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<p>I'm not sure if this is the correct place to post this, but ~</p>
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<p>Anyone else feel the overwhelming need to simplify their social media experience?  I've already deactivated my Facebook account, just leaving my blog and Twitter active.  The main reason I'm doing this is to enable me to feel more connected to my real life, instead of checking my iPhone every 20 minutes to see what's happening online.</p>
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<p>It's so easy to get lost in it all.  Anyone with me on the simplify for 2011?</p>
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Hi Imogen. Yes. I also deleted my facebook account. I am so much happier and life is simpler.<br>
I reach out to friends one on one. I also don't blog or twitter.<br><br>
 

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Me three. I deleted my fb account six months ago and haven't regretted it. I hoped I'd get around to blogging mire which hasn't happened but I don't really mind.
 

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<p>Yup, I cut the facebook umbilical cord back in March and I don't regret it.  One thing I have noticed is that people I know rely so heavily on communicating through facebook that I find out from them weeks later, "hey, I tried getting a hold of you on facebook didn't you hear about x, y, and z?!"  And I think, well, there are other modes of communication beyond facebook, if it was that important and you haven't heard back from me maybe you could take that extra step and Email?  Call me?</p>
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<p>It is just really unfathomable for them that I operate my life without it.</p>
 

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<p>I joined Facebook this year very tentatively, and after a couple of months I deactivated my account.</p>
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<p>Then I went back... and then I defriended a lot of people. I hated the dynamic. No, everyone was behaving, no drama. I just hated having ghosts from the past in the same bucket as my current friends and family. And I hated how impersonal everything was - a ghost from the past would "friend" me but there would be no catchup, not even a note. Just suddenly seeing their feed.</p>
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<p>My cousin said Goodbye on FB a few weeks ago, intending to close his account. But he ended up not doing it. He felt the same angst as I did, I guess. A lot of people do, I think.</p>
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<p>I continue to consider shutting down my account, but I don't. Why not? Because I am really lonely. I have no contact with 95% of my FB friends other than FB. I would never ever hear from them again if it weren't for FB (how do I know? Because I never heard from them BEFORE FB). And I've found that FB has helped me develop a few new, tentative friendships. I've been friendless for years and years, but I have 2 or 3 people in town who might develop into friends. Somehow it's acceptable to friend someone on FB just based on two mommies meeting and chatting while their kids play at gymnastics or whatever. And that connection can be used to set up additional playdates, etc.</p>
 
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<p>I don't blog, I don't have myspace (do people still do that).  I don't text or use my cell that often.  I have enjoyed facebook because it has been drama free.  My high school class is planning our 20th reunion, I've planned get-togethers with girls I've known since kindergarten.  It's a fast and easy way to make plans with both of my brothers and their wives without a million calls.  I am not THAT involved in "facebook" but it's a super handy tool for me.  I don't even update my status more than...gosh, maybe once a month.  Maybe if I participated more, I'd feel more chained to it but right now it has helped me simplify a lot of things so...well, yay for that!</p>
 

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<p>I deactivated my Facebook account several months ago and haven't regretted it a bit. I never had a Twitter account or blog, so I guess my only online connection is e-mail (and MDC <img alt="winky.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/winky.gif">). It just felt like such an un-genuine way to communicate with friends and family. I don't even really like reading the blogs of family members, to be honest. I realize that they're a convenient way to share photos and tell everyone what you're up to in one fell swoop, but the generic tone grates on me. I'm just a one-on-one or small-group kind of person, so those types of interaction just don't appeal to me -- I'm happier without them, for sure. </p>
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<p>ETA: For full disclosure, I do actually have a fake Facebook account. It's under an assumed name and I have zero friends and belong to zero groups. I just keep it because I like to play Bejeweled Blitz, Word Challenge, and Geo Challenge. <img alt="redface.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/redface.gif"></p>
 
