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Hello all - I haven't been on much because sitting at the computer to long hurts me anymore.<br><br>
I was due Sept 19 and nothing has happened yet. I went to the doctor on my due date and she said I was dilated to a 1 but my cervix was still long. She stripped my membranes and sent me home. That night I was in some serious pain, mostly concentrated in my back so I figured I had gone into back labor and went to the hospital. After being there for two hours they decieded I wasn't in labor, just pain. I got a shot of nephron (I think that's what they called it) in my bum and was sent home, it knocked me out for the rest of the night and half of the next day. I'm still in pain, it hurts to sit, lay, move, breath... you get my drift. I'm in some serious pain. The doctor's don't want to induce even though they say my baby is about 8 lbs now. I can't think that inducing would hurt anymore than this pain I'm in now.<br><br>
I don't know what to try to bring on my contractions. I've walked and walked and walked. I've tried nipple stimulation but I start squirting milk (yeah, that part is ready for the baby). I even got my DH to have sex with me (sounds funny, but we haven't done it for months because he is afraid to hurt the baby). I'm out of ideas.<br><br>
I'm going to call the doctor's office tomorrow and see about more pain killers because this pain is practically unbearable. I guess the baby is on my spine funny or something. I shouldn't be in this much pain, should I?<br><br>
Aghhh - I just want my baby girl here.
 

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Hang in there.<br>
Have you thought about doing some acupuncture? That really got me going (90 second contractions about three min apart folloiwed by a quick deliv.)<br>
The more drugs the more likely you are to end up with a birth you do NOT want , a stressed babe and diminished connection to the new little one!<br>
Due dates are only the general area of when babies are to come not EXact science, even the OB/Gyn society has discussed turning it into a due WEEK to reduce the amount of interventions!!!<br>
<<<<<<labor vibes and happy delivery!!!!!>>>>>>>><br><br>
Kay
 

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You can have my old mantra: this baby will come when s/he's ready and I can't be pg forever!!!! My boys were 12 and 8 days 'late', er uh, beyond their respective due dates so I feel your pain. I'm surprised you were already stripped, yikes! Anyway, as you're finding, that often does nothing anyway. Yes, you can cyber slap me anytime now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
walk, sex, walk, sex, walk, spicey food, sex, ingest sperm (that actually works better than sex). I was told to do stuff to agitate things down there like ride a riding lawnmower, move furniture, squats, deep knee bends, sit on a washing machine while it is washing....all kinds of strange stuff. There is really nitty gritty stuff like castor oil ingestion and the cohoshes, but you really need to weigh how much you want to risk hurting yourself or baby before going aggressive like that.<br><br>
Hang in there. It really won't be much longer, and once baby is here, you're not gonna care one bit about the extra wait! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I'm sorry you are in such pain. I want to avoid the membrane stripping this time because I had it done with my first because the doctor was in a hurry for the baby to come. Now I'm sure I don't want it done this time after reading your post.<br><br>
I think nipple stimulation and sex are good, but that is all I did the first time, and walking. I know there are herbs and acupressure points, but I don't really know much about them.
 

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I would suggest getting to a chiropractor - one certified in the Webster Technique may be especially helpful. A good spinal adjustment may be just what you need. There is a reason you little one isn't here yet - he or she will let you know when the time is right.<br><br>
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It is sooo hard to go past your due date, but like so many of the women here are saying due dates are not really accurate. It sounds like you might be concerned that your baby is posterier, is it something they've talked about at all? Pelvic rocks are supposed to be able to help that, you get on your hands and knees and sort of lift your belly up (curving your spine towards the ceiling) and then relax it down. Another thing to do would be to try washing a floor on your hands and knees. This position just relieves pressure on your spine so it could really help the pain. Also, I definitely second the recommendations to go to a chiropractor or even get a prenatal message. But many pain medications don't really solve everything, they are only temporary and if they keep you in bed for a long time they can inhibit the natural beginning of your labor.<br><br>
Good luck and hope you find some relief soon!!
 

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Could you get to a swimming pool? Swimming or just floating on a couple of pool noodles might really help you feel better. A massage from an experienced prenatal massage therapist might be helpful too.<br><br>
Not sure what to tell you about getting labor going, though. My dd was 2 wks past my edd--she came out when she was ready. I'm just assuming this one will be "late" too and going with the flow...<br><br>
Good luck!<br><br>
peace, Beth
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I'm sorry you're hurting so much.
 

