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I am wondering what other people's thoughts on my situation are. I have an 18 mo old with a new due in March. I also work full time out the home. DS has cut way back on nursing during the day. Actually, he doesn't even ask during the day much unless he is tired. My milk has pretty much dried up. I still nurse him before bed and to get him back to sleep at night/morning, which is usually 3-4x. I used to nurse him before I left for work and as soon as I got home. I don't really want him to totally wean but I might be ok with that too. I think that it may be little early (young). He can be very independent at times. I am assuming that he will pick back up when I am home after the baby but maybe he'll completely wean by then. Should I encourage him to nurse more on weekends and when I am home to keep an established nursing relationship?
 

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First~Congrats on your pregnancy!<br><br>
As young as he is I would encourage him to nurse more when you are together. I nursed my now 2 year old through my pregnancy and I'm so glad I did. I'm pretty sure my milk was almost gone at one point, but they aren't nursing for nutrition alone and he still nursed often. Nik nursed a lot more than he was before I got pregnant once Nate was here, but now that Nate is 3 months old he is slowing down to his "normal" pattern of 5-9 times a day. I would be afraid if he wasn't nursing very often that when your milk dries up he would wean on his own. Like I said, I think you're right to think he's just too young.<br><br>
Also, imagine how hard it would be to wean him and then have him want to nurse when the baby arrives. The jealousy would be overwhelming! Nik is so wonderful with his little brother and doesn't mind sharing his nummies at all. But if he had been recently weaned we would have been in for one heck of a battle, I'm positive of that!<br><br>
I apologize for the jumbled, not well thought out response. I'm pretty tired today. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Good luck!
 

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I would definatley encourage him to nurse more, nursing through pregnancy and then tandem nurse.<br><br>
BUT, I strongly feel that children should be nursed a *minimum* of 2 years, so you know where I am coming from.
 

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I am so glad to see this thread, I am wondering the same thing, but my dd is even younger than yours, 13 months, and I also work full time. I am going to keep nursing whenever she wants. But I am considering night weaning at some point before the new baby is born. I cannot imagine nursing two at night and dd still nurses a lot at night. Any thoughts on night weaning the older one but tandem nursing during the day when the new baby comes?<br><br>
Also, my milk supply is already drying up, I am pumping half what I did a few weeks ago. And I am only 6 weeks along. Is this normal?<br><br>
Sorry to hijack your thread, hope some of my questions apply to you too, OP.
 

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KateMary: I think everybody's milk supply and changes during PG are pretty variable. I think that you might be able to nurse two at night but it's hard because you work and you will need your sleep. I also feel that if you do make changes it is better done before the baby so older one doesn't feel a resentment toward the baby. I think the nightweaning is very a tough personal issue.<br>
I still haven't figured out the nighttime thing. Since I work I really don't want to nightwean. I am not sure I will need to though. His sleep is a little better these days. DS didn't nurse all night. When he woke up fully one time, he just came over snuggled with me. That the other thing about little ones, they change so much in just a few months. It's hard to predict now what he will need when the babe comes.<br>
I think I will try to encourage him to nurse a little more during the day. Maybe I will go back to a quick nursing before I leave in the AM and when I get home at night. Otherwise, if he does nightwean we'll only have the before sleep nursing. He rarely falls asleep to nursing.
 

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I am due in April and have a 14 month old. Despite nursing her all the time, my milk has pretty much dried up too. She never really wants to nurse anymore, unless she is sleepy and wants to go to bed, or if she gets hurt. And then Im guessing she is just sucking and nothing is coming out. The good news (for me) is that she's not waking up in the middle of the night to nurse anymore.. I guess she figures why get up when im sucking for nothing. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I had no intentions of weaning this early.. she's still so young!! I think when my milk comes back after baby is born she may pick up again. But, I bought this stuff.. its called More Milk Two, by Motherlove. The lactation consultant said it is supposed to help with milk supply when your bf while pregnant. I tried it but I just cant stand the taste. It tastes like tea, and for some reason I just dont like tea. Anyway, if you want it I will send it to you. It is in a dropper bottle and I used a few drops out of the bottle once, and I was very careful with it. I used it to drop into a glass of water. (some people drop it right under their tongue) I know its still good and it was sanitarily used. Anyway, if you want it just PM me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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Congratulations on your pregnancy!<br><br>
It would probably be easier on you and your ds to keep on nursing...especially at this age. And yes, I would suggest encouraging nursing, as IMHO babes should nurse at least until age 2. Nursing gives your little one time to reconnect with you after a day at work in an intimate way that can't be duplicated by other means. It helps you take time out of your busy day to give one-on-one attention to your child and gives you the opportunity to sit and relax for a little while. Nursing through pregnancy helps the nursling better understand that there is a baby on the way and tandem nursing helps greatly with their bond after birth.<br><br>
Many moms experience a drop in their supply during pregnancy, some "dry up" and some maintain a good supply. It can also vary at different times during pregnancy. Many nurslings will continue to nurse no matter how much/little milk there is.<br><br>
I suggest reading: "Nursing Through Pregnancy and Beyond" by the Breastfeeding Mothers' Association of Australia, "Adventures in Tandem Nursing" by Hilary Flower and the chapter on pregnant and tandem nursing in the revised edition of "Mothering Your Nursing Toddler" by Norma Jane Bumgarner. I also suggest visiting <a href="http://www.kellymom.com" target="_blank">www.kellymom.com</a> and doing a search for "pregnant nursing" or "nursing through pregnancy" - there is a LOT of good info there!<br><br>
My personal experience: When my oldest ds was 9 months old I got pg with ds2. I nursed through pregnancy and tandem nursed. My boys have a VERY close bond and are best friends. When ds2 was 15 months old I got pg with dd. I was tandem nursing ds1 and ds2 and continued to do so through dd's pregnancy. I then triandem nursed (nursed 3 siblings of varying ages) ds1, ds2 and ds3. Ds1 self-weaned on his fifth birthday. I then tandem nursed ds2 and dd - and tandem nursed them through ds3's pregnancy. I'm currently triandem nursing ds2 (5 yrs old), dd (3 yrs old) and ds3 (5.5 weeks old). All of my children have an incredibly close bond. My older three are constantly asking to hold or help with ds3. The only sibling rivalry in our family has to do with who gets to take care of the baby! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> Ds1, now almost 7, will lay across my lap and be a "nursing pillow" for ds3, just so he can be in on his little brother's nursing experience!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/luxlove.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="throb"> what a sweet, caring thing to do!
 

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Just wanted to comment on the nightweaning issue:<br><br>
Although my 22 mo DD was mostly nightweaned when her sister was born, I was SO happy to nurse both babies in the middle of the night during those first few weeks. I tend to be VERY engorged when my milk comes in, and it was so nice to have an older nursling who could drain my breasts effectively when I was hurting. After a few months, when we had settled into life with another baby, I did encourage my older DD to cut back on her night nursing, and it went well.
 
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