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I'm sure this has been discussed here on MDC more than once, but I wouldn't know where to start the search. So, let me present my issue if you will <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
Last night DP and I were having a discussion about spanking, along with our roomate (DP's cousin). We were all spanked as children. DP and cuz are firm on the beliefe that spanking is a good way to punish LO's for wrong doings. I am VERY anti spank. They told me thier reasons, I told them mine... it was a bit loud, but definately not heated. Fast forward to the near end of that conversation when DD2 pulls a chair out from DS and he gets hurt. At that moment DP gets up and swats DD2 on the behind 3 good swats. I was infuriated, to say the least <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked"> I told DP that he was disrespectful and had invalidated my feelings towards spanking when he got up from the discussion we were having about it and spanked DD. He raised his voice and stormed out. He came in a couple of times to "apologize" but it was more like giving excuses. Told me he lost his cool and he didn't even think about what we were talking about. I told him that was the reason enough to not spank... because he is doing it out of anger and "loosing his cool". In the end the resolve was from DP saying "Fine! You do all the diciplining from now on. i have tried not to spank and it doesn't phase DD2 (who is constantly pushing and hitting DS. Mind you, DD2 has ASD)." Ok, the issue is, I'm a FT WOHM. He is FT SAHD. I guess I'm looking for some advice on how to go about resolving this issue when I am away so that i feel comfortable enough knowing that my LO's are not being hit while I am working hard to pay the bills. His agreement not to spank was out of anger at me, and not because he can understand that spanking is done in anger and an eye for an eye is not the answer. This is just beyond him <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 
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