[tbavrbab]

Rule #1: NEVER expect them to have good news.

Rule #2: "Lifestyle changes" (i.e. no household chores and resting lots) doesn't get ANY easier the third time around.

Rule #3: Modified Bedrest, by any other name, still sucks!

Can *you* figure out how my appointment went?

And yes it was JUST that good.

No, I'm not sick yet. That's the stupid part!! I'm doing all of this in the hopes that it MIGHT prevent me from delivering even earlier and being even more sick than before.

::grumble:: fine fine fine...but how the heck am I going to take care of TWO kids, one whom is autistic?! Seriously?! ::sigh:: I know "do what you have to do" but this bites.

The peri is worried about me. He says I've got too much on my plate and that I'm doing too much. I not doing anything but what I HAVE to do!

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[octobermoon]

I'm sorry mama.

that really is tough.

 

[confustication]

*hugs*

Hopefully you can find peace with what you need to do to care for yourself, and what you need to do to care for your family. I was on 'modified bedrest' throughout much of my last pregnancy- only, I was also the only income for the household... my docs were infuriated that I wouldn't stop working (I worked sitting at a desk) but it really wasn't an option at that point.

Listen to your body, and take care of yourself.

 

[preemiemamarach]

I feel you, mama. I will be on bed rest at some point, and have been 'threatened' with hospital bedrest because I work FT and have a SN toddler at home. Well, my toddler is in and out of the hospital, so unless we can room together, I can't do hospital bedrest! Ah well. I just take it a day at a time now. That's all any of us can do, right?

 

[mom2tig99Nroo03]

((((hugs))))

 

[Lisa1970]

I have 2 children with ASD and 2 other children, and I homeschool and my doctor wants me to do very little. But I am loving it!!!! Someone else cooks, someone else cleans, I don't even have to get up in the morning. I wonder how I will handle it when I am not pregnant anymore.

DH cleans before and after work. He makes breakfast and dinner and any other meal. He does laundry. I think he is nesting or something.

I guess I am not much help. But I worked so hard in past pregnancies and I am loving it this time.

 

[Spring Sun]

MY fil is a perinatalogist, and the stories they tell are hard to listen to. He automatically assumes that thigns are bad. It is the total opposite of a midwife, who assumes you are good until there is a reason to think otherwise. Don't even ask about his reation to seeing my home water birth video from ds, his face was priceless!

Hang in there!

 

[Lisa1970]

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Originally Posted by Spring Sun MY fil is a perinatalogist, and the stories they tell are hard to listen to. He automatically assumes that thigns are bad. It is the total opposite of a midwife, who assumes you are good until there is a reason to think otherwise. Don't even ask about his reation to seeing my home water birth video from ds, his face was priceless! Hang in there!

LOL..I would have loved to have seen his face in that!

 

[tbavrbab]

Seriously, when does he get it all done??? My husband is gone before the kids and I get up at 7:30am, and doesn't get home until 6pm...and the kids start their bedtime routine at 7pm to be in bed by 8pm. Which means I have to cook before he gets home. Then we clean up dinner, try to straighten the toys up a little bit, and of course fight the boy FOREVER.

For example....it is after 9pm and we're STILL trying to get our 6year old in bed....it only takes about 2 hours of him screaming and pounding and smashing and destroying things and us going in and cleaning up the mess and making sure he didn't injure himself THIS time....he comes up with SOMETHING that absolutely MUST be done before he can go to bed, tonight it's the white blanket (which is on the floor) but it MUST be on the bed and he MUST be covered with it exactly so. He threw it to the floor b/c it wasn't on him JUST right, so we refused to pick it up for him. So he's throwing a hissy fit. Even if we DID the blanket JUST right, he'd come up with SOMETHING else, his story didn't have exactly ___ number of words, or it didn't rhyme (or did depending), or it wasn't the one he wanted (even though he picked it out)...the list of excuses is neverending...and when you won't fix every single thing it's the pounding, hitting, screaming, etc.

So by the time we're done with that, we're both exhausted and we check our forums and try to relax and maybe even play a game before we collapse in bed - Exhausted and wondering WHAT we were thinking when we got pregnant when we have a child this crazy and impossible to deal with...

The only activity I'm allowed is homeschooling my son...and oh YEAH fun...yet more arguments and screaming and kicking and hitting and destruction....unfortunately the people most often getting the brunt of the beating is my 2 year old or myself.

Seriously...how on EARTH do you manage with *2* like this?? Cause I'm ready to wring his neck or mine!

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Originally Posted by Lisa1970 I have 2 children with ASD and 2 other children, and I homeschool and my doctor wants me to do very little. But I am loving it!!!! Someone else cooks, someone else cleans, I don't even have to get up in the morning. I wonder how I will handle it when I am not pregnant anymore. DH cleans before and after work. He makes breakfast and dinner and any other meal. He does laundry. I think he is nesting or something. I guess I am not much help. But I worked so hard in past pregnancies and I am loving it this time.