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SO I could make a list of the million things I am excited about with baby...and all the fun stuff...etc. However, right now my back hurts....I tried running today and somehow from yesterday to today my ability to do so disappeared....none of my pants button....and in the course of about the last 4 days I went from being able to see my abs to toting a full on pregnancy belly.<br><br>
Did I forget all of this from my first pregnancy? Am I the only one, that despite being ecstatic, sit back on occasion going...dear lord what is happening? lol <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Anyone else need to vent?
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I already get a sore back from sleeping. I have to change positions about a zillion times during the night. And I'm not even out of my first trimester!!! I think it gets worse every pregnancy. I don't know how people have more than a handful of kids.
 

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Don't forget the actual 'pissing' part, too - no, really, I just loooove getting up multiple times per night to pee. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I hear all these women calling their future babies "the bean", "the bump", "the whatever cute name you can think of".<br><br>
Me, I call it "the parasite". <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
So, yeah, you're not alone by any means!
 

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The Bean...lol. My boss is pregnant and calls hers "The Nugget". It is ALMOST out of hand. Ya know it's funny...with my first baby I was not in shape and didn't feel like my body was invaded at all. Since then I took up weightlifting as a hobby, then career (personal trained full time), and I notice my perspective is different this time. I know it sound selfish, but after working so hard to get in shape, and seeing it all disappear in the course of a week, is really disheartening to me. Worth the trade, but totally not an emotion I planned on having.
 

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Funny that this is here! I just posted something about talking to the hubby about him stressing me out.<br><br>
Girls, I totally screwed up. When I found out I was finally pregnant, I was SO happy. I could not wait to have my first homebirth.<br><br>
Now I feel like, WHAT DID I DO? Everything has come crashing down around us. The house, the boys, hubby, myself, our pets, volunteering... everyone and everything is suffering.<br><br>
I am even doubting myself all across the board. I feel super lousy and can't seem to get ahead of the nausea and fatigue anymore. I am a complete mess. I don't call friends or family or even WRITE them because I don't have the energy to talk.<br><br>
I am no weight lifter, but I was an avid walker and hiker and tonight I could barely walk around my garden without needing to sit down. Everything has come to an end.<br><br>
I had NO idea a few weeks ago that I was going to be feeling this way. This sucks.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Don't forget the actual 'pissing' part, too - no, really, I just loooove getting up multiple times per night to pee. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I hear all these women calling their future babies "the bean", "the bump", "the whatever cute name you can think of".<br><br>
Me, I call it "the parasite". <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
So, yeah, you're not alone by any means!</div>
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I call ours "the monster" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> totally joking...well...mostly <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I hear all these women calling their future babies "the bean", "the bump", "the whatever cute name you can think of".<br><br>
Me, I call it "the parasite". <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"></div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> With my first pregnancy I was simply APPALLED when I heard a pregnant woman say that. Today, I called this one a parasite. And I totally meant it at the time! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Now I feel like, WHAT DID I DO? Everything has come crashing down around us. The house, the boys, hubby, myself, our pets, volunteering... everyone and everything is suffering.</div>
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Earlier today, while DH and I were lying in bed (him with an eye injury, me with general pregnancy/non-sleeping-toddler malaise) while DD did swan dives off the headboard onto the bed between us, DH said to me, "How the heck are we going to handle two?" I totally lost it on him because I DON'T KNOW!!! This pregnancy was very much wanted and we were TTC, but now I'm like... ACK! Wait!<br><br>
I have a MW appt tomorrow, where hopefully we'll hear the heartbeat, and I am clinging to that because hopefully that will make the sickness, exhaustion, moodiness, etc a little bit more worth it.<br><br>
With DD I had no sickness, I could nap every afternoon after work, I was veg so I ate pretty well and just generally had a fantastic pregnancy. I was one of those obnoxious pregnant women who flitted around saying "Oh, I LOVE being pregnant, it's SO wonderful, I can't WAIT to have another!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">: I wish I could go back in time and slap me.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">The Bean...lol. My boss is pregnant and calls hers "The Nugget". It is ALMOST out of hand. Ya know it's funny...with my first baby I was not in shape and didn't feel like my body was invaded at all. Since then I took up weightlifting as a hobby, then career (personal trained full time), and I notice my perspective is different this time. I know it sound selfish, but after working so hard to get in shape, and seeing it all disappear in the course of a week, is really disheartening to me. Worth the trade, but totally not an emotion I planned on having.</div>
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I lift only as a hobby and I was JUST getting to a new level of strength and tone when we decided to TTC. The first few weeks I'd lift and feel queasy but do it anyway.... Now I just haven't been in 2 weeks because I can barely get DS in the car to get to the gym let alone lift weights. I'm SO sad about my newly-defined tricepts melting back into my arms <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I never really got my abs back after TItus, so the fluff multiplying isn't AS bad as it could be.. but still. I feel ya.<br><br>
Other general moans? DH works at home which I've found rather annoying lately because he doesn't schedule himself. He's supposed to give Titus a bath and has chosed to do so in the morning, and then complains that Titus gets up too late and it's at an inconvenient time of the work day... The boy gets up at 9:30 like clockwork! You can't "schedule" 20 minutes in there? I sleep as late as I can which means I wake up when DS does and I have only the time it takes for him to get a bath to eat and take a shower if I want to look presentable before noon and not throw up.
 