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<p>I deleted my FB account over the summer. I got tired of finding out someone hated a race/religion for whatever reason(most often no reason). They would seem so nice in posts,and yet on their main page they would write... I hate.....those people. I just got tired of it.</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>laohaire</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1280480/overwhelmed-by-social-media#post_16058707"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I joined Facebook this year very tentatively, and after a couple of months I deactivated my account.</p>
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<p>Then I went back... and then I defriended a lot of people. I hated the dynamic. No, everyone was behaving, no drama. I just hated having ghosts from the past in the same bucket as my current friends and family. And I hated how impersonal everything was - a ghost from the past would "friend" me but there would be no catchup, not even a note. Just suddenly seeing their feed.</p>
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<p>My cousin said Goodbye on FB a few weeks ago, intending to close his account. But he ended up not doing it. He felt the same angst as I did, I guess. A lot of people do, I think.</p>
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<p>I continue to consider shutting down my account, but I don't. Why not? Because I am really lonely. I have no contact with 95% of my FB friends other than FB. I would never ever hear from them again if it weren't for FB (how do I know? Because I never heard from them BEFORE FB). And I've found that FB has helped me develop a few new, tentative friendships. I've been friendless for years and years, but I have 2 or 3 people in town who might develop into friends. Somehow it's acceptable to friend someone on FB just based on two mommies meeting and chatting while their kids play at gymnastics or whatever. And that connection can be used to set up additional playdates, etc.</p>
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<br><br><p>I think that there are many benefits to Facebook, such as what you've highlighted ~ It can be a good way to form new friendships and keep in contact with family. <img alt="smile.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/smile.gif"></p>
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<p>For me, it was just overwhelm of juggling too many balls in the air with social media and Facebook was the easiest one to let go of.</p>
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<p>My internet time is MDC and reading homeschooling blogs.  I don't blog myself, I don't fb, twitter, myspace, linkedin, whatever.  Period.  Gosh, my life is complicated enough by reading other people's blogs much less something like FB.  Some days I threaten to get rid of the internet all together.  I want to focus on real life connection and with everyone else focused on social media it is getting harder and harder each month. </p>
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<p>So YEAH for simplifying your social media!!!!  Hooray!!!</p>
 

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<p>not really :) i was never extensively into the social media.</p>
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<p>i do have a fb page but i am not tempted to check it every 20 mins. i only have people i know and so enjoy connecting with them. i dont do personal updates unless its big. however i do find a lot of issues that i enjoy posting about. and also because my friends know my interest they post those links for me to see. so i enjoy looking at them. i dont do any apps on fb. i notice with my neices and nephews they prefer to fb and put up picures of the baby than email me and send me pictures thru email.</p>
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<p>however i dont have an iphone or  some sort of that. if i did that might be an issue.</p>
 

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<p>never made a facebook, never made a twitter, had an old online journal that i update every now and again. i love not having to check those things. now mdc i learn so much on here!</p>
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<p>i do love email and texting though. so much easier when you have kids ime.</p>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>mattemma04</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1280480/overwhelmed-by-social-media#post_16059203"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I deleted my FB account over the summer. I got tired of finding out someone hated a race/religion for whatever reason(most often no reason). They would seem so nice in posts,and yet on their main page they would write... I hate.....those people. I just got tired of it.</p>
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<br><br><p><span><img alt="confused.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/confused.gif"> That must depend on who your FB friends are. No one I know is posting racial rants, hate messages, etc....so I think it's just the people you know. Maybe defriend those folks and keep to your closer, non-racist friends?</span></p>
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<p><span>I thikn FB is great for sharing pictures of our baby. So much easier to reach friends and family. I live abroad and I find Facebook is a very convenient way to keep up with people. Unfortunately,  I have had a hard time making new friends in this country so it helps a lot to have socializing online. I also love seeing pictures of my friends' kids.</span></p>
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<p><span>But I also agree with some of the complaints here, and I sometimes feel my online life takes away from my offline life. It's a balance and it's up to me to keep it in check.</span></p>
 

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If it weren't for FB, I wouldn't have reconnected with some college friends. We go out every few weeks for a girl's night out. And it is sooo needed since we moved a few years ago and I've regretted the move every day.<br><br>
I like to keep work out of FB but was able to find a programmer within minutes when a programmer for work flaked on us.<br><br>
And there are people with annoying posts. I block them from my wall but check in every so often to see what they have to say.<br><br><br>
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<p>I consider deactivating facebook on a weekly basis. But so far, I haven't, because if I didn't have it, I feel like I would just be so crazy lonely. No one emails or calls anymore with news, they just facebook it! I find it infuriating. But I got the account so I could at least feel like I had friends, even though I realize this is not what a real relationship should be. It makes me really sad. And I think I may deactivate after the first of the year, I'm just sort of on the fence. I don't do twitter or blog.</p>
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<p>I just get really frustrated with our society's attitude about technology. Basically that everything has to revolve around it. Like you are totally crazy if you refuse to have a facebook, etc.</p>
 

