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DH's coworker/good friend and his wife are expecting twins in October. They had their u/s yesterday to find out the sex and all of that. Well, she called and had him pulled out of a meeting and go to the hospital. One of the babies is still alive but stopped growing and won't grow?? and the other doesn't have hands or feet and other possible problems. I am so upset for them. Each baby has its own sac and the doctor said this is incredibly rare that both would have such deformities. They went in for genetic testing today but I think they are going to terminate the pregnancy. I feel sooooo bad. On top of it, DH and I are due any day with our baby and their boss is having a baby next month. Ugh. All of these babies coming. These twin were unexpected for them (they have a dd who is almost three and weren't really planning on anymore children) but I know they both came to be very happy about it (they even went out and bought a new minivan for three carseats) and this is just such a shock.

It really puts these last few weeks in perspective for me. I won't be so quick to complain.

I hope we all have very HEALTHY babies!!!!
 

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They are going to terminate the pregnancy? Or just considering it?Even if the ungrowing one dies,the one without feet and hands could live a happy, full life.And both may live.Odd things happen and it just becomes normal in those families.I'm sure there is a great support network out there for families with these experiences.
 

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They are going to terminate the pregnancy? Or just considering it?Even if the ungrowing one dies,the one without feet and hands could live a happy, full life.And both may live.Odd things happen and it just becomes normal in those families.I'm sure there is a great support network out there for families with these experiences.


Sending prayers.....
 

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I am not sure what they are doing. They were having extensive gentic testing and amniocentesis done yesterday to get a better idea of what the full extent is. I talked to a friend last night who said she knows someone who had really bad u/s results showing lots of limb deformities and the baby was born healthy, so I am keeping them in my thoughts that there is hope!!
 

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So here's hoping everything is all as wonderful as she can imagine!

What a difficult situation.Ultrasounds seem to cause so much confusion,rather than clarity,sometimes!
Huge hugs,dinner for a week, and a big batch of brownies!

How is she feeling physically?
I do not envy your position in this either.It's so hard to feel all your own joy in a situation like this,without a pinch of guilt.(My close neighbor and I were due at the same time,and she had a stillborn 2 days before I had my healthy home birth...I see her weekly,and still keep up with her baby's time line,we don't get to talk about it much,though.I still feel a bit of guilt enjoying my baby while she can't.)
I hope she has and gets the support she needs for whatever out come-her life will never be the same.Sending all my love to all involved.

(a batch of brownies and ice cream to you too,any flavor you want!
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