For SAHM or SAHD, how much personal responsibility do you require of your partner? I told my husband that I, of course, am going to pick up my own messes and I understand that I'm responsible for teaching the kids to do their own and helping them. I also told him that dinner, dishes and common cleaning like the bathroom and mopping would be mine. But I asked him to be responsible for picking up his clothes from the floor, wiping the counter when he spills something, sweeping the floor when he tracks in copious amounts of dirt, swiping out the sink after he shaves, wiping the toilet if he pees on it, and other little personal messes. I feel I shouldn't have to clean up after him in those ways, especially since I've already cleaned it. Am I being fair? He says it's "your job".