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Thanks everyone for all your encouragement and advice. I called the doctor's office (well, midwife's office) this morning and am waiting for a call back. I'm thinking about a prenatal massage but it's so hard to find someone who is willing to do prenatal, esp in my small town. I'm afraid of chiropractors, though that seems to be more popular around my area than massage therapists.<br><br>
I'm having a problem with the sit back and wait approach because I'm on a rigid timeline. My mother came up from Louisiana to help with the baby and my dd. She's only going to be here for a short time and I'd rather it be when the baby is here. My dh works 60+ hours a week and though I know he'll want to help, he can't do much when he's at work or when he is sleeping. My grandparents are also making the trek from KC, MO here next week to see their great granddaughter. I don't know when I'll make it out there.... Aghhhh.... no stress here.<br><br>
My dd was 2 1/2 weeks late so that has me quite worried. In that time, my grandparents will have been here and left. My mother will be leaving shortly. I'll be stuck in a town I don't know, without family and friends, with a 4 year old and an infant. I'm sorry, I'm a bit emotional right now. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying"> Forgive my ranting. (thanks for listening though!)
 

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((hugs, mama)) Been there done that. It's so hard to wait, especially when you're in pain. I was in pain for 2 months with my 3rd. She was only 2 days past MY due date(2 weeks past Dr. due dates) when I was induced. It was such a physical relief to have birthed her. I moved easier as soonas seh was born than i had in the months before her birth.<br><br>
While it's best to take nothing, you need to be able to rest as well. You do what's best for your situation. We all have the plan to be drug free, but be flexible for the unexpected and go with it. There's nothing wrong in that.<br><br>
Babies do come when they are ready, unless medically induced. I'd recommend avaoiding hte cohoshes and castor oil unless it is being supervised by your careprovider. There can be problems with that.<br><br>
For the back pain, I second the pelvic tilts. A doula here told me to rest my head on a pillow, and stick my butt in the air while on my knees. Spend lots of time in that position, it help to move baby out of posterior position. Worse case scenario, it relieves some pressure on your spine. A warm bath helps some too, swimming or even jsut being in that water submerged helps too. Baby belly is more buoyant and will relieve some pain.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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I'm with you on being overdue, my due date was yesterday. I second the advice about the pelvic tilts and the pool. I've gotten great relief of my hip and back pain (although I'm not having anything like the back pain you are! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> ) when I went over to my apartment complex's pool and floated in the hot tub (which was set to a relatively low temp for a hot tub, under 100, prolly not more than 95, so I wasn't worried about overheating) for a little while. I'd do it more often, but I don't have a proper bathing suit and HATE walking back in cotton shorts and t shirt dripping w/ water!!!<br><br>
Anyway, hang in there. I know exactly what you mean about not being able to sit for long in front of the computer.
 

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Absolutely find a chiropractor, I must have left that part out, I went to the chiro adn then to acupuncture & wham =bambino<br>
find one at <a href="http://www.icpa4kids.com" target="_blank">www.icpa4kids.com</a><br>
good luck<br>
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I have one more idea for you to try. Pelvic rocks might help relieve some of the pressure on your spine. Also, try sitting on a birth ball (I know, that's two ideas, but they're along the same lines). It may be that the baby is posterior, which would account for your back pain.<br><br>
I'm so sorry that you're in pain, and things are going slowly.<br><br>
Sending you some quick, easy, and imminent labor vibes! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/dust.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="dust"><br><br><br><br>
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I understand that you might be afraid of something you're not familiar with, but going to a chiro can be extremely benficial. Are there any on that site mentioned above in the town or area you live? (BTW, my chiro isn't on that list...hmmm....she's really good though!). Or anyone you can get a recommendation from? Maybe your mw? They are extremely safe and effective. Of course, as in *every* field, there are the bad ones, but I think they're harder to find than a good one!<br><br>
You know, your pain might be related to your membranes being stripped. Anyone else hear of this link?? I just read of it somewhere...too bad my preggo brain isn't cooperating. Anyway, I'd hate that you have to go into labor while already in so much pain. It's amazing how much our bodies can handle, isn't it!!<br><br>
I know that it all will work out for the best, but it's so hard to see that now while you're in such a time crunch with all your family coming. Maybe your body's waiting for everyone to be here for the big day!<br><br>
BTW, there's a good article on the magazine part of this website about inducing "naturally". You should check it out!<br><br>
Keep us posted, and know that you are in our hearts.
 
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