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<p>I guess I've found a way for FB to work for me. I don't do any games and my friends tend to be drama free. Even the ones who have differeing politics seem to thrive on civil discourse. I don't have a smart phone so the only time I'm checking it is when I have time to sit down at a computer.</p>
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<p>The biggest benefit for me as someone who is really shy is that now I always have a tidbit from FB to open a conversation with. It has been so useful to me in real life. I was afraid that it would make me more of a geek, more comfortable with electronic communications but the opposite is true. </p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Masel</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1280480/overwhelmed-by-social-media#post_16068375"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I guess I've found a way for FB to work for me. I don't do any games and my friends tend to be drama free. Even the ones who have differeing politics seem to thrive on civil discourse. I don't have a smart phone so the only time I'm checking it is when I have time to sit down at a computer.</p>
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<p>The biggest benefit for me as someone who is really shy is that now I always have a tidbit from FB to open a conversation with. It has been so useful to me in real life. I was afraid that it would make me more of a geek, more comfortable with electronic communications but the opposite is true. </p>
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exactly this! my friends and family are nice, normal, sane people. no one posts offensive things, if something controversial is posted, it rarely gets heated, and is always sorted by the opposing parties pretty quickly. i have approx 300 people on my friendlist, and very truthfully, all of them are people whose email, phone number or address would be stored in a physical address book if i had one. i could maybe weed out a dozen or so who i'm not overly fond of and maybe felt pressured to add, plus another couple dozen that i don't care about one way or another. but these are still people i would feel obligated to make small talk with at a party or if i saw them at the grocery store, since they are friends of family or people i went to school with or something, so it doesn't seem strange to have them added.</p>
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<p>i have reduced my news feed to only the people i actually speak to on a regular basis. that guy who i used to work with 2 years ago, no, i don't need to see regular updates from him, but if i take him off the feed, then it's basically just his contact info stored in my friends list. people otherwise get 3 chances to stay on my feed. i took my own sister off because she kept posting dumb things (she's in highschool) and similarly, anyone who plays farmville gets the axe. so my facebook newfeed is filled with relevant tidbits, funny stuff, pictures etc, from people who i all regularly see or talk to. i can chat with people, send pictures, link articles and games, organize meet-ups and let people know what i'm up to. and no, i don't update my page more than once every few days, usually. i think facebook is a great tool...</p>
 

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Hi Imogen. Yes. I also deleted my facebook account. I am so much happier and life is simpler.<br>
I reach out to friends one on one. I also don't blog or twitter.<br>
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<br><br><p>yup.  I was never on facebook, myspace, twitter etc.  NO plans to go on either.  I talk to my friends when I need to and no one cares or needs to know what I'm doing every minute of the day.  I like simple.</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>lilmom</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1280480/overwhelmed-by-social-media#post_16067469"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I consider deactivating facebook on a weekly basis. But so far, I haven't, because if I didn't have it, I feel like I would just be so crazy lonely. No one emails or calls anymore with news, they just facebook it! I find it infuriating.</p>
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<p>Yes. I've been left out of quite a few things (gatherings, parties etc.) because people forgot I wasn't on facebook.  Or assumed someone else told me.  I've been badgered to get on and heckled because I'm not.  My basic feeling is if you want me there, pick up a phone.  Same with news.  I just truly don't get the whole social media thing.  NO judgment...I just really truly don't understand.</p>
 

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<img alt="nod.gif" class="bbcode_smiley" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/nod.gif"> I don't get it either. My good friend was complaining yesterday that it's been 20 years since we graduated college and she "hasn't done anything with her life." This is a beautiful woman with a DH and beautiful DD who owns her home, etc. etc. Guess what she does all the time? Browses people's facebook walls. And sees all that everyone else is doing (supposedly) that she is not, friending people to up her friend numbers, etc., dreaming about others' lives. I told her, you know FB can engender jealousy. What people put on their walls is not necessarily indicative ot their real lives. It's their billboard. It's often their idealized version of who they want to be. She just can't disconnect, but it often makes her miserable.<br><br><div class="quote-container" data-huddler-embed="/community/forum/thread/1280480/overwhelmed-by-social-media#post_16068955" data-huddler-embed-placeholder="false"><span>Quote:</span>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>lilmom</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1280480/overwhelmed-by-social-media#post_16067469"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I consider deactivating facebook on a weekly basis. But so far, I haven't, because if I didn't have it, I feel like I would just be so crazy lonely. No one emails or calls anymore with news, they just facebook it! I find it infuriating.</p>
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<p>Yes. I've been left out of quite a few things (gatherings, parties etc.) because people forgot I wasn't on facebook.  Or assumed someone else told me.  I've been badgered to get on and heckled because I'm not.  My basic feeling is if you want me there, pick up a phone.  Same with news.  I just truly don't get the whole social media thing.  NO judgment...I just really truly don't understand.</p>
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