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Hi. I have a preemie who to date has refused pacifiers (tried Avent and Gerber so far). His sitter however, is a big paci advocate. My thinking had been if he doen't want it, why push it? Just one less habit we have to break later. But, she swears that he needs one and to that end offered to go buy him some. I said okay because maybe I just didn't have the right kind, and maybe he does need some more sucking time, particularly when I am not around, which is about 5 hours a day. She used NUK with her now teenagers, so that is what she bought for him. He will sometimes take it, mostly from her, not so much from me....which is fine really. I just wonder what opinions you all have about pacifiers in general and if there are some that any of you would recommend over others. I wonder if he would take Avents now. I figure they must be breastfeeder friendly and they are nicer to look at then those icky looking nuks- plus I like that they have caps to close them up instead of hanging on a leash the way my sitter had clipped onto him the other day when I went to pick him up. She was really trying to help, but it just seems like they will get dirty or germy just hanging like that touching everything. Maybe I am paranoid. Anyway, maybe he was just too young before to have any interest. As I said, he was a preemie born 6 weeks early and had to learn how to suck as we went along, which was in itself, a process. He is now almost 13 weeks old. What do you guys think? Sorry if I am rambling. I just want to do the right thing for my little baby. Well, I guess not so little anymore. He is up to 13 pounds! Thanks for listening!
 

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I haven't had a preemie so no experience there.<br><br>
But our first didn't like pacifier and dh thought why make them want one. Never offered one to our second and third. Doubt we will with the 4th.<br><br>
It was nice never having to deal with the things. IMO<br><br>
We figured if the baby wanted to suck I should be the binky.
 

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My DD refused to take a pacifer at all till about a month ago, and now she doesn't use to suck, she uses it to chew on. I don't think that any baby NEEDS one, so if yours doesn't seem to want it, then don't push it and ask her not to either.
 

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My ds won't take a paci from me either! I think they know when the real thing is available, b/c he will take it from others! Here's my opinion: sometimes the boob is just comfort, I know my ds likes to just "play" with it sometimes. I would like him to take a paci for these moments, but I always try to nurse him first. If he doesn't seem hungry, I will pass him to dh for a paci when he's home. I think they are ok to use as long as they are not being used to shut a crying baby up without first trying to figure out why the baby is crying. Maybe ask the sitter when she is using the paci and why she thinks he needs one.<br><br>
My ds will only take the NUKs. The clip will be handy when he is old enough to give himself the paci if it falls out and he wants it back.
 

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My dd Morgan has what our LC termed "a very strong sucking reflex" LOLOL.<br>
Even before she left the hospital we had her using the MAM orthodontic pacifier, or else I would never have gotten any sleep. She just naturally likes to suck a lot. Sucking releases feel good chemicals in the brain, and helps them sleep, so it calms her down.<br><br>
I find the NUK ones are good, and we have a Beechnut one as well. She has never had any "nipple confusion" (I pump milk and she drinks from both Dr Browns and Avent bottles). I boil them occassionally to kill germs, and rinse them before giving them to her or before I put gripe water on it.<br><br>
If your baby doesnt want it, I don't think babies NEED it, so don't bother. But it does help if your baby really wants to suck, let me tell ya!!
 

