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against my better judgement i let my mom give my LO a pacifier when she was just born , we havent had any breast feeding problems or anything but i want to get rid of the pacifier problem - does anyone have any tips? I HATE to hear her cry- and sometimes that is the only thing that will calm her down- she is 3 mo if that matters!
 

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Instead of giving her the pacifier put her to breast. Ds never hadd one. He just lived on the breast instead.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">against my better judgement i let my mom give my LO a pacifier when she was just born , we havent had any breast feeding problems or anything but i want to get rid of the pacifier problem - does anyone have any tips? I HATE to hear her cry- and sometimes that is the only thing that will calm her down- she is 3 mo if that matters!</div>
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If you are not experiencing nipple confusion or any other BF problems, why not just let her have the paci?<br><br>
My two oldest were exclusively BF and there was no nipple confusion whatsoever. (thank God) And honestly, sometimes they did not want the breast. They also gave them up without any prompting from me, at around 4-5 mos old.
 

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I wouldn't worry about it just yet... from my reading if I recall correctly they don't form an emotional attachment to a paci until about 6 months, so if you're off it by then you're clear. At 3 mo she's still in that fourth trimester area, which means she's still a little disorganized and more likely to cry for no apparent reason, which is what a paci is good for and sounds like that's what you're using it for.<br><br>
I would say, only use it when nothing else works and hopefully those times will be fewer and fewer until she doesn't need it anymore. Don't beat yourself up about it; lots of great moms use pacis and it's not like she's going to be 10 and still using it. The real problem is moms who use a paci INSTEAD of comforting their children themselves, but I'm sure that's not you! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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thanks ladies, its just hard- i tend to question everything i do- lol - shes nearly tripled her weight since she was born , and i guess if it becomes a problem ill slowly get rid of it. and her doc would let me know-
 

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Some kids need something more to suck on, and others don't .... two of mine have ended up with paci's, because they wanted to suck but were no longer hungry.
 

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someone made a good suggestion on another similar thread....wait until LO has a cold, the congested nose means she won't be able to breathe with a Paci in and will give it up easier. We did this with DS (almost 6 months old) a few weeks ago and it worked pretty well....<br><br>
We had to go back to the paci b/c he has reflux and w/out it he was urping more often and more uncomfortable.
 

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I am also failing to see the problem... If LO is happy with a paci and is eating/gaining well and has no latch issues, I don't see the harm. DD is a huge sucker and does NOT want to nurse when she's just wanting to suck. I wish I'd let her have one earlier - we waited until she was 10 weeks. I think I would have had a happier baby if she had it sooner...<br><br>
I'd much rather have a babe with a pacifier in her mouth than one who's crying for a reason that can be so easily solved...<br><br>
She is now beginning to suck her thumb or big toe sometimes, and will spit out her paci for those and then will pick it back up and put it back in her mouth when she wants it again. The girl knows what she wants. She will also NOT take the paci when she's hungry - she'll immediately spit it out and lunge at my chest. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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i think 3mos is a little young to be worried about your daughter using a paci. DS took one til he was 11 mos old, and it was a cinch to get rid of. however, once he reached about 5 mos, i strictly limited use of it to his naps and bedtime.
 

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Ooooh, Good Point!
 

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if you really wanted to you could just take it away and not give it to her and see how that goes. after ds got out of the NICU we just stopped giving it to him. It took about 3 or 4 days to get used to it but it was easy for us.
 

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If it ain't broke... But really, at that age I wouldn't worry too much. Once she's got more control of her hands and starts to explore and taste everything, I'm betting that she'll slow her use of it.
 

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Same with my son.
 

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When my son started to get his teeth, I noticed his paci use went down.<br><br>
I wouldn't worry about a paci at that age. If it isn't upsetting your milk supply, I say just roll with it.
 

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I agree with the pp's that I wouldn't worry about a paci at this age. When DD was about 4 or 5 months old, we did start gradually weaning her off of it - I don't think it's bad for many babies to continue to use it, but she was starting to rely on it so much for sleep that it was becoming an issue - the minute it would fall out she'd wake up, etc. I also wasn't crazy about the idea of having a much older child who was super attached to her paci, and it seemed like it would be easier to do away with it before she was too attached. We just started giving it to her less and less, and she seemed to need it less and less, until it got to the point that she wasn't even interested. Instead, she found her thumb, and decided she preferred it.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I never thought I'd give her one at all, but she was just one of those babies that seemed to need to suck all the time. It served its purpose in the early months. If you want to get rid of it at some point, you can think about it in a few months (when she might be more able to reliably suck on her thumb), but I also know many people whose LO's use a paci for several years and it's been fine.
 

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I wouldn't worry.<br><br>
I may know a little how you feel though... dd1 was a non stop nursling who refused any sub. It was mama or nothing for the first year. DD2 though wanted to suck round the clock but my over active supply drove her crazy. We tried a paci and she loooooooved it. She is 9mo now and still likes her paci. She will crawl over to it and pop it in, and having that paci makes it possible for dh to parent her to sleep on some nights (after she nurses of course).<br><br>
However I feel like I have to explain to every mama I meet that dd2 is still a raging nursling, we nurse on demand day/night/in/out, she isn't "left alone" with her paci for comfort, etc. It can be hard to have a child with a nasty plastic paci sticking out of their mouth....it's what people see. They don't see the AP parenting, the nursing, the co-sleeping, the generally plastic free and organic alternative lifestyle. All the things you "want" people to see when they look at the cutie poking out of the sling.<br><br>
So I totally understand wanting your babe to give up the paci. But I also feel that IF it isn't causing a problem for the two of you as a mama/baby duo then it's not something that needs to be stressed about now. A mama here gave me wonderful advice when I was worried about dd2's paci... basically she said to just be very aware of when you give your babe the paci. Is it only to soothe that "extra" need to suck or is it offered whenever baby is fussy? If "get the paci" is the first thought when babe is fussy then you might try other soothing techniques first. But otherwise she'll give it up when she is ready.
 

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I've read a lot about pacifiers (not just bottles) affecting mouth and teeth position and causing problems. That being said, you have to do what you feel is best for your child and your family. If you are wanting to get rid of the pacifier, you could try offering her your finger instead. I am sorry that someone close to you had you doubting your decisions and instincts when your little one was born.
 
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