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<p>Ds is 6, and he does not know what he wants for Christmas.  Dh and I are going to give him an MP3 player that ds knows we have set aside for him at some point (I know - what 6 year old needs an MP3?  But he doesn't get tv or video games and he loves music, so I know he will love this).  This gift has to be from us (not Santa) because ds knows that we have one.</p>
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<p>The problem is, we still do Santa, and I know we only have a couple of years left for that.  Yesterday, he asked Santa for "Peace and Joy" for Christmas.  I LOVE that he said this, instead of a litany of material gifts.  But how does Santa <em>deliver</em> Peace and Joy?  I'm trying to think of something Santa could leave for ds that would represent and bring Peace and Joy, along with a note saying what a wonderful sentiment that is.  Does that make sense?  Any ideas???</p>
 

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<p>Hi Mama,</p>
<p>Can you ask you son about it some more...?</p>
<p>I think of spending family time together (making cookies, playing board games, having fun together) good quality family time as a moment of "peace and joy."  Or go on a nature walk and find peace in the quiet.... or joy through adopting a pet.</p>
<p>Good luck!</p>
<p>~maddymama</p>
 

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<p>A gift card with instructions to buy certain songs about peace and joy?</p>
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<p>A "happy day" book?</p>
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<p>A peace sign and a smiley face magnet?  A tshirt with those two things on it?</p>
 

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<p>I would adopt a pet. Totally. Absolutely. You could bring peace and joy to...a puppy :)</p>
 

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<p>Maybe you could do a donation to an organization you think he would be interested in like UNICEF. I don't really know if six year olds would appreciate something like that but it sounds like you have a big hearted little guy so maybe that's an option, or an option alongside an actual tangible gift for him. If you were to do a donation to UNICEF, the book "Children Just Like Me" (or the other ones in the series) may be neat and help him understand just how the donation would help spread peace and joy.</p>
 

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<p>I think a pet (like a pair of fish) would be a way cute idea - if you're up for it.  A plant could be nice too (peace lily?).</p>
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<p>I'd check in with him to see what his concept of this is a bit more - but something like a beautiful nature photo (of something that's a favorite) could fit, or a window crystal - peaceful & calm with the potential of making joyful rainbows - could also.</p>
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<p>Heck, right now 'peace & joy' would be a box of donuts (hee hee - hey, that could work out too if he likes donuts).</p>
 

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<p>Perhaps something along the lines of <a href="http://www.heifer.org/#" target="_blank">Heifer International</a>? They will send him a little card thanking him for his donation and 6 magazines a year with beautiful stories about the families that they help. You could get him a little, stuffed animal to remind him of his joyful gift to others.</p>
 

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<p>What about a plant (alone or along with some of the other donation ideas which would be great if he understands that concept!!) Especially a plant that flowers or transforms in some way...</p>
 

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<p>I like the donation a lot. My son contribute 1/3 of weekly allowance and all monetary gifts to the local no kill shelter.  Any kind of organization  that help others brings peace and joy to those people.</p>
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<p>However one thing you may want to gently probe is if he asking for that because of something around him.  Has he overheard adults talking about the war or the economy?  Has he been exposed (even peripherally) to what is happening Haiti.  Is friend or family member sick or getting divorced? Has there been fighting or discourse in the his immediate world?</p>
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<p>My son was a very sensitive 6 year. What stated our interest in the no kill shelter started in a subtle way. Unbeknownst to me my son had been reading  a flyer on a bulletin board while I was checking out groceries.  It had the caption "The lucky ones come to us" and it went on to explain the organization. Nothing graphic *at all* but the clearly identified themselves as a no kill shelter. He never mentioned the flyer to me at all</p>
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<p>Fast forward  and  for  weeks my son would not let our dogs out of his sight.  The boy who was loath to take the dogs out in the rain was suddenly volunteering to do it. He started asking questions about strange dogs we would see walking down the street, wondering whether they had a homes. Now this was subtle behavior, no red flags on our end, but it was different. I should have listened more  It wasn't until a neighbor lost their dog,  put up flyers and was later turned into a shelter.  My son lost it, hysterical.  Wanting to know if the dog would be killed, which shelter was he in, was he OK.  We kept explaining that the dog was fine and had been returned to his family. That is when it all came pouring out.  The poor kid had been freaked out about the flyer and learning that some shelters do kills animals but he kept internalizing it. If I had been more in tune with his reaction to our dogs etc maybe we would have talked about it before. <span><img alt="greensad.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="width:15px;height:15px;"></span></p>
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<p><span>Anyway not saying that there is anything underlying with your son's request but sometimes sensitive kids have a different way of articulating their fears and maybe asking for peace and joy is one of them</span></p>
 

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<p>Could you take him on some sort of trip? We're going to the beach the day after Christmas and I suspect my trip will be full of "peace and joy." Maybe some sort of trip or experience would bring that. A trip to a botanical garden, national forest or anywhere beautiful may work. </p>
 

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<p>Maybe a kids yoga class? That's peaceful for some people. I do like the idea of a donation and a book about the place he'd donated to,like the UNICEF thing.</p>
 

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<p>Just figured I'd update with what we chose.  We decided to "adopt a dolphin" for ds.  He loves loves dolphins and knowing that he has helped contribute a happy life for dolphins and more education about them, I think will bring him peace and joy.  We'll put a couple of dolphin themed items under the tree, along with a certificate and a note from Santa.</p>
 

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<p>What a great update! I love the idea. </p>
 

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