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How did you end up unschooling?<br><br>
Were you always an unschooling family?<br><br>
Did you start out as more traditional homeschooler - but change direction?<br><br>
Have you ever felt called to return to more traditional homeschooling?<br><br>
I am floundering a bit. For the past 2.5 years, we have been <i>unschoolish</i>. Perhaps more hyper relaxed, child driven interests, resource rich environment with a sprinkle of mommy-led stuff.<br><br>
There are a bunch of reasons I am beginning to think we should be more structured (and there are a bunch of reasons we shouldn't.....)<br><br>
I guess I am wonderring if anyone else flip-flops between HS and US as the best path for their kids/family
 

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When ds was a toddler, I just followed him around and helped him explore most of the time. So when he hated school at age 4, we just reverted back to how we had been doing things. Ds had asked "why do things have to change?" and I realized they didn't. I read John Holt at that time and his observations really meshed with mine of ds.<br><br>
Ds was never one to do what people asked, anyway, so I can't imagine trying to do anything more structured or parent led. We'd just end up butting heads and having power struggles. Since I believe my education was pretty darn useless, though fun and interesting at times, especially at the college level where I had more control over my learning, I don't see the point of having any mandatory topics of study.<br><br>
I simply feel confident that my ds will learn what he needs to know without my pushing it. I'm sure I'd worry more if ds didn't learn things easily (not that he can read or write yet, lol).
 

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I like to tell people thatwe are unschoolers who suffer from brief moments of doubt and panic. LOL. It's always me though, never the kids. Just sometimes I think maybe they should know more, learn more, be more structured. It rarely lasts more than a few weeks. I think the kids have learned to tolerate it from me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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Dd went from traditional schooling to unschooling - we've never done any other form of homeschooling. So far it's a perfect fit.
 

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Haven't done unschooling long, but every once in a while I wish for a free school environment.<br><br>
Wouldn't it be cool, I say to myself in my daydreams, if there were these cool "community learning centers", with a gym and library and kitchen and swimming pool and meeting rooms and art spaces with all the books and supplies you can dream of, where kids and their parents could gather from 7 in the morning until 9 at night.<br><br>
Adults and teens with expertise in certain areas would post ideas to share on a bulletin board and kids and their parents could respond to learn more about the topics. People could also place ads on the bulletin board for things they'd like to learn and others would respond and offer to "teach" that topic.<br><br>
There would be informal "classes", which could be drop-in, last a week or a year, based on what the "students" wanted to learn, all organized by topic and on-demand.<br><br>
All-in-all, really cool place to "hang out", make friends, learn new things, share ideas, etc.<br><br>
Half-way between a school, a home, and a community center. I don't know who would run it. No administration, for sure. Maybe s group would fund it and run it, just keep it open, and allow the people who use it to keep it going...it would be used as needed...Better than a homeschool group, with the central location.<br><br>
THAT'S what I dream about when I vacillate between unschooling and other things.<br><br>
Most schools are too expensive, the cool montessori or other kids, where I would consider sending my son. Like, $7,000 a year expensive. I would love for him to have a cool place to go 3 times a week, where caring and kind adults would introduce new ideas and fun projects to him, allowing him autonomy in his learning, make new friends, just have "his own" experiences, but not have to be there 7-3, 5 days a week. If there was something like that, I would combine it with our usual learning routines of unschooling, somehow.
 

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Were you always an unschooling family?<br><br>
Did you start out as more traditional homeschooler - but change direction?<br><br>
Have you ever felt called to return to more traditional homeschooling?<br></div>
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When ds was 5 we enrolled him in school, not knowing that we had an option not to. School life was always in conflict with our family's values though. When we pulled him out of school, and all the benchmarks and rules and coersion of school were removed, our lives looked like what we had pre-school. The kids explored, I answered questions, we read books, played games and ds's excitement about learning gradually returned.<br><br>
We've had no desire for anything more traditional as it seems restrictive compared with what they have now.<br><br>
What are your reasons for thinking you should be more structured?
 

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<span>My kids spents some time in school before we just got fed up. We were tired of constantly having to arrange our lives around the school schedule and hours, to be given "permission" to decide if my own children could be absent, constant "good grades" pressure and rewards/punishment stuffs, bored kids, etc. I started toying with the idea and then just asked the kids <i>"Do you want to leave school and do it on our own?"</i> They were totally on board.</span><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<span>At heart anyway <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"></span><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<span>Not really. We probably did more schooly looking things initially out of habit, but the kids were never required to do any of it.</span><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<span>I wouldn't if you paid me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></span>
 

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My son was being pushed to he wayside in elementary school because of reading problems. No teacher wanted to help him. So I took him out.<br><br>
When we first started hs, we were very eclectic, finding our own resources and me sweating over trying to come up with lesson plans. Then we went to curriculums and my kids hated the formats and having to do book work all day. They didn't learn anything.<br><br>
We started unschooling because my son would literally come up to me and say "Can we learn about rocks today?" And instead of saying No, go get your workbook, I said sure! We spent the day online and in some books and outside and he learned way more then being stuck in a workbook writing about things he couldn't care less about. They enjoy unschooling and that is what matters to me. They are learning, I can see it.<br><br>
Would I go back to traditional? No.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">How did you end up unschooling?<br><br>
Were you always an unschooling family?<br><br>
Did you start out as more traditional homeschooler - but change direction?<br><br>
Have you ever felt called to return to more traditional homeschooling?<br><br>
I guess I am wonderring if anyone else flip-flops between HS and US as the best path for their kids/family</div>
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We ended up unschooling when we read the Unschooling Handbook and realized that the stuff we remembered best we learned on our own initiative, because we were interested.<br><br>
I don't think we were always an unschooling family. We've always encouraged our kids to investigate the world, but for the first 3 years of motherhood, I believed all the worst stereotypes about homeschooling.<br><br>
I briefly dabbled with the Letter of the Week curriculum, and it was a solid miss. My daughter (rightly) treated me like I was nuts when I tried to get her to sit down and do the schoolish activities. It felt like an artificial way to relate to my kid.<br><br>
I guess I kind of hope that some more schoolish tasks work their way into our days by the time my kids are high school aged. For now this is definitely the right way for us to homeschool.<br><br>
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