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Oh what a well-timed thread. An open invitation to piss and moan? YAY!<br><br>
I, too, was making great strides with my physical person when I got pg...I was finding some peace with food...some of the weight I gained when I met DH and couldn't seem to lose was starting to drop off, and I was really getting to a new level with my yoga, going every day, when boom...I'm not allowed to come til my second tri, and with my knees and my bad foot it's the only exercise I can do right now. So I'm watching myself get FAT again. I always knew with my body image issues that pregnancy would be hard, and I keep trying to replace the word fat with pregnant, but last night I tried to go out and by some clothes and my pre-pregnancy size didn't work in the maternity. Augh. And then all of a sudden I noticed the dimpling on my arms...which begs the question, why are so many maternity clothes sleeveless...I digress...and then, well I caught a glimpse in the mirror and looked not just huge, but OLD.<br><br>
(sigh)<br><br>
I must snap out of this and remember that this is a life inside of me. A baby, a gift, something we wanted very much. But I feel like my body isn't my own anymore. I'm worried I'll be 300 pounds by the time this is all over!<br><br>
On top of which, the exhaustion...I had just started practicing my violin again in an effort to get back in shape because my goal is in about a year's time is an audition nearby for a much better job and I figure if I do just an hour a day I'll be able to do it, baby or no. HA. Enter first trimester exhaustion, have I practiced? I barely learned our new music for this morning in time.<br><br>
It's all going to work out...I can only do what I can do!<br><br>
Thank you, ever so much...I don't know if you enjoyed reading my vent but I so enjoyed typing it!
 

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SOOOOO glad I am not alone here. While we are on it....I was single mom (divorced 3 years now) to an 8 year old....was in a relationship....broke up....finally got bipolar meds right....then found out I was pregnant. Off meds, trying to work things out with the ex-bf, now turned current bf and baby daddy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">...and explaining it all to my daughter. WHEW!!!<br><br>
Ok, I am done now. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Off to start a fitness thread I think. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">With DD I had no sickness, I could nap every afternoon after work, I was veg so I ate pretty well and just generally had a fantastic pregnancy. I was one of those obnoxious pregnant women who flitted around saying "Oh, I LOVE being pregnant, it's SO wonderful, I can't WAIT to have another!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">: I wish I could go back in time and slap me.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Wait, are you me? Because I could have written this word for word.<br><br>
I used to come home from work at 3 PM, sleep until DH came home at 7:30, then eat dinner and go back to bed at 9 PM or so. No wonder I was fresh as a flippin' daisy.
 

