had enough breaks between contrx that I was actually on a kind of high.<br><br>
The midwife came and set up, I hid my face in the towel in front of me so that I wouldn't have my concentration broken, and she didn't talk to me much. I'm not sure where she went after she set up, but she wasn't around for an hour and a half, or if she was, she was so quiet I didn't notice her.<br><br>
Finally, at 1:30 a.m., I told her this was taking too long, and I wanted to get out and labor on land to speed it up. Dh and mw helped me out, and I also requested a VE. She was very hesitant to do it, because that was one of my big no-no's I'd insisted on during the prenatals. But I insisted that I wouldn't be mad at her afterwards.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> So she checked, I was only about 6 cm, and had an anterior lip. She suggested lying on my side in bed to help baby roll more anterior and to help the lip dissolve. So I did that for a very painful and intense hour and a half. My dh laid behind me and dug into my back every time a contrx hit, which relieved the most intense pain. We both fell asleep between contrx, so in a weird way, it was kind of restful too.<br><br>
Around 3 a.m., I called mw in to check my dilation, and she again was hesitant, asked me to go through 3 more contrx and really yield to them. She really wanted to be as non-interventive as possible. So, then she checked again, and I was at about an 8, still with a bit of anterior lip.<br><br>
I decided to get back into the water. I think in hindsight, that was a mistake, but now I know and I won't always wonder. Anyhow, after half an hour there, I checked my own cervix again (so cool!), and knew immediately that the lip was thicker. Then I was feeling pushy, and tried a few trial pushes when the urge came, while holding the lip back myself--and pooped in the water, a lot. So much for a water birth! This was even after an enema earlier in the evening to avoid this situation! Oh, well, I guess I'm just a pooper when I'm pushing--I've done it every other time too.<br><br>
I apologized to the 2 younger girls there profusely, and they brushed it off, saying 'no problem'. Then I was assisted out of the water and began pushing in a squat, again holding the lip back. My dh and the mw helped support me, with my dh directly in front, and the mw kind of to the back and side--again most unobtrusive but there as a support. For the first time in 4 labors, I felt my own body start pushing without external coaching "You're at 10, you can push now." That was another thing I had made my dh and mw promise not to say to me--I didn't want any choruses of "PUSH!" Of course, once they did get caught up in the energy and said it, but I reminded them, "No, I only want to push when my body is ready to, and I don't think my body is PUSHING" At the end of this sentence, my voice dropped into a guttural growl and I pushed massively--everyone laughed. It was great. Somehow, I thought that if my body pushed, it wouldn't be hard or hurt as much. It still hurt bad, and it was a great effort, but it was so much easier than just pushing because someone declared me 'ready'. I loved working together with my body.<br><br>
At this point, someone went to wake up the 2 oldest boys, since they had requested to see the birth. I had let them watch a couple births on youtube, and had made some birthing noises so they wouldn't be scared. So now they sat on the living room couch about 3 feet directly in front of me. I would push, groaning and hollering that I was splitting in two, then look up at them after the contrx, and perkily say something like, "I'm really fine, boys! I'm having a baby!" For some reason, this made everyone laugh too...<br><br>
After 15 minutes of pushing, it started feeling really pushy, and I could no longer hold the lip back myself, so mw held it back for one contrx (at my request). This was the little help my body needed, and baby came down cm by cm. I gave birth still squatting, facing my 2 oldest boys, with my dh behind me supporting me. It was the most incredible, empowering feeling of my life. And it hurt like hell, esp. the crowning, and those shoulders!<br><br>
But suddenly he was out, and it was over, and he was sputtering and crying and I had him out on my legs upside down to let him drain the mucus out. I didn't want to know the sex for a few seconds, so I delayed turning him over. I had expected a girl the whole pregnancy--mainly because of all the girly dreams, and the fact that we came up with a girl name so easily and couldn't decided on a boy name. I was afraid I'd be really disappointed if it wasn't a girl. But after a minute or so, someone asked, "So, what did you get?" I turned him over, and we all laughed as I declared, "I got A BOY!"<br><br>
My husband came around to see him, and the boys clustered around and tentatively touched his hand and his wet gloppy head. It was so perfect. After about 10 minutes, we moved to the bedroom, and the boys were able to cut the cord together after it stopped pulsing. My 3rd son, the toddler, had woken up by this time, and got to watch that and say hello to new brother also.<br><br>
After awhile, one of our helpers took the boys back to bed, since it was only 5 a.m. by then. Then here is where the perfect birth story ends. We were waiting for the placenta to detach, but it didn't. Then I began to bleed. A lot. After a dose of herbs, a shot of pitocin in the leg, and trying upright positions to push it out, the mw declared I had lost too much blood (2 cups is her limit), and we needed to transport. Now as an aside, I had herbs, liquid cayenne extract, and homeopathics designated for retained placenta and excess bleeding, but in the moment, I forgot everything and let the midwife handle everything from here on out. I don't know if I would have been more proactive if she had not been there; frankly I felt very 'out of it' and my mind wasn't clear. I guess I'll never know. Hindsight is 20/20, but when you are in the situation and every second counts it's very easy not to think of what should be obvious.<br><br>
Anyhow, we handed over my hour old son to one of the young women--see I told you they came in handy later!--the midwife made a call to the hospital to give them a heads up, and we hopped (I waddled) into her car and sped off to the hospital. I seemed stable, and everything seemed okay, but while we were waiting for the on-call dr. to finish his c-section, I said, "I think I'm bleeding again" I began to feel nauseus, threw up, felt ringing in my ears and began to black out while shaking violently. I felt so calm, and at peace with whether I lived or died. My mw, however, was in my face, "Michelle, do not leave. You have to stay here." She kept this up until I left for the OR. At this point the dr. rushed in, reached up inside of me, declared he could not get it and they rushed me off to the OR.<br><br>
To wrap up, I ended up staying in the hospital for 4 days. It wasn't nearly as bad as it could have been. The staff was great, and just perfect about baby being with me as much as possible even though he wasn't admitted. I did lose over half my blood, and had to have a total of 6 units of blood transfused. I had 2 more huge bleeding episodes on days 2 and 3 of my stay there, a tortuous experience with methergine, and a tripping high on Stadol, as well as a mandatory round of antibiotics unless I wanted to leave AMA and not have Medicaid cover anything. In the end, I was a good little girl, did the minimum amount of drugs I had to to get out of there and am now home. I am very grateful for my experience in the hospital; it was very broadening, and I now feel empathy for many more people than I used to.<br><br>
My only huge regret is that I couldn't get them to release my placenta to me, since it went to the Pathology lab for testing. Believe me, I tried--2 nurses, head nurse, pathology head. No go. So I had to deal with the night sweats and shakes when the post-birth hormone change hit. Placenta makes it all so much easier...<br><br>
So, that's my story. I love my little boy. His name is from I Kings 7, and has a huge spiritual significance. If anyone would like to know it, you may IM me, and I'll send it to you once I type it up (from our Bible study books).<br><br>
I know, and I've been told by several people, that if/when we have another baby, I need to wait at least 3 years to let my body/uterus heal and get strong. This pregnancy followed a year in which I had 2 early miscarriages and an ectopic pregnancy ended by laparascopic surgery. I was pregnant again only 4 months after that surgery, not enough time for my body to regain its strength. But I was so longing for a babe in my arms again...<br><br>
So now I have that baby, and thankfully I also am alive to enjoy him, and I even have my uterus intact. I have so much to be thankful for.<br><br>
~Michelle
 

