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For 17.5 months my DD woke every 45 min -1.5 hrs all night long. Or worse, she wanted to nurse continuously. My body ached from lying in only one position all night. I hated nursing my DD, especially for nap/bedtime and loathed what should have been a time of sweet connection. My marriage suffered - I was grumpy and cranky nearly all the time and resentful of my Dh's sleep.<br><br>
The last month has been BLISS! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"> My DD now sleeps "thru the night", from the time we nurse to sleep at about 9pm till the sun comes up at about 5:30/6am. She might wake occasionally, but it no longer wakes me up or if it does she doesn't require anything from me to go back to sleep. We can watch a whole movie after she goes to bed without being interupted 2-3 times or we can go to bed with her and get 8 heavenly hours of sleep. Last night she did wake me up for a minute... felt around with her hands until she found my face and then gave me a big kiss before snuggling back down and going back to sleep. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
What did we do? Dr. Jay Gordon Nightweaning.<br><br>
I was VERY apprehensive about the process and stalled for weeks. I thought it would be traumatic for everyone involved and I had no confidence it would work. When I finally "hit bottom" as I think of it, and my Dh was begging me to at least try and and was completely on board with supporting me all night if needed... we started. We went VERY slowly and even more gradually than Dr. Gordon's plan and took a total of about 3 weeks. But there were no nights of hours of crying. There was very little crying at all - I think I recall maybe 2-3 nights, not consecutive, of 10 minutes max once we were in the no-boob-at-all phase. Don't get me wrong, it was rough, but in no way the traumatic experience I feared.<br><br>
I'm writing this post b/c this forum helped me on so many nights when I thought I was going to lose it. Just knowing that there were other families that truly understood what it was like and were still choosing to comfort their babies all night long was so helpful. And every once in a while I'd read about a family that finally figured out how to help their child sleep and I'd get a surge of hope, thinking *someday* I will get more sleep. "This too shall pass." I know that nightweaning isn't going to be every family's answer. I know not every family is comfortable with the idea. I can remember reading about nightweaning and thinking "well that's great for them, but it'd never work for us". Well it did and my incredible non-sleeping child has turned into a sleep-thru-the-nighter!<br><br>
And I feel so blessed that there really was an alternative to CIO. My DD is still comforted all night long by snuggling with Mama and Papa - we just showed her another way to get that comfort other than nursing. I'm glad I waited as long as we did b/c she could understand what we were telling her at night about the sun and the boobies sleeping. She still loves her boobie during daylight hours, she still nurses to sleep for nap and bedtime, and our nursing relationship is once again loving. As it should be.<br><br>
Anyway, for those still in the depths of sleep deprivation - there IS hope. Sometimes in places you didn't think could possibly help. This too shall pass. You WILL sleep again. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug">
 

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So glad you are getting some sleep Mama! We also have had a recent success story, using the Jay Gordon nightweaning. We also took it a little slower, and had very few tears. It is so wonderful to FINALLY get some sleep.
 

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Wonderful news!! Congratulations!<br><br>
I totally agree - without MDC, I would have been the loneliest tired mama in the world. We had night wakings every 1-2 hours from the day DS's first tooth popped through at 5 months until his last broke the surface at 14 months. We partially night weaned at 12 months, but I don't think that helped us. My boy was never very attached to the breast. I truly think for us it was all about the teeth and waiting it out. Every baby is different.<br><br>
That said, we did a modified Jay Gordon partial night weaning without any tears at all!<br><br>
Yay for sleeping babies <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><br><br>
And to those without sleeping babies - it will happen!
 

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congrats!<br><br>
What made you initiate night weaning? How did you know it was the right time?<br><br>
DD is only 10 months old, but I like to fantasize about the future and the possibility of STTN.
 

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Congrats, mama! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"> I'm so glad it's worked SO well for you. I know how nervous you were and how hesitant you were, and I'm so glad you've had such quick success!
 

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Thanks for posting this. Nightweaning looks to be in our near future here. I'll have to look at Jay Gordon's plan again.
 

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Thanks for posting this story. I have read "Good Nights" by Dr. Gordon already, mostly to help me validate co-sleeping, nursing to sleep, and nursing for each wake-up. (I have a somewhat judgmental mainstream family.) <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> It's a great book, and includes the night weaning plan.<br><br>
So...one question, OP...did your DH read the book, too? (or the night weaning plan online?) Or did you just tell him the steps? I'm trying to get my DH to read the book so he gets it, KWIM?
 

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Thank you so much for writing this! My daughter is the same age as yours, and I am really feeling the effects of 18 months of little sleep. She gets to nurse all day as much as she wants, I really feel like she could go longer at night. And I know she needs more sleep! I have been trying to figure out what to do (and the molars arent' helping!), and I might try your plan.<br><br>
The only problem is how to get my husband on board - he thinks I should keep nursing on demand all night long! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked"> I KNOW she's still a baby, but I need some more sleep!! I feel so guilty when I talk about wanting to nightwean and he tries to convince me that she should still nurse at night - hopefully we'll work it out!
 

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Nightweaning (at 18 months) pretty much saved my relationship with my son and husband. I know that sounds dramatic, but DS was such a light sleeper, and such an intense guy (well, he's still intense, but it's different <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">) that night nursing, even cosleeping night nursing) was a horrible wakeful experience for me. I'd lie there, waiting for DS to be asleep enough for me to move into a comfortable sleeping position, resenting DS for having kept me awake for 18 months, resenting DH for snoring peacefully and comfortably just inches away, and thinking I was a bad person for being so resentful.<br><br>
And then... we nightweaned. DH and I could take turns doing the soothing, DS learned that Daddy is just as comforting as Mama at night, and I could sleep comfortably curled up the way I wanted to be, not sprawled awkwardly in the side-lying nursing position and waking up with backaches as a result<br><br>
DS was ready. While he continued to wake once or twice a night for soothing for the next few months, it was generally just a short butt-patting or hair-stroking session. At two, he's realiably an all-night sleeper (watch me jinx myself by typing that) except when ill. He requires some soothing to sleep, but has in the past few weeks started to allow (and some nights, command <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">) me to leave him and "mama go brush your teeth, be right back," and about half the time he's asleep by the time I finish a very loooooooonnnnnnnnnnnng tooth-brushing session. If not, I peek in, give him another kiss and hug, and "mama go wash your face, be right back," and usually that does it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">. If not, it's "mama go fold laundry, be right back."<br><br>
I look back to where we were a year ago, and... nightweaning has helped me love my kid again. Honestly. I had SO much anger and resentment. I look forward to going to bed, not because it's a sure thing he'll sleep all night, but because it's a manageable amount (heck, I wake up twice a night on my own!), and every other waking I can poke DH and send him. I don't dread bedtime... I look forward to a good night's sleep. When DS wakes us up with a hideously cheerful 6am "GUT MORTEEN!" I feel petty annoyince, but have to laugh at how cute it is. Six months ago, everything to do with sleep was just a big ball of resentment.
 

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What? A good night of sleep? No CIO? You must be making this up....<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">:<br>
Okay I think it might be time for night weaning for my dd!
 

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DS didn't take to it the first time, and then magically two months later, he accepted it with little protestation. You never know until you try.
 

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