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Hugs to all of you. Although feeling better than I did with DD, I still find that my energy is flagging.<br><br>
And I totally sympathize with everyone who was starting to feel in shape and then - well, this happened. I was really enjoying having muscles and then I stopped going to the gym for 5 weeks and now, well, muscles disappear quick! I've started back last week, only two times a week but I'm using 5 pound weights instead of 8s and just hoping to keep that up for the next 6 months.<br><br>
My main complaint though is that DD is nursing constantly at night, for hours at a time, and it HURTS!!!! So badly that I've had to take her off the last two nights and soothe her to sleep while she cried. I know she's not hungry, just doesn't understand why she can't nurse all the time, and I'm not sure how to explain it to her, as she's still quite young. My poor poor nipples are very happy to be at work this morning, even if the rest of me is not particularly thrilled about that.
 

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This baby is kicking my ass....... really struggling! just trying to keep "my eye on the prize" as a friend of mine who had hyperemesis for the whole nine with BOTH her kids...used to say!
 

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Hi, I'm 11 weeks pregnant. Quite often I find myself thinking "what have i done"!?<br><br>
I've got two boys, six years old is quite manageable, he does his thing, but the toddler (almost 2 and a 1/2) wants to be lifted, wants to nurse, wants to play... and I work full time. And so does my husband. ANd he says he is tired of listening to me complaining all the time: "it's a Speech thing" he says, if you say you feel bad, you will feel bad. HA! Go figure! I need pity and commiseration, I really neet to be baby sitted. But nobody does it, i'm not a baby, right?<br><br>
Ahhhhh, nausea and vomiting don't stop and I need that someone tells me it's indeed going to stop. I even found myself looking in the Pregnancy archives (nov 2004) to checkl when nausea had stopped the during the other pregnancy...
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Ahhhhh, nausea and vomiting don't stop and I need that someone tells me it's indeed going to stop. I even found myself looking in the Pregnancy archives (nov 2004) to checkl when nausea had stopped the during the other pregnancy...</div>
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AND??? What did you find??? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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That's funny- I've been checking out earlier DDCs to see when life should get better.<br><br>
Unfortunately, it seems like we just exchange one set of problems for the next!
 

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Ivanhoe, you're 11 weeks, the nausea will probably stop soon, don't you think? I hear around 12 weeks usually. Sometimes sooner, for me it stopped last Friday at 9 weeks. (But it didn't start til about 6 weeks...I was lucky with the nausea this time I think.)<br><br>
It's a speech thing? Argh. So if I say "I'm not nauseous or tired" I won't be? Ya, right. Men, they really don't get it.<br><br>
I LOVE the pissing and moaning thread!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Just had 2nd Dr appt. First at 9 weeks, no heartbeat. Second now at 11 weeks, no heartbeat. bah Humbug.
 

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I need to snark about my husband. I appreciate that he is doing more around the house, but honestly... we went out to a local bar and grill type place. I had a sparkling water and he had a few beers. I suddenly felt nauseous and he said "ok, I will have one more and we will go". I said "you know, I REALLY feel barfy." and he said "I will make it a quick one". Well, we went out to the car and I promptly got sick on the curb.<br><br>
I also cannot get him to understand why I am tired all the time. *sigh* I just want him to have one day being pregnant...<br><br>
Oh- and there's more! My mom, who is obsessed with her weight and trying to lose it, calls me daily to tell me "oh, I bought some cottage cheese and blah blah blah" and I have to beg her to please not talk about food. Especially cottage cheese. It happens to be one of my aversions... she seems to forget daily.<br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Just had 2nd Dr appt. First at 9 weeks, no heartbeat. Second now at 11 weeks, no heartbeat. bah Humbug.</div>
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I went today at nine weeks. No heartbeat for me either <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
That being said, I AM TIRED OF BEING TIRED AND SICK OF BEING SICK.<br><br>
I also think, "what have I done?!" because my life with three kids was just getting EASY. The youngest is 5 on Sunday, I have extra money coming in from jobs I do on the side (housecleaning and working lunch at the kids' school which will be history when I get huge), and they pretty much entertain themselves most of the day.<br><br>
What am I going to do when a newborn gets here!?! WAAAAAAAAAH! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
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