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I cant imagine why anyone would think a baby needs it, but I suppose thats just me.<br><br>
Don't force it on him, offer it - if he doesnt want it, the end.<br><br>
You know, I just gave more thought to it - and I would be opposed to using one now or in the future. I'd figure out why she is so Pro-pacifying your child, and approach it that way.<br>
My child is a baracuda baby - and I've literally had him attached to me for 3-20 hours a day for the last almost 2 years, and its been stellar.<br>
Got a lot of MDC reading done. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I started a pacifier with my 5 wk. old yesterday because:<br>
1 - he needed to suck but was obviously getting enough to eat<br>
2 - so DH could sooth him too<br>
3 - for car trips and evening fussiness<br><br>
When he's not hungry, the pacifier actually seems to sooth better than the breast.<br><br>
I used one for my 1st-born DD, but not for my 2nd-born DS because I was opposed. When we started to try and find ways to sooth him, it was too late & he wouln't take it. At this point, with 3rd born DS, my feeling is that wahatever makes him happy (breast, pacifier, sling, swing, carseat, etc...) is awesome in my book!<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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My DS didn't "learn" to use a paci until about 3 mos. He didn't hate them, just would push them out instead of suck them in. I also wouldn't push them onto the baby. Maybe you can let the sitter use one but you can always offer the breast when you're around. Don't know why she's so insistent about it, though. My DS was an insatiable sucker too(poor boobies!). Just make sure to tell the sitter to make sure all his needs have been met before pushing a paci in his mouth. I'd hate to think that my baby really was asking for something else and was quieted / sidetracked by the sitter by shoving a binky in his mouth while not having his needs met. Maybe you can try one of those soothie paci's. Some babies really like those.
 

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my son also has a really strong suck and wants to suck ALL the time, so we've been giving him a pacifier since we were in the hospital. The only kind he will take is the soothies. He took to it tight away and now he wont take any other kind.
 

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My baby took a Nuk, too. Helped calm her when nursing 24-7 was not an option for me. Great for those of you who can nurse 24-7 but I am not one of those. It just plain hurts my boobs and back. Helped her disengage from boob when sleeping. Avent and such were too big for her face and hit her in the nose.<br><br>
My opinion is that pacifiers are no dirtier/cleaner than fingers, they are easier to wean from than fingers, they are beneficial for babies who are super suckers and need something to pacify them that way, and they do no harm as long as they are not inteferring with tooth development and feeding. You can wash them when dirty and when baby is ready, you can conveniently loose them. You cannot do this with a thumb, which can be sucked for years and cause major tooth development problems and be a nuisance once child starts school.
 

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Loved our pacis, all three of my babies loved them, and all three SELF weaned around 24 months or so. I didn't have to "deal with" anything later on. I love the security it appears to give them, soothes them, takes care of the NTS. I have no problems at all with them.<br><br>
And as far as germs, I couldn't care less. They were all dropped on the ground countless times, and put right back in the mouth. If your baby crawls, she's getting the same "germs" on her hands and putting those in her mouth. Remember - germs are most a GOOD thing.<br><br>
We also used MAMs.
 

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He sounds like he doesn't need it.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">If he refuses it, don't force him.<br>
some kids just don't need pacis</div>
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And why complicate your life by introducing one?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My baby took a Nuk, too. Helped calm her when nursing 24-7 was not an option for me. Great for those of you who can nurse 24-7 but I am not one of those. It just plain hurts my boobs and back. Helped her disengage from boob when sleeping. Avent and such were too big for her face and hit her in the nose.</div>
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my dd took to the pacifier without any prob. it was given to her v. early on when she was in special care in the hosp. i guess that must be the reason why she accepted it. but, i have read that you should not hang pacifiers from strings and put them around the baby's neck as this could be risky to the baby. read it in 'what to expect in the first year.'
 

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I agree with the "if he doesn't want it, why give it?" sentiment. My preemie (29 weeker) learned to suck in general by using a paci during tube feedings in the NICU, yet when he came home, he very rarely took a paci. I only used it for situations where I absolutely couldn't bf him (like in the car when we're 15 minutes from home), and those situations were pretty rare. It was only probably a 3 month window where we used it at all. After that, we just didn't need it.<br><br>
My full term second baby only used it occasionally when he was colicky at church (he won't comfort nurse - believe me, I tried!). But once he outgrew that stage, he didn't take it anymore. He found his thumb around 3 months, and I've been happy with that. Easier on me, and I could care less if he sucks his thumb. I sucked mine and still turned out fine, and I weaned myself off it before I was in high school. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I don't understand why the sitter should need to use a paci if your son doesn't want one. Not all babies need to suck all day. I'd be more worried about whether she's paying attention to him when he has needs (ie, if she wants to pacify him instead of holding him).
 
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