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Congrats Mama on your new little boy!! Sounds rough, and beautiful! Enjoy that baby bliss!<br><br>
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congratulations! thanks for sharing your story! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Congrats!!! Thanks for sharing your story. You're babe was born on my birthday! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
So what in the OR did they do to get the placenta out?<br><br>
Also I would love to hear your son's name as we're struggling for a boy's name too!<br><br>
Congrats Again! I hope you are able to quickly regain your strength.
 

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Congratulations! (and I'm so jealous that you're holding your little one already...) It sounds like a wonderful birth experience, and it sounds like you made the right decision to let your mw handle the haemorrhage, based on how you were feeling, rather than trying the herbs first.
 

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Congratulations on your baby. It was such a wonderful story, and it is nice how God works things out just how they need working out.
 

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Congrats!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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Welcome Little One!<br><br>
Congrats, Mama!<br><br>
Sounds like following your intuition really helped a lot! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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In answer to one of the questions--<br><br>
When I was in one of the prep/waiting rooms, the doctor ran in while I was crashing and put his hands up in there to try to manually extract the placenta. It had partially detached, which was why there was so much bleeding. He quickly decided that he couldn't get it--the part hanging on was there firmly. Btw, I felt none of this, even without pain killers--I was too far gone.<br><br>
It was then they rushed me to the OR, put me under general anesthesia, and performed a D&C, but without the "D" part. I was already still fully dilated--he 'just' had to currette (sp? is that even a word?), or cut out the placenta manually.<br><br>
He did a great job, though he did give me a little (4cm) cervical tear when he went in. I didn't tear at all during the birth, which was nice. The tear was a small price to pay.<br><br>
And flapjack, I'm very happy to already be holding my little babe--but early ones have their issues. He doesn't have major ones, but we have him in a bili blanket due to jaundice, and the reason my placenta didn't come out is most likely because it was only 37 weeks and part of it wasn't ready... I was relieved to have him early, but in hindsight, I would gladly go through the discomfort of a few more weeks to avoid what we went through.
 

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Congratulations! So happy for you that you're back at home with your little one..
 

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Just a heads up for the next baby (whenever it happens). With that cervical tear you will get some scar tissue on the cervix. The cervix may have trouble opening and you may find that you need a midwife to do some manual dilation a couple times once labor gets very active. This happens when women get biopsies and other tests done on the cervix. I have been with three women that needed a little bit of a help with some manual dilation, but in the end did get to 10cm and birthed normally.
 

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Congratulations!! Welcome baby Jachin Boaz Ellis!!!
 

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Welcome to the world, sweet Jachin Boaz <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> Congratulations, Michelle and family!!!
 

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Congratulations on your healthy baby boy!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/jumpers.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jumpers">:<br>
Sorry to hear you had a bad time there at the end. Kudos to you for not letting it ruin your experience <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bow2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bow2"><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/Welcome.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="welcome"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/babyboy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Babyboy">: Jachin Boaz!<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/champagne.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="champagne"> Good Work Mama!
 

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Congrats! Wow, what a story. The birth sounded just lovely. I'm sorry about the hemoragging, but I'm glad you were able to get the help you needed and that you are back to normal again. The Lord was watching over you mama! God bless you and that new little one and enjoy your babymoon! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!! Sorry about your tough recovery though. It must have been really scary. So glad they were so nice to you about your baby though and that you are both doing well